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Azooz · Joined: 04 May 2006 Posts: 41 Location: Saudi Arabia

Hi, what is the best age to get merried? i mean you have a wife, i know you all know what i mean, it's just my writ is bad.
I think the best age is 27 for men, but for women is 23 or 20.
so, do you agree? if you don't, please tell me the best age you think is the best to get merrie for men and women, okay?

THANKS Very Happy

hope to hear from you all soon

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J@n@ · Joined: 10 Jan 2007 Posts: 49 Location: Germany

hey

I think that there is no agelimit for marriage. You should marry whenever you feel old and grown-up enough for so. It all depends on who you are and how old you really are inside - not on the age.

But i thinkt that i won't marry (i'm not even sure if i want to) untill i have a job or finished my schooleducation. I want to go to university, so i think that i will have to studyied first before i marry.
Well, this depends also on how you view a marriage. For me, it is one of the first steps to found a family. And i won't found a family if i'm not grown enough, if i can't pay a family!!
Of course i am a woman and few people could think that a woman needn't have to work and pay the familie's life, but i think that you shouln't let the man do all the "work". Besides, if you do so, the woman gets too dependent on the man..

ad-miral · Joined: 01 Sep 2006 Posts: 1488

You are just a small girl!
Well first I want our relationship to be absolutely sure, second she should know all my relatives and I also want to know about her relatives, she should have finished her highschool years. Then I'll ask her Laughing

I have a big house which my parents left for me, my mom seldom comes home and my father never comes.

At that time maybe I'm 21/22 and she 19/20.

Lorikeet · Joined: 08 Oct 2005 Posts: 1877 Location: San Francisco

Too young Ad-miral! I got married when I was 28 and it was a perfect time for me. I had enough experience with enough guys to know what I wanted, and I wasn't going to make big changes in my life anymore, so less chance of "growing apart." Also, I had a job I liked, and I was supporting myself, so was in a good position to decide with no hurry. I've been married 33 years now, so I guess it was good for me. Wink

Azooz · Joined: 04 May 2006 Posts: 41 Location: Saudi Arabia

Thanks all of you for replaying Very Happy

i appreciate it alot.
and i guess 28 is perfect for merrig.

hope to see more opnions Wink

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k.m.m · Joined: 23 Jul 2006 Posts: 121 Location: Riyadh

I think both have disadvantage and advantage ...to get married when you are young , how young?? well lets say you are smart and you finished your hi-school early ,say your age is 18 then you join a college "2 years " that's mean your age is 20 , you are living with your parents but you want to be independent ,ok..How much your salary..do you have a car?? can you pay the rent if you go out from your parents home ? may be you need a lone from the bank to own car Crying or Very sad

? The payment will be for 2 or 3 years ..how much you will save ..and how much you will spend ? all these things have to be consider ..Means your age will be 25, with consideration that only 2 years collage you finished ..
a bout the wife, if you get married with a working wife" like me", it is good for both of you , she will help you in so many cases Very Happy

, but don't think her salary is yours Mad

.If you plan for vacation , in summer both of you will share the trip , I know you are responsible but she will love paying for enjoyment like vacations, or even going to restaurants and here clothes .etc... Smile

My conclusion it depends on your study ...if community collage 2 years may good 25
if B.S degree may be 27-28.
If medicine study may be 30...and chose all the time very close to your age and your interest..
Good luck. Smile

hoshi · Posted: Tue Feb 20, 2007 10:14 am Post subject:

ad-miral · Joined: 01 Sep 2006 Posts: 1488

Thank you very much, Lori, k.m.m and hoshi! You let me come to a decision for which I thought and thought over many weeks. What should I do without you... Laughing

Yeah you are right at least I want a bachelor, I won't get my bachelor before 25, you are right. And maybe I wanna have master/doctor etc. otherwise we won't see each other that much anyway. And besides, she needs a lot of time for her study and hobby, too. I can't take it away from her because of some postings I said here. The only best way is to give us time.

(you need a Chinese program to read this symbols correctly) (I recommend NJ Star Chinese Word Processor which you can download here: http://www.njstar.com/ ) Laughing

If Lori sees it as advertisement it's also ok.

No great thesis existed without a proverb... So, there is a Chinese saying:

hoshi · Posted: Wed Feb 21, 2007 10:52 am Post subject:

ad-miral · Joined: 01 Sep 2006 Posts: 1488

hi hoshi

You said:

hoshi · Posted: Thu Feb 22, 2007 9:36 am Post subject:

ad-miral · Joined: 01 Sep 2006 Posts: 1488

oh

If you already have a girlfriend, then stay loyal.
Tell her that she will find the real one in the future, she is not that old yet

J@n@ · Joined: 10 Jan 2007 Posts: 49 Location: Germany

ad-miral · Joined: 01 Sep 2006 Posts: 1488

hahahaha I'm soo sorry Jana don't take this too personal... it's not a blaim! On the other hand I'm rather jealous of you because I could have done many many things better when I was 17, but time can't be turned back...

You know I didn't want to make you being angry... It's just Laughing

Beancurdturtle and RedRose always say that I'm too young for this and too young for that Mr. Green

And I was very happy when I knew you are younger than me. Mr. Green

peace!

J@n@ · Joined: 10 Jan 2007 Posts: 49 Location: Germany