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[shawner88]

I ask this question because this is the second time it's happened to me. This is the latest:

I went to get my haircut, something I always dread here. I picked a new place near my home, a salon. The ajumma was completely taken off guard by me, same with her assisant. They crowded around me and spent more time asking me questions in Korean than cutting my hair. Finally, my limited Korean ran out. But no matter how many times I said "I hae moteyo," ( I don't understand) they continued to ask me again and again and again... Finally the owner ajumma called her friend who could speak English. This new woman, English name Stella, came running from across town to meet me. Huffing and puffing she sat down next to me and asked me 4,000 questions in English while my hair was being cut - painfully slowly. Finally the haircut ended with a good wash and rinse. This is where the story turns.

I wanted to leave and badly. I had already been there almost 2 hours. But Stella, who is married and has 2 sons, wanted me to eat with her and drink beer. I said no, as I wanted to go to the health club. "Oh," she said. "You use health club?" She followed me out to the hallway and asked for my number. I gave her it out of politeness and tried to go. She followed me all the way to the health club, and then to my amazement, she actually joined the health club, paying for a 3 month membership! Fortunately she didn't have any clothes with her to exericise in and finally left. That night she sent me a text message saying how happy she was to meet me. 9:00 AM next day, she's calling me. I didn't answer. She called me 3 times. Finally I answered and she asked if we could eat together that night.

That night came and she called. I tried to make a story. I said I had to go to E-mart to get a rice cooker. What a lame story, she offered to drive (which was actually convenient for me). During the ride she told me about her boring husband who is overly religious and sings gospels songs every night for 1-2 hours. She told me she wore a slip and did a salsa dance for him and he just looked at her strangely and shrugged...more stories like this followed.

Finally we got back. I got my new Cookoo Rice cooker from the trunk and other things. I shook her hand to say thanks, and she gasped, clasping my hand and saying, "I miss the feel of warm hands, and a hard body," she said looking at my chest. Then she blushed, "I sang hae?"

I chuckled and said goodbye and went home. She's called me several more times, but I live in a small town and don't need to start a scandal. I haven't answered yet. I'm not sure if I'm over reacting, or if she's really flirting with me.

This kind of thing ever happened to u?

[Blue Flower]

All the time

[Coffeecup]

again I ask this question for the 8th or so time, where in the **** are you guys meeting these people?

while the story seems to have authenticity and I don't say you are lying, my own personal reaction is that this is just all made up, again don't take that the wrong way but I am entitled to say what things seem to me.

I've constantly been out on the town for weeks now. I go into little shops, I bump into women all the time. Women NEVER come on to me nor anyone else I can see. At the yogwan I am staying at the owner is a women, slightly older, but has a great looking younger sister who is married. While the both of them are sweet to me, I've never been given the googly-eyes treatment even though I sometimes wish to just to have a good flirtatious feeling. How about the other day when I had to buy some shower slippers. That shop was owned by two GREAT looking sexy "ajummas" maybe late 30s, we're talking very shaply cute body, great hairstyle, even something of a chest. I am browsing through the shoes hoping she'll start up with the "do you need friend here in Korea I can be you friend." Nothing. I buy the shoes and she's glad and then they both go back to their paperwork. Oh yah they both spoke ok english, a major rarity here in Seoul.

All the damn time I am out at stores, clubs and bars sometimes, too much stuff to name. I've never been given a google-eye look perhaps even once that I could remember right now.

[shawner88]

Well, sounds like you may be living in a big city. These things have only happened to me in Geoje-do, Ulsan, and nowhere-dong, where I currently live. In Seoul, I hardly got a second look out and about. Also, people who live in nowhere-dong tend to be a little weirder than the average ( me included.)

[the_beaver]

[Blue Flower]

Coffee cup, if you really want it, I can clasp your hand, look deep into your smouldering eyes, and breathlessly tell you how I miss the touch of a warm hand, and the feel of a hard body next to me. How's that?

[ulsanchris]

good god coffee cup you need to relax. its not as if everyday korean women are throwing themselves at the various male memembers of this forum. You Can't expect to be beating the women off of you with a stick from the time you get off the plane to the time you get back on. Perhaps your constant desire to get laid is sending of creepy vibes that are turning off all the women. Maybe they don't like your hair cut or the clothes you wear.

shawner she seems to be flirting. If it is a small town and rumours about you will spread faster than wild fire. People will notice you two together. YOu have three options that I can think of:
one ignore her.
two let her down gently, one possibility; tell her you have a girlfriend even if you have to make up a girlfriend, even if she lives in another town and remember you are headover heals in love and 100% faithful.
three tell her to f off and that you never want to see her again.
there is a fourth and that is have an afair with her.
which ever way goodluck.

[Coffeecup]

shawner

[peppermint]

Coffeecup, baby. These things don't happen all the time. If it was an everyday, normal occurence people wouldn't post about it. You'll notice that the girls don't post such stories about ajosshis. Unless I'm exceptional, I'd say that these types of occurences happen far too often to the women here.

Don't expect that every woman in the country is just dying for a foreign man, despite the myth, it's just not true. There's lots more Korean women than foreign men, so it can seem that way at times, I guess.

Basically, be open and friendly when you're in public, don't expect to get approached in a sexual way, and you'll meet people who want to hang out with you to learn English. You might not want to hang out with all of them, but there will probably be a few that are cool.

Korean people don't generally flirt in the same way as North Americans. Their style is much more subtle generally. As you make friends with Korean people you'll see that, and just an understanding of how the cultures are so different will help.

[kiwiboy_nz_99]

[Coffeecup]

ulsanchris

[the_beaver]

[whatthefunk]

Ajummas are all sex starved. Trust me on this one...

[Coffeecup]

the beaver

[Blue Flower]