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Julius
Joined: 27 Jul 2006
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| lemak wrote: |
| Go back and read the original post. He wants the crap returned and the money back. Duh! |
Your basic reading and critical thinking skills are missing in action again, genius.
Read the original post.
The guy intended to give her a card with a 1000W limit, but accidentally gave her a different credit card with a much higher limit.
That is all that history records.
But we can surmise that he gave the card willingly and she was under the impression that she could spend whatever she wanted.
In that case we are dealing with an accident caused by a miscommunication, not a case of deliberate theft. |
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Gnawbert
Joined: 23 Oct 2007
Location: The Internet
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| Posted: Sat May 04, 2013 6:49 am Post subject: |
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| Your friend is an obvious beta *cheers for the dave's crowd* |
This north american alpha-beta gamma-delta obsession is really tedious. All it reveals is a terrible confusion about what being a man-let alone human- actually involves. 
To be fair everyone lets their guard down when they're in love. Generosity is a good quality, not a bad one. If anyone has not been in love or made mistakes that in hindsight seem embarrasing... then I pity them.
I pity mercenary asians whose only values are monetary even more, however. They're missing the point. |
One of the smartest things I've read on Dave's in years. Good on you for having a mature and balanced outlook, mistakes and all.
To the OP: Your friend made a mistake, a costly one, but it could be worse. She's not pregnant, or claiming rape, both of which I've seen happen stateside to friends of mine who got involved with She-Devils back in their 20's. I highly doubt there's anything he can do, since he gave her access to the card. Maybe he can sell the purses, if she'll give them back. The fact that he didn't check his account says that he needs to monitor his finances better, something I hope he'll learn to do after this lesson. |
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young_clinton
Joined: 09 Sep 2009
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| Posted: Sat May 04, 2013 7:16 am Post subject: |
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Lets talk a bit more about this broad.
Where'd he meet her? Itaewon?
What does she look like? How is her english? What is her background? Age? Purported education?
Chances are, if this guy got burned, this dame is out there trying to swindle other weigooks. It's in our best interest to get all the info we can on this broad to prevent other expats from getting screwed over by this two-bit hustler.
Maybe the guy's an idiot, maybe not (he's definitely not without blame). But the fact is he got swindled and taken to the cleaners by a con artist. Time to call a spade a spade. |
Too many of them out there. |
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lemak
Joined: 02 Jan 2011
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| Posted: Sat May 04, 2013 7:42 am Post subject: |
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| Julius wrote: |
| lemak wrote: |
| Go back and read the original post. He wants the crap returned and the money back. Duh! |
Your basic reading and critical thinking skills are missing in action again, genius.
Read the original post.
The guy intended to give her a card with a 1000W limit, but accidentally gave her a different credit card with a much higher limit.
That is all that history records.
But we can surmise that he gave the card willingly and she was under the impression that she could spend whatever she wanted.
In that case we are dealing with an accident caused by a miscommunication, not a case of deliberate theft. |
[equally pointless reply]
1)-That's all I get, huh? Non-sensical gibberish? If your last post were a scratch and sniff I'm imagining to stench of a homeless person's diarrhea.
2)-You're trying to move the goal posts and change the subject at hand, kiddo. Being unnecessarily contrary isn't the mark of anyone smart. Just someone dull and lonely and pathetic.
Please tell me what topic you'd like to argue and let's argue it. Changing what I'm a "genius" or "complete idiot" (heavens to betsy make up yer mind) about every time you're proven wrong is a waste of my time.
You can do better than this, luv? Or can't.
Feel free to reply tomorrow *after* you've sobered up and/or taken your estrogen pill, sistah.
xo (how could I ever stay mad at you!?!)
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lemak
Joined: 02 Jan 2011
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| Posted: Sat May 04, 2013 7:45 am Post subject: |
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| Gnawbert wrote: |
| Julius wrote: |
| salutbonjour wrote: |
| Your friend is an obvious beta *cheers for the dave's crowd* |
This north american alpha-beta gamma-delta obsession is really tedious. All it reveals is a terrible confusion about what being a man-let alone human- actually involves.
To be fair everyone lets their guard down when they're in love. Generosity is a good quality, not a bad one. If anyone has not been in love or made mistakes that in hindsight seem embarrasing... then I pity them.
