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Panda
Joined: 25 Oct 2008
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 Posted: Mon Nov 02, 2009 10:28 pm Post subject: |
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I have been single very long and I also have lots of guy friends, so that I know men well generally.
Regarding the internet/txt message/message board flirting thing...... I don't know how further you go before regarded as unacceptable.
Some of my guy friends would talk about sex with me very often... I have several good friends who are in very stable relationships but would ask me to have sex with them all the time on internet. (I actually did once when I was single, don't blame me, girl, if he is your boyfriend~!!)
Yes, you could say I am the nastiest girl so men around me are also nasty... I swear god I never made any movement on any of them, I have no interest in getting other girl's boyfriends...as all posters on Dave's can see as well, I don't do the "making out on public message board" thing either.
But all I experienced just made me know more and more about men...Did I trust my ex-boyfriends, yes, I did when we dated, one of my boyfriends I met him on a dating website, and he kept talking to other girls on phone and internet for several months after we started to date.
That didnt feel good at all, but I couldnt do anything, he was just human being, I would have done the same thing if I were him, everyone wants to choose the best before making the final decision. Later he turned out to be one of the most trustworthy men in the world, a really good boyfriend, we broke up later though for some other reasons.
Sorry everybody if what I said made you disgusted or scared. I believe it might be because I said something true... |
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ropebreezy
Joined: 27 Aug 2009
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| Posted: Mon Nov 02, 2009 10:56 pm Post subject: |
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| Panda wrote: |
| I have several good friends who are in very stable relationships but would ask me to have sex with them all the time on internet. (I actually did once when I was single, don't blame me, girl, if he is your boyfriend~!!) |
lol wut |
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Fox
Joined: 04 Mar 2009
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| Posted: Mon Nov 02, 2009 11:32 pm Post subject: |
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| Panda wrote: |
| Some of my guy friends would talk about sex with me very often... I have several good friends who are in very stable relationships but would ask me to have sex with them all the time on internet. (I actually did once when I was single, don't blame me, girl, if he is your boyfriend~!!) |
This reminds me of an aside I've always been confused about. Often I've heard men talk about how they'd beat the Hell out of anyone they found sleeping with their woman, even if the man didn't know the woman was dating him. Why would someone in that situation direct their anger at the man in question instead of at the woman? You know, the one who actually betrayed you? |
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morrisonhotel
Joined: 18 Jul 2009
Location: Gyeonggi-do
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| Posted: Tue Nov 03, 2009 12:30 am Post subject: |
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| Panda wrote: |
| Frankly speaking, how many of you guys here (who are reading this thread or who had posted a reply) never did things her boyfriend did while dating someone in your life. Are you totally innocent? Do you think your gf/bf should or should have dumped you? Do you consider yourself trash. |
I've never done any of the things the OP has described. If I was ever tempted to do any of those things, I'd end it beforehand. |
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Maserial
Joined: 31 Jul 2005
Location: Phantįsien
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| Posted: Tue Nov 03, 2009 8:17 am Post subject: |
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| Panda wrote: |
Some of my guy friends would talk about sex with me very often... I have several good friends who are in very stable relationships but would ask me to have sex with them all the time on internet. (I actually did once when I was single, don't blame me, girl, if he is your boyfriend~!!)
Yes, you could say I am the nastiest girl so men around me are also nasty... I swear god I never made any movement on any of them, I have no interest in getting other girl's boyfriends...as all posters on Dave's can see as well, I don't do the "making out on public message board" thing either. |
I'm not even sure what this discussion is about anymore, but you're A-OK in my book, Panda. |
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proustme
Joined: 13 Jun 2009
Location: Nowon-gu
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| Posted: Tue Nov 03, 2009 4:51 pm Post subject: |
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| Update, OP? |
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Draz
Joined: 27 Jun 2007
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| Posted: Tue Nov 03, 2009 6:38 pm Post subject: |
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| My guess is that he is just flirting for fun. Note that the messgaes relate to women asking why he hasn't "asked them". In other words he's just having fun online without it converting into reality. I doubt he has cheated on you, but if you feel betrayed then you're better off doing something about it I suppose. |
No it was "why do you ask me"? He DID ask if he could kiss them.
DTMFA |
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DrugstoreCowgirl
Joined: 08 May 2009
Location: Daegu-where the streets have no name
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| Posted: Tue Nov 03, 2009 8:17 pm Post subject: |
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| Fox wrote: |
| Panda wrote: |
| Some of my guy friends would talk about sex with me very often... I have several good friends who are in very stable relationships but would ask me to have sex with them all the time on internet. (I actually did once when I was single, don't blame me, girl, if he is your boyfriend~!!) |
This reminds me of an aside I've always been confused about. Often I've heard men talk about how they'd beat the Hell out of anyone they found sleeping with their woman, even if the man didn't know the woman was dating him. Why would someone in that situation direct their anger at the man in question instead of at the woman? You know, the one who actually betrayed you? |
It's the same thing for girls. We always hate the other woman, even though the guy is the one we should be mad at. Maybe it's just easier to be angry at someone of your own sex since you know more about their thought processes. |
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prideofidaho
Joined: 19 Mar 2008
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| Posted: Tue Nov 03, 2009 8:26 pm Post subject: |
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| DrugstoreCowgirl wrote: |
| Fox wrote: |
| Panda wrote: |
| Some of my guy friends would talk about sex with me very often... I have several good friends who are in very stable relationships but would ask me to have sex with them all the time on internet. (I actually did once when I was single, don't blame me, girl, if he is your boyfriend~!!) |
This reminds me of an aside I've always been confused about. Often I've heard men talk about how they'd beat the Hell out of anyone they found sleeping with their woman, even if the man didn't know the woman was dating him. Why would someone in that situation direct their anger at the man in question instead of at the woman? You know, the one who actually betrayed you? |
It's the same thing for girls. We always hate the other woman, even though the guy is the one we should be mad at. Maybe it's just easier to be angry at someone of your own sex since you know more about their thought processes. |
Ultimately, though, why would anyone take someone to bed when they know very well that that someone has a partner. I dunno, for me that is just the lowest of low things to do. It's the definitely of being morally bankrupt. I question why someone would be proud of that? If it were me I would feel very rotten and guilty. I would expect the woman to blame me along with her cheating boyfriend. |
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Goku
Joined: 10 Dec 2008
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| Posted: Tue Nov 03, 2009 8:43 pm Post subject: |
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Theres like 1 guy who voted no.
