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The Killjoy Mentality
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Chaparrastique



Joined: 01 Jan 2014

PostPosted: Thu Sep 04, 2014 9:34 pm    Post subject: The Killjoy Mentality Reply with quote

Has anyone noticed this in korea? How do you manage to rise above it?


e.g You're having fun with your students, they're loving your classes. Your boss jumps in and says to get back to serious study

or...You're walking down the street happily with your g/f. A couple of ajosshis give death stares. One spits in the pavement, the other pushes in front of you. Ruining the mood.

You stop to take photos of the bridge and beach. Some security guard rushes out to tell you that you can't do that.



I dunno. Is it a crime for a foreigner to have fun in this country?
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nicwr2002



Joined: 17 Aug 2011

PostPosted: Thu Sep 04, 2014 10:44 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

I know that taking pictures on the beach as become taboo because of all the perverts taking pictures of women.
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3DR



Joined: 24 May 2009

PostPosted: Thu Sep 04, 2014 10:45 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

oh my god
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tanklor1



Joined: 13 Jun 2006

PostPosted: Fri Sep 05, 2014 1:04 am    Post subject: Re: The Killjoy Mentality Reply with quote

Chaparrastique wrote:
Has anyone noticed this in korea? How do you manage to rise above it?


e.g You're having fun with your students, they're loving your classes. Your boss jumps in and says to get back to serious study

or...You're walking down the street happily with your g/f. A couple of ajosshis give death stares. One spits in the pavement, the other pushes in front of you. Ruining the mood.

You stop to take photos of the bridge and beach. Some security guard rushes out to tell you that you can't do that.



I dunno. Is it a crime for a foreigner to have fun in this country?


You're new, aren't you?
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le-paul



Joined: 07 Apr 2009
Location: dans la chambre

PostPosted: Fri Sep 05, 2014 3:33 am    Post subject: Re: The Killjoy Mentality Reply with quote

Chaparrastique wrote:
Has anyone noticed this in korea? How do you manage to rise above it?


e.g You're having fun with your students, they're loving your classes. Your boss jumps in and says to get back to serious study

or...You're walking down the street happily with your g/f. A couple of ajosshis give death stares. One spits in the pavement, the other pushes in front of you. Ruining the mood.

You stop to take photos of the bridge and beach. Some security guard rushes out to tell you that you can't do that.



I dunno. Is it a crime for a foreigner to have fun in this country?


I thought the expression 'smile, nod, ignore, continue' was made in Korea?
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Old Painless



Joined: 01 Jan 2014

PostPosted: Fri Sep 05, 2014 3:49 am    Post subject: Re: The Killjoy Mentality Reply with quote

Chaparrastique wrote:
Has anyone noticed this in korea? How do you manage to rise above it? I dunno. Is it a crime for a foreigner to have fun in this country?


If you take a careful look, Koreans will killjoy each other as well. By now you're supposed to know that the way you combat them is to ignore them and pretend they don't exist. Giving them the slightest bit of attention just inflates them. Ignoring their existence makes them feel insignificant.
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andrewchon



Joined: 16 Nov 2008
Location: In my goshiwon cubicle. Seeking moksha.

PostPosted: Sat Sep 06, 2014 2:21 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

I don't think you can legislate against jealousy. Laughing

It's human nature to want what they can't have. Therefore, thing to do is to invite the buzzkill to join in the fun. If you're having fun in the class and then told to get serious, ask the the buzzkill to join in the fun. If ajjoshi gives you the death stare then ask him to join the party. If you're on perv-trol then ask the buzzkill to join in. Laughing Your lack of generousity in your times of plenty is what generates jealousy from others. Laughing

Note: there are some structures that are strategic targets for North Korea, so you're forbidden to take photos of them. If you do, then you might be a Nork spy so the NIS will take you in and give you some hairdryer treatment. You'll get your hair washed in toilet bowl, manicure service with toothpicks, pedicure service with pliers. Fun. Laughing
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Sesame



Joined: 16 Mar 2014

PostPosted: Sat Sep 06, 2014 6:00 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

ajossis look at you in shame because foreigner/k-girl couples look pathetic like they're both in it just for the physical aspect.