I pity mercenary asians whose only values are monetary even more, however. They're missing the point. |
One of the smartest things I've read on Dave's in years. Good on you for having a mature and balanced outlook, mistakes and all. |
Haha! I can only assume you're either Julia's sock, or the only other thing you've read on Daves in years was the one about "Is this lump a pimple or a wart?"  |
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northway
Joined: 05 Jul 2010
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| Posted: Sat May 04, 2013 7:58 am Post subject: |
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| Really a paranoid, untrusting bunch here, eh? In a serious relationship with a girl, I have zero problem giving her my bank card. |
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toby99
Joined: 28 Aug 2009
Location: Dong-Incheon-by-the-sea, South Korea
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| Posted: Sat May 04, 2013 9:01 am Post subject: |
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| northway wrote: |
| Really a paranoid, untrusting bunch here, eh? In a serious relationship with a girl, I have zero problem giving her my bank card. |
True. Some guys just seem to attract all the crazies. |
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Captain Corea
Joined: 28 Feb 2005
Location: Seoul
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| Posted: Sat May 04, 2013 9:03 am Post subject: |
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| northway wrote: |
| Really a paranoid, untrusting bunch here, eh? In a serious relationship with a girl, I have zero problem giving her my bank card. |
I wouldn't unless we're married and our incomes are being pooled. |
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northway
Joined: 05 Jul 2010
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| Posted: Sat May 04, 2013 9:21 am Post subject: |
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| northway wrote: |
| Really a paranoid, untrusting bunch here, eh? In a serious relationship with a girl, I have zero problem giving her my bank card. |
I wouldn't unless we're married and our incomes are being pooled. |
I wouldn't do what this guy did, but I also don't date broke girls. |
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EZE
Joined: 05 May 2012
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| Posted: Sat May 04, 2013 7:31 pm Post subject: |
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| If a "girlfriend" is asking for financial compensation and the "boyfriend" gives it, it's a prostitute/john relationship. |
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Mix1
Joined: 08 May 2007
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| Posted: Sat May 04, 2013 7:45 pm Post subject: |
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| northway wrote: |
| Captain Corea wrote: |
| northway wrote: |
| Really a paranoid, untrusting bunch here, eh? In a serious relationship with a girl, I have zero problem giving her my bank card. |
I wouldn't unless we're married and our incomes are being pooled. |
I wouldn't do what this guy did, but I also don't date broke girls. |
Then why would they ever need your bank card in the first place?
It's just a different perspective. Trusting or not, I wouldn't like being thought of as an ATM. It sets the wrong precedent. If I'm ever asked for such a thing (bank card, money), my respect for them would lower and the "gold-digger" alert goes would go off in my head, even if I trusted them.
If you're having to give them cards, money, handbags, to keep things working well, maybe something's wrong. A few gifts on special occasions is fine, but a bank card is ridiculous to me. It's the modern world and they want to work and be thought of as equals, so... they should have their own spending money. |
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Mix1
Joined: 08 May 2007
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| Posted: Sat May 04, 2013 7:53 pm Post subject: |
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| EZE wrote: |
| If a "girlfriend" is asking for financial compensation and the "boyfriend" gives it, it's a prostitute/john relationship. |
Basically true.
Although requests for handbags can count as well. That's basically like gold to them. |
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Gnawbert
Joined: 23 Oct 2007
Location: The Internet
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| Posted: Sun May 05, 2013 2:05 am Post subject: |
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| lemak wrote: |
| Gnawbert wrote: |
| Julius wrote: |
| salutbonjour wrote: |
| Your friend is an obvious beta *cheers for the dave's crowd* |
This north american alpha-beta gamma-delta obsession is really tedious. All it reveals is a terrible confusion about what being a man-let alone human- actually involves.
To be fair everyone lets their guard down when they're in love. Generosity is a good quality, not a bad one. If anyone has not been in love or made mistakes that in hindsight seem embarrasing... then I pity them.
I pity mercenary asians whose only values are monetary even more, however. They're missing the point. |
One of the smartest things I've read on Dave's in years. Good on you for having a mature and balanced outlook, mistakes and all. |
Haha! I can only assume you're either Julia's sock, or the only other thing you've read on Daves in years was the one about "Is this lump a pimple or a wart?" |
 Member since 2007. Do I get a 5 year coin? |
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Gnawbert
Joined: 23 Oct 2007
Location: The Internet
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| Posted: Sun May 05, 2013 2:14 am Post subject: |
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| northway wrote: |
| Really a paranoid, untrusting bunch here, eh? In a serious relationship with a girl, I have zero problem giving her my bank card. |
Agreed, for the most part. "Serious relationship" can mean a lot of different things to a lot of people. I'm sure lots of people here have watched their friends toss not just caution but sane behavior aside when in first falling in love. Serious in ones early 20's could seem to be quite a different thing a decade later. It sure has for me.
That said, the sane thing to do is to look at past behavior and financial responsability and making sure one's on the same page as their partner before handing over a card that gives access to large sums of money. Dude learned an expensive lesson, but its one men have learned again and again since the beginning of history. |
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Julius
Joined: 27 Jul 2006
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| Posted: Sun May 05, 2013 2:53 am Post subject: |
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| Mix1 wrote: |
| If I'm ever asked for such a thing (bank card, money), my respect for them would lower and the "gold-digger" alert goes would go off in my head |
Absolutely.
In this case though, there is no indication that she asked for the money.
However its easy to tell the bitter misogynists (*cough* lemak ) who have leapt on this story to demonize women and to spill all their anger about the opposite sex.
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| It's the modern world and they want to work and be thought of as equals, so... they should have their own spending money. |
Maybe in the US but Korean women aren't exactly demanding equality, nor do they all earn their own spending money. Its a male-dominated society and its entirely normal to them to look to men to provide cash. Korean men also view women as a commodity to buy, or win over with displays of earning power. |
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