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maitaidads
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 Posted: Fri Jul 11, 2014 11:25 pm Post subject: Feeling Unattractive When Back in the West |
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Does anyone else get this sensation? When I'm at home, in Korea, people tend to be complimentary and tell me I'm handsome or strong. When I go back to my birth country, people just aren't as honest or forthcoming. The west's lack of sharing really brings me down a bit and I think they shame me to the point where I don't feel as handsome/confident as I should (am).
How does everyone else deal with this? Should I just write off the other hemisphere (seriously considering it)? |
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Captain Corea
Joined: 28 Feb 2005
Location: Seoul
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| Posted: Fri Jul 11, 2014 11:50 pm Post subject: |
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Different looks are popular in different countries.
I actually had "more attention" in Canada than here.  |
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r2b2ct
Joined: 14 Jun 2013
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| Posted: Sat Jul 12, 2014 12:27 am Post subject: Re: Feeling Unattractive When Back in the West |
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| maitaidads wrote: |
Does anyone else get this sensation? When I'm at home, in Korea, people tend to be complimentary and tell me I'm handsome or strong. When I go back to my birth country, people just aren't as honest or forthcoming. The west's lack of sharing really brings me down a bit and I think they shame me to the point where I don't feel as handsome/confident as I should (am).
How does everyone else deal with this? Should I just write off the other hemisphere (seriously considering it)? |
lol nice |
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maitaidads
Joined: 08 Oct 2012
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| Posted: Sat Jul 12, 2014 12:37 am Post subject: Re: Feeling Unattractive When Back in the West |
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| r2b2ct wrote: |
| maitaidads wrote: |
Does anyone else get this sensation? When I'm at home, in Korea, people tend to be complimentary and tell me I'm handsome or strong. When I go back to my birth country, people just aren't as honest or forthcoming. The west's lack of sharing really brings me down a bit and I think they shame me to the point where I don't feel as handsome/confident as I should (am).
How does everyone else deal with this? Should I just write off the other hemisphere (seriously considering it)? |
lol nice |
Right? I'm at home in Korea where they see me for me: handsome. I don't get the recognition back there (North American west coast) that I do here. I really don't get why they're not more honest and selfless back there. It gets to the point where I don't want to get super dressed up for the evening. |
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Hokie21
Joined: 01 Mar 2011
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| Posted: Sat Jul 12, 2014 1:27 am Post subject: |
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I think the real question here is why do you feel like you need to be complimented on your appearance?
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fermentation
Joined: 22 Jun 2009
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| Posted: Sat Jul 12, 2014 1:42 am Post subject: |
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| You are way too concerned about your looks and what other people think of you. |
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Who's Your Daddy?
Joined: 30 May 2010
Location: Victoria, Canada.
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| Posted: Sat Jul 12, 2014 1:44 am Post subject: |
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You must be Korean?
I wish for the anonymity of the west. |
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Chaparrastique
Joined: 01 Jan 2014
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| Posted: Sat Jul 12, 2014 4:05 am Post subject: |
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I like Korea because if you're good -looking, a lot of people will tell you.
In the west people were too afraid to say it because they didn't want to seem shallow. |
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Stain
Joined: 08 Jan 2014
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| Posted: Sat Jul 12, 2014 4:11 am Post subject: |
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| There sure are a lot of handsome people on this thread. |
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Hokie21
Joined: 01 Mar 2011
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| Posted: Sat Jul 12, 2014 4:29 am Post subject: |
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| Chaparrastique wrote: |
I like Korea because if you're good -looking, a lot of people will tell you.
In the west people were too afraid to say it because they didn't want to seem shallow. |
Even if you had a horn growing out of your forehead Koreans would tell you that you're handsome or beautiful.
A Korean saying, "You're so handsome." Is like a westerner saying, "Nice to meet you." It's meaningless. |
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mr_thehorse
Joined: 27 Aug 2013
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| Posted: Sat Jul 12, 2014 4:50 am Post subject: |
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| Hokie21 wrote: |
| Chaparrastique wrote: |
I like Korea because if you're good -looking, a lot of people will tell you.
In the west people were too afraid to say it because they didn't want to seem shallow. |
Even if you had a horn growing out of your forehead Koreans would tell you that you're handsome or beautiful.
A Korean saying, "You're so handsome." Is like a westerner saying, "Nice to meet you." It's meaningless. |
+1. Chaparrastique, you have been here long enough to know this. |
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Stain
Joined: 08 Jan 2014
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| Posted: Sat Jul 12, 2014 5:17 am Post subject: |
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| mr_thehorse wrote: |
| Hokie21 wrote: |
| Chaparrastique wrote: |
I like Korea because if you're good -looking, a lot of people will tell you.
In the west people were too afraid to say it because they didn't want to seem shallow. |
Even if you had a horn growing out of your forehead Koreans would tell you that you're handsome or beautiful.
A Korean saying, "You're so handsome." Is like a westerner saying, "Nice to meet you." It's meaningless. |
+1. Chaparrastique, you have been here long enough to know this. |
I punish students who tell me I'm handsome. |
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le-paul
Joined: 07 Apr 2009
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| Posted: Sat Jul 12, 2014 6:29 am Post subject: |
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I can tell the difference between a fake and real compliment about looks here.
1/ when teenage girls giggle and say it in Korean to each other thinking I dont understand.
2/ when handsome follows some sort of sound such as 'ooohh'.
3 / when i get stared at and i smile - they smile back ( i take that as a compliment).
4/ when the compliment is not handsome but something like 'your face is very nice'.
But yes, i punish boys for this - and usually tell them its a bit gay. Girls, i tell them they are very pretty too and then they either realise im just giving an empty compliment or are so caught up in the attention their own ego takes over - either way, they stop.
But as for OP, Id say I get a lot more attention back home.
You could also re word your question and ask 'do western girls pay any attention to you in korea?'. ' or do you usually have to pick up the fuglies?'. |
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Sector7G
Joined: 24 May 2008
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| Posted: Sat Jul 12, 2014 6:56 am Post subject: |
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| Hokie21 wrote: |
| Chaparrastique wrote: |
I like Korea because if you're good -looking, a lot of people will tell you.
In the west people were too afraid to say it because they didn't want to seem shallow. |
Even if you had a horn growing out of your forehead Koreans would tell you that you're handsome or beautiful.
A Korean saying, "You're so handsome." Is like a westerner saying, "Nice to meet you." It's meaningless. |
Well, I would not go so far as them not remarking on the horn in a negative way-they can be pretty blunt about physical appearances.
But you're right about the free use of the word handsome. It reminds me of that Seinfeld episode where Elaine was excited when the doctor described her as "breathtaking", only to find out later he used that term a lot, including for the "really ugly baby". |
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Stu_miller
Joined: 23 Apr 2014
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| Posted: Sat Jul 12, 2014 7:02 am Post subject: |
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I genuinely thought this thread was a wind-up but it seems to have been taken seriously.
The mind boggles. |
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