Bets on that it's boyfriend.
Who wouldn't dump this guy? Hell, Fry his ass, you deserve better. Infidelity is infidelity. No reason to stay unless he's rich as hell and buys you a tiffany's bracelet every other weekend.
Even if you are lonely after the breakup, there's no doubt you will find someone better. You suffer the short term, but the long term you will be much happier.
Kick him to the curb, break up the gallon of ice cream, cry for a month, find a new guy, have amazing sex, then rinse and repeat. |
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Triban
Joined: 14 Jul 2009
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| Posted: Tue Nov 03, 2009 8:43 pm Post subject: |
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| It all depends...are you giving him a hot X like X is, and if so, does it cost him more or less for the hot X that X is charging. |
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DrugstoreCowgirl
Joined: 08 May 2009
Location: Daegu-where the streets have no name
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| Posted: Tue Nov 03, 2009 8:55 pm Post subject: |
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| prideofidaho wrote: |
| DrugstoreCowgirl wrote: |
| Fox wrote: |
| Panda wrote: |
| Some of my guy friends would talk about sex with me very often... I have several good friends who are in very stable relationships but would ask me to have sex with them all the time on internet. (I actually did once when I was single, don't blame me, girl, if he is your boyfriend~!!) |
This reminds me of an aside I've always been confused about. Often I've heard men talk about how they'd beat the Hell out of anyone they found sleeping with their woman, even if the man didn't know the woman was dating him. Why would someone in that situation direct their anger at the man in question instead of at the woman? You know, the one who actually betrayed you? |
It's the same thing for girls. We always hate the other woman, even though the guy is the one we should be mad at. Maybe it's just easier to be angry at someone of your own sex since you know more about their thought processes. |
Ultimately, though, why would anyone take someone to bed when they know very well that that someone has a partner. I dunno, for me that is just the lowest of low things to do. It's the definitely of being morally bankrupt. I question why someone would be proud of that? If it were me I would feel very rotten and guilty. I would expect the woman to blame me along with her cheating boyfriend. |
Oh for sure, both parties are dishonest and rotten, but it doesn't change the fact that the girlfriend will always hate the other woman more than the boyfriend, and if a gf cheated on a guy, he will be more upset with the other guy.
It's messed up but I think it's human nature. When it happened to me, I HATED the other woman but not the ex. I think it boils down to this: you have history with your SO, you loved them, and you have a lot of fond memories with them. Often the only thing you know about the person they cheated with is that they are the one that helped end your relationship, so why shouldn't you be more mad at them? They mean nothing to you. |
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Fox
Joined: 04 Mar 2009
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| Posted: Tue Nov 03, 2009 9:00 pm Post subject: |
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| prideofidaho wrote: |
| DrugstoreCowgirl wrote: |
| Fox wrote: |
| Panda wrote: |
| Some of my guy friends would talk about sex with me very often... I have several good friends who are in very stable relationships but would ask me to have sex with them all the time on internet. (I actually did once when I was single, don't blame me, girl, if he is your boyfriend~!!) |
This reminds me of an aside I've always been confused about. Often I've heard men talk about how they'd beat the Hell out of anyone they found sleeping with their woman, even if the man didn't know the woman was dating him. Why would someone in that situation direct their anger at the man in question instead of at the woman? You know, the one who actually betrayed you? |
It's the same thing for girls. We always hate the other woman, even though the guy is the one we should be mad at. Maybe it's just easier to be angry at someone of your own sex since you know more about their thought processes. |
Ultimately, though, why would anyone take someone to bed when they know very well that that someone has a partner. |
1) Who says they necessarily know?
2) Why should you be at all responsible for commitments made by someone else?
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| I dunno, for me that is just the lowest of low things to do. |
So you think the person sleeping with a woman who has a boyfriend is worse than the woman who is cheating on her boyfriend (or vice versa for a man cheating on his girlfriend)? That's what lowest of the low means, after all. |
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Panda
Joined: 25 Oct 2008
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| Posted: Tue Nov 03, 2009 9:01 pm Post subject: |
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I felt awful after I posted my last post.
I would love to post a new one for people to talk about my BS.
I feel really sorry to i_teach_esl  |
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Fox
Joined: 04 Mar 2009
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| Posted: Tue Nov 03, 2009 9:01 pm Post subject: |
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| DrugstoreCowgirl wrote: |
| I think it boils down to this: you have history with your SO, you loved them, and you have a lot of fond memories with them. Often the only thing you know about the person they cheated with is that they are the one that helped end your relationship, so why shouldn't you be more mad at them? They mean nothing to you. |
This is actually a pretty good analysis of the psychology I think. Insightful. |
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