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rush · Joined: 17 May 2003

I should have known better but I befriended a Pakistani guy who I trusted perhap due to the fact that he had helped a lot of people get jobs and seemed like a general all round good guy... heck he even was a pastor at the local church... anyway he needed money for a business visa so me and a few others lent him money... I gave him 1 million won.

Guess what he skipped town, Ive learnt my lesson now its just a shame that when you overlook bias ie his race... it comes back and smacks you
in the face

Now for the important question.. how can I get my revenge.. He may still
be in Korea, Im sure immigration would be interested in his situation, just
dont know if I should stoop that low. Wink

Coffeecup · Joined: 30 Jun 2003

I'd get the revenge alright, and do anything that it takes. He skipped town on ya. Pakistan is a slimy hell hole anyways. I remember when I was living in Hawaii there was this pakistan guy who was trying to marry this rather ugly but slightly wealthy (and somewhat nice) Japanese woman, trying and trying and it was so obvious, I mean he was disgusting in his gold digging, we're talking atrociously obvious. Anyways, after about 8 months of their ongoing relationship, she dumped him. I don't have any difficulty in figuring out why.

And by the way in regards to your comment about overlooking one's culture. I've often found that by having a "color-blind" approach in dealing with people (i.e. being afraid to listen to one's senses and take notice to their heavy differences) that has been the ultimate way to get myself burned. The fact of the matter is I've found that when it comes to safety and survival, judgementalism and even stereotypes of various perspectives -- employed moderately but freely -- are very necessary in keeping from danger. And in this world of dog-eat-dog country-eat-country culture-crush-culture most people recognize that it's only natural.

kiwioutofthenest · Joined: 29 Jan 2003

I had a similar thing happen to me. The girl was Australian and was my best friend here, she owed me about 2.5 million. I was meant to spend the weekend with her in Seoul only to find she had done a runner from our city. Well highly pissed off i tracked her to Incheon (6 hours) and caught her at the check in counter. Asked for my cash she gave me 2Million so i took her laptop aswel.

I was lucky and have learnt my lesson

gang ah jee · Joined: 14 Jan 2003 Location: city of paper

Corporal · Joined: 25 Jan 2003

Maybe it's just because I'm Dutch and naturally tight-fisted, but I'd never lend anyone not related to me that much money, no matter how nice of a person they seemed.

Tiger Beer · Joined: 07 Feb 2003

Yeah, I never give any $$ to anyone.. thats a great way to lose a friend.

Also, I wouldn't base it on nationality.. there are plenty of people who look just like me and would do it to you just as quick.. you never know..

I always always tell people that I'm not the one to borrow from because I don't have anything (which is technically true).. but even if its not.. its better to just always stick with that.

Also, borrowing is a habit. I don't make it a habit, so I never borrow from anyone. Others seem to borrow all of the time. If they do, they are someone to definetely watch out for.

I was hanging out with a couple guys for a month or so.. but everytime I saw them they didn't have money.. always asking for a free drink or beer or whatever they could. I always refused them.. but others I knew didn't refuse thinking its only this or that. Later I learned they began to have more and more serious $$ problems.. and I just stayed far and clear from them.

gang ah jee · Joined: 14 Jan 2003 Location: city of paper

i owe eamo 400,000 won. I'm planning on doing a runner.

schwa · Joined: 18 Jan 2003 Location: Yap

Oops. O well. Lent a Kiwi a million this month.

Moldy Rutabaga · Joined: 01 Jul 2003 Location: Ansan, Korea

A lesson in life, unfortunately: do not lend anyone more money than you can afford to lose.

I will sound very naive, but give this fellow at least a little while to come back or contact you before giving up on him, as unlikely as it is.

Ken:>

Tiger Beer · Joined: 07 Feb 2003

Just one question though.. if you gave him money for a business visa.. then why did you believe he skipped town? But then another paragraph you assume he's here and immigration would like to know his status? I mean, if he borrowed money for a business visa.. then immigration wouldn't have a problem with his status?

Also, sounds like you know alot of people he knows.. same church (I guess) and other friends got jobs through him or something. Just go locate him and bring it up to him.. if he got his visa.. and when he might get that $ back to you..

eamo · Joined: 08 Mar 2003 Location: Shepherd's Bush, 1964.

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Butterfly · Joined: 02 Mar 2003 Location: Kuwait

I dont lend money, I give it. Seriously. If you lend money then mentally you should write it off, and if you get it back its a bonus. That way you'll be more careful about how much you give and who you give it to. If the borrower is a good friend then they'll come though for you another time. If the borrower is not a good friend then dont give it to them. Be especially careful in ROK, there are a lot of people with absolutely no conscience whatsoever about ripping fellow expats off. That story about the aussie girl is horrible.

canuckistan · Posted: Tue Sep 23, 2003 2:31 am Post subject:

Corporal, I had to smile at your response about lending money 'cause I'm Dutch too...