Ive noticed since i got married and tote a kid around those bad looks have turned into smiles because they know we are in love and our kid is proof of it--and not living in lust like you probably are with your below average looking k-girl.
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trueblue



Joined: 15 Jun 2014
Location: In between the lines

PostPosted: Sat Sep 06, 2014 6:03 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

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ajossis look at you in shame because foreigner/k-girl couples look pathetic like they're both in it just for the physical aspect.

Ive noticed since i got married and tote a kid around those bad looks have turned into smiles because they know we are in love and our kid is proof of it--and not living in lust like you probably are with your below average looking k-girl.


Is that post even necessary?
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Savant



Joined: 25 May 2007

PostPosted: Sat Sep 06, 2014 6:16 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Sesame wrote:
ajossis look at you in shame because foreigner/k-girl couples look pathetic like they're both in it just for the physical aspect.

Ive noticed since i got married and tote a kid around those bad looks have turned into smiles because they know we are in love and our kid is proof of it--and not living in lust like you probably are with your below average looking k-girl.


I think ajeossis stare at you regardless of kids toted around. Your post had merit before you dissed most foreigners' Korean girlfriends as "below-average looking."

Maybe, that ajeossi smiled at you because your kid is ugly and realised that one ugly half-kid is acceptable for keeping the overall race as pure? Just a suggestion! Happy Chuseok!
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EZE



Joined: 05 May 2012

PostPosted: Sat Sep 06, 2014 6:53 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Sesame wrote:
ajossis look at you in shame because foreigner/k-girl couples look pathetic like they're both in it just for the physical aspect.

Ive noticed since i got married and tote a kid around those bad looks have turned into smiles because they know we are in love and our kid is proof of it--and not living in lust like you probably are with your below average looking k-girl.


Making my killjoy contribution to the killjoy thread, I'd just like to add that a kid isn't proof of anything other than sex.
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trueblue



Joined: 15 Jun 2014
Location: In between the lines

PostPosted: Sun Sep 07, 2014 6:34 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

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I'd just like to add that a kid isn't proof of anything other than sex


Well played.
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Sesame



Joined: 16 Mar 2014

PostPosted: Sun Sep 07, 2014 8:01 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

trueblue wrote:
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I'd just like to add that a kid isn't proof of anything other than sex


Well played.

Fail. Coupled with two wedding rings, a kid in the mix PROVES that the couple is in love and committed. As far as anyone knows the OP and his whor.e k-gf is in it for lust, and the ajussis stare them down as a JUSTIFIED result.
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cj1976



Joined: 26 Oct 2005

PostPosted: Sun Sep 07, 2014 8:28 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Sesame wrote:
trueblue wrote:
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I'd just like to add that a kid isn't proof of anything other than sex


Well played.

Fail. Coupled with two wedding rings, a kid in the mix PROVES that the couple is in love and committed. As far as anyone knows the OP and his whor.e k-gf is in it for lust, and the ajussis stare them down as a JUSTIFIED result.


Aren't most young couples quite lusty - especially at the start of a relationship?. A strong physical attraction is probably a sign of a healthy relationship.
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cj1976



Joined: 26 Oct 2005

PostPosted: Sun Sep 07, 2014 8:29 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Sesame wrote:
trueblue wrote:
Quote:
I'd just like to add that a kid isn't proof of anything other than sex


Well played.

Fail. Coupled with two wedding rings, a kid in the mix PROVES that the couple is in love and committed. As far as anyone knows the OP and his whor.e k-gf is in it for lust, and the ajussis stare them down as a JUSTIFIED result.


Aren't most young couples quite lusty - especially at the start of a relationship?. A strong physical attraction is probably a sign of a healthy relationship.
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