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Willzee · Joined: 08 Dec 2003 Posts: 20 Location: Hong Kong

We've all heard of underground love affairs between a male teacher and a female student in campus. But scarcely the other way around. Now here's one real case that happened and is happening within the realm of my life! Not me who's that male student. I'm involved as a classmate (also a friend) of a male 19-year-old high school student in Hong Kong (a small yet equally modern land compared with the U.S.), who went on an amazing secret relationship with a female gorgeously beautiful English teacher who looks 27 years old but is in fact more than 10 years older than him. I'm not gonna get their names and details out in the open for moral reasons. But one thing is that it happened! A true story around me.

I found it hard to believe I was keeping a real secret in the first place. But seeing is believing right? And I also questioned, why him, not me who's so lucky to be in such an eccentric yet dream-like relationship? I envy him; on the other hand I worry about him and the angel-faced teacher who was once my class teacher. You know, beauty goes with age and love wears off. Do you guys have similar stories that happened around you ? And do you think such an age difference is a blockade? Or will it work out in the end?

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barrymore · Joined: 06 Dec 2003 Posts: 25 Location: china hn

i wish they will be beatific!!!!!!! Very Happy

Does the female teacher have a bf?
I believe the ture love!!!!!!!! Very Happy

Don't worry!I think you couldn't help them Rolling Eyes

Let it be............
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Sweet AYA · Joined: 11 Dec 2003 Posts: 6 Location: Hong Kong

I do think it's possible for such a relationship to come along. But it's hardly to foresee or tell how this relationship would end.. I think only time will tell you whether your friend will always treat this teacher the same loving way when she grows older and no longer looks pretty, and only time will tell whether this female teacher would dump him becase of another man whose age is closer to hers. But to me, the age difference is surely not a problem, and neither is it to this female teacher right? or else she wouldn't have accepted your friend as her boyfriend and her would-be husband.

Love is great but can also be fickle.. As his friend, I think you could just wish them the best.

Many boys nowadays tend to fall in love with girls older than them.. Even some starlets do. Take Ashton Kutcher in the U.S. and Nicolas Tsang in HK for two big examples. But not every woman loves young boys, most of them are just known to be punks~ I guess your friend has to be an exceptionally mature one in a thousand, right?

I'm Aya Cheng. A gal from HK.^^

Corey · Joined: 23 Mar 2003 Posts: 445 Location: Costa Rica

It wil be extremely difficult. If the school finds out about the affair the teacher will lose her job. I do hear about affairs like this sometimes, but in general most teachers strongly resist any kind of adventures like this.

Corey
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Willzee · Joined: 08 Dec 2003 Posts: 20 Location: Hong Kong

Corey · Joined: 23 Mar 2003 Posts: 445 Location: Costa Rica

I don't doubt that they happen all the time at all. In fact I would bet that some ESL school actively encourage teachers to flirt with students as a way to increase enrollment. But I think at most "reputable" schools the teacher would get the axe. In fact today I read about a case in HK where a teacher was fired from a Canadian school for just such a thing.

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renisha · Joined: 12 Jan 2004 Posts: 32 Location: malaysia

I do think it's possible for such a relationship to come along. But it's hardly to foresee or tell how this relationship would end.. I think only time will tell you whether your friend will always treat this teacher the same loving way when she grows older and no longer looks pretty, and only time will tell whether this female teacher would dump him becase of another man whose age is closer to hers. But to me, the age difference is surely not a problem, and neither is it to this female teacher right? or else she wouldn't have accepted your friend as her boyfriend and her would-be husband.

Love is great but can also be fickle.. As his friend, I think you could just wish them the best.

Many boys nowadays tend to fall in love with girls older than them.. Even some starlets do. Take Ashton Kutcher in the U.S. and Nicolas Tsang in HK for two big examples. But not every woman loves young boys, most of them are just known to be punks~ I guess your friend has to be an exceptionally mature one in a thousand, right?

this is really stupid
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Marine · Joined: 02 Apr 2003 Posts: 77

I had heard of the underground love affairs between student and students, but scarely between student and teacher, especially between a younger male student and a older female teacher. You know, In mainland China, especially at 70's and 80's, the rule of high school is very severe. If something like this was discoverd, there is only one thing to do with the student and the teacher, firing both of them.

Is it very severe? surely. But there are still many affairs as it happened.
And take myself for example, I have fallen in love with a girl in my class.
and we both will face the entrance examination to the college and know what is the most important thing this time. we help each other in study and through this our hearts between closer and closer, but it dose not make little bad effect on our study, in the end we both recieved the enrollment notebook of a university.

Now many years later, she is my wife.
So what I want to say is love is not confined by age, if you get your true love, don't give up and never give up. and what do you need to do is also make it clear what is the most important thing and how to cope with it.
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