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EmGee · Joined: 14 Mar 2014 Posts: 38

I won't say money is a low priority for me but I've never been very tolerant of jobs I hate. Luckily I've been able to find jobs I enjoyed and I stay only as long as I like them. Within reason, of course, because I don't just walk out because I had a bad day. More like several bad months and I'll start looking for something else. My maximum time working for one company has been 3 years.

These days, having decent savings now allows me to quit and spend up to 6 months to find a new gig.

skarper · Joined: 12 Oct 2006 Posts: 477

Yeah - saving some reserve cash and having low overheads is a huge help in avoiding workplace misery.

It can be difficult if you marry a local and all kinds of expectations appear.

A note on dating Vietnamese women is that they don't as a rule 'date'. A few do of course but it is not normal yet - I actually think it never will be.

Vietnamese women expect to get married - that is the unspoken understanding on her part if you see the same girl more than a few times and especially if you meet any family or friends.

Vietnamese [Asian?] culture has a solution for men too young/too old/too poor to get married - which is prostitution. Often if you find someone willing to 'date' there will be an element of 'compensation' involved.

But not always - times are changing and especially in the bigger cities where women are living away from family and friends they can do what they want.

But go careful. Don't break any hearts/ruin any lives and equally don't get ensnared and have your bank balance looted.

EmGee · Joined: 14 Mar 2014 Posts: 38

Thanks for the advice, Skarper. I've been fleeced a couple of times so I'm really wary of women with solely financial intentions.

I suppose it could be tricky for me in Vietnam because I'm not really looking to get married but I would like a long term relationship. That sounds hard to find. Maybe I'll encourage my Mongolian girlfriend to join me, or at least have some conjugal visits.

Another option is expats from other Asian countries. I believe Philippinas work as teachers in Vietnam, don't they?

bentanddisfunctional · Joined: 19 Oct 2010 Posts: 85

I believe Philippinas work as teachers in Vietnam, don't they?[/quote]

Yes- and some quite fit ones too,the ethnic chinese ones anyway.

If you find one without a child let me know Laughing

skarper · Joined: 12 Oct 2006 Posts: 477

I would advise anyone to be totally up front about marriage intentions when dating Vietnamese women - they will make assumptions that may be totally different from what you mean.

If you are willing to consider older women who may have been divorced and may or may not have children already then I think a long term relationship without getting married may be more achievable.

But this is Asia - live is harsh especially on women. If you do manage to date a Vietnamese girl for a while and don't get married she may or may not be a prostitute when you date her but there is a good chance she will be afterwards.

We should all think about that before we 'dabble'.

EmGee · Joined: 14 Mar 2014 Posts: 38

Shame about the dating scene. I guess I'll stick with expat dating or be brutally honest with any viet females. But, in my experience, telling a woman that you're honestly just interested in dating makes them just work harder to try to change your mind.

JoeKing · Joined: 30 Apr 2008 Posts: 519