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[debbie chou]

There are two kinds of mothers one who stays at home and one who works outside the home. They are different in caring families and focus of daily life. The time and energy they spend on caring family is different. Mother who stays at home has more time and can cook almost every meal for family. She can take care of old grandparents at home and clean the house. Mother who works outside the home has less time so she seldom cooks on her own. Her children usually have to wait her home after school and have to learn to be independent earlier. The two kinds of mothers� points of family and work are different. Mother who stays at home views her family caring work as her whole work. She will feel lonely after her children grow up. She might want to find a job then but she can hardly find one. Mother who works outside the home does not put whole her effort in the family. She still can lead a meaningful life even though her children leave home. She has another relationship in her work place and she can live with time.

[Suzanne]

This is a dilemma that many mothers face these days: stay at home for their families, or work to satisfy themselvs. There are debates this issue; in American magazines, you will see articles on this subject.

Women who stay at home say they are better mothers and wives. They thing that their satisfaction comes from making their families happy.

Women who work outside the home say that when they are fulfilled at their careers, they are better role models for their children. and that they make money to help the family do more things.

There is really no answer to this question: each woman has to decide for herself what is best.

[Anuradha Chepur]

There is only one kind of mother.
There are two kinds of women - those who pefer or need to work and those who don't.

[Suzanne]

Excellent comment, Anuradha!

It would be wonderful if everyone saw this issue from your wise perspective. Thank you for expressing this so eloquently.

[Anuradha Chepur]

O thanks Suzanne. Nice meeting you.
Hope we'll have more interaction on these forums in the days to come.

[RedRose]

I am both.

I am a single mother. I take care of my daughter as well as work outside. And I really enjoy this kind of lifestyle.

As for housework is mentioned, it's not even a question, I hired a part-time cleaning woman who is much more professional at housework than me. When I have no class, I would cook delicate food for my daughter, and when I have 4 classes in a row in the morning, I just get some takeaways or make some easy food that doesn't take too much time. My daughter told me:"Mom, you don't have to spend that much time cooking, easy food is more delicious, and I enjoy takeaways once in a while."

If we have to sort out all mothers, According to my daughter's suggestion, there are two kinds of mothers: the boring ones and the interesting ones. I definitely belong to the latter. (My daughter just awarded me the prize )

[Corey]

[Anuradha Chepur]

[pugachevV]

But there are good mothers and not so good mothers.

[Lorikeet]

[Anuradha Chepur]

[Bob S.]

[pugachevV]

As long as the government of many nations continues to reward unmarried mothers, we can probably expect it to continue. Some mothers have 4 children from 4 different fathers, none of whom they are, or have been married to.

But what do you do about that kind of exploitation of the system?

[Anuradha Chepur]

Probably such governments should stop allowing themselves to be exploited.

[RedRose]

If I don't have to work for money, and I have to be a nester, a stay-home mother, oh, which might make me a terrible mother. Without a job, stay home everyday, do chore. endless chore....I would be a cranky mather.