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clover · Joined: 31 May 2003 Posts: 3

Hi, everybody! I am a Japanese student.

My grandmother has terminal cancer Crying or Very sad

. But she don't know that, because it considered it more fortunate not to know that she has terminal cancer.

Do you want to be notified if you have tarminal cancer ?

toomuch · Joined: 08 Jun 2003 Posts: 5

I`m sorry to heard about your grandmother,Clover.
Take care.
Niether I`ve been noticed nor not to be. I`ll accept the reality.

aa702 · Joined: 06 May 2003 Posts: 4

I　agree with the up one

river1974 · Joined: 20 May 2003 Posts: 525 Location: Taiwan

Regarding this question, I prefer to be notified. I have always wanted to be a man who can frankly face himself, even if dealing with the situation about death. Being notified of suffering from terminal cancer may be a great shock to me at the first time, but I think it's better for me to know the truth rather than being deceived. Since I still have many relatives and friends who are fairly concerned about me, I should get together with them well before departing from this life.

clover · Joined: 31 May 2003 Posts: 3

Thank you for a lot of replies.
I'm sorry that a reply became very late Sad

I asked to a doctor into what state people would lapse, if they are notified. There are two types. Those who think positively to how I will make a living, and those who wiil be in a depressed state and pass away with the state are needed.
My grandmother was a person who cared also a little poor health, so we decided not notify her.

This is a very difficult problem because a view changes with individuals.

In fact, she passed away. I'm very sad Crying or Very sad

However, we don't repent having not notified her. She passed away without being notified and we regard her as fortunate.