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vva



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PostPosted: Thu Feb 09, 2012 9:05 am    Post subject: all the Single Ladies? Reply with quote

Hello,
I've read all the advice against working in KSA and shared housing, but still intent on going. I'm familiar with Muslim practices (at least of US Muslims), and I'm mostly asking about rural areas...

I would very much appreciate your answers to the following questions:

1. In shared living arrangements, do women usually live with an EFL colleague from the same school?

2. What're the typical travel arrangements for (single) women, on a regular school day? Do they often travel alone to and from the school, or is sharing rides common?

3. Possibly a ridiculous question, but how likely is it that a single woman would get kidnapped or something scary, on a regular day's journey between home and work?


thanks!
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veiledsentiments



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PostPosted: Thu Feb 09, 2012 3:57 pm    Post subject: Re: all the Single Ladies? Reply with quote

vva wrote:
Hello,
I've read all the advice against working in KSA and shared housing, but still intent on going. I'm familiar with Muslim practices (at least of US Muslims), and I'm mostly asking about rural areas...

Not to be rude, but to compare the practices of US Muslims to the situation in Saudi is apples and oranges. Rather the difference between living in an area of mostly Methodists to living in a radical Amish community who insists that all outsiders live by their rules. You will be completely in the middle of nowhere with them with no recourse to leave if things go from bad to worse to intolerable. (being American and hoping that the embassy will help you is a fantasy that will never be fulfilled)

vva wrote:
1. In shared living arrangements, do women usually live with an EFL colleague from the same school?

I'd assume so... or at least hired by the same shady, and likely abusive, recruiter...

vva wrote:
2. What're the typical travel arrangements for (single) women, on a regular school day? Do they often travel alone to and from the school, or is sharing rides common?

Providing a daily mini-bus is common... at least with the better employers.

vva wrote:
3. Possibly a ridiculous question, but how likely is it that a single woman would get kidnapped or something scary, on a regular day's journey between home and work?

You're in the US, right? How many have you heard about? I recall hearing of a kidnapping of teachers some years ago, but it wasn't Westerners. Really... the least of your problems...

Since you have already decided to ignore the advice of the people who know the area and the work situation and choose to still even consider one of these awful jobs means that I can only wish you luck.

You may well need it. Sad

VS
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Gulezar



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PostPosted: Thu Feb 09, 2012 4:12 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Hello,
I've read all the advice against working in KSA and shared housing, but still intent on going. I'm familiar with Muslim practices (at least of US Muslims), and I'm mostly asking about rural areas...

I've met a good many Muslims who find Saudi intolerable. The rural areas would probably be the most difficult for a western woman.


1. In shared living arrangements, do women usually live with an EFL colleague from the same school?

Yes, if the school is providing housing, you are likely to be with colleagues.


2. What're the typical travel arrangements for (single) women, on a regular school day? Do they often travel alone to and from the school, or is sharing rides common?

A travel allowance is usually provided in Saudi. Most folks are in Saudi for the money, so sharing a ride is quite common. An employer might also provide a bus to and from the school.

3. Possibly a ridiculous question, but how likely is it that a single woman would get kidnapped or something scary, on a regular day's journey between home and work?

Not likely, but it is advisable that one travels with some other women. I never traveled alone. When a man and a woman are alone together, there is always a third party (Satan), so it is best not to invite Satan. Travel with another woman as your witness. Traveling alone might invite trouble. Even if you travel in a group, you might be approached by men who are interested in "being friends".
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vva



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PostPosted: Sat Feb 11, 2012 6:22 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Thank you both, for your detailed replies.
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It's Scary!



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PostPosted: Sat Feb 11, 2012 4:34 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

What VS said about Muslims in Saudi who are NOT Saudi. They are spelled thusly:

Muslim born in Saudi: "Muslim"

Muslim who is not Saudi: "muslim"

It's the sad truth!
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bulgogiboy



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PostPosted: Sun Feb 12, 2012 12:29 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Gulezar wrote:
Hello,
I've read all the advice against working in KSA and shared housing, but still intent on going. I'm familiar with Muslim practices (at least of US Muslims), and I'm mostly asking about rural areas...

I've met a good many Muslims who find Saudi intolerable. The rural areas would probably be the most difficult for a western woman.




I had several Muslim co-workers, and I don't think any of them liked living in KSA. Most non-Saudi Muslims go to KSA for their pilgrimage obligation and then leave.

I don't know why on earth a single western woman would want to go and live in the sticks of Saudi, apart from being offered a large salary (which you won't be offered). I was in a small city, but it would probably be considered 'rural' by many people. Living there as a single man was tough enough, and men have a lot more freedom than women there (as I'm sure you'll be aware).
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johnslat



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PostPosted: Sun Feb 12, 2012 12:46 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Dear vva,

Many of the non-Saudi Muslims I knew there (colleagues, mostly) would tell me (in whispers) "This is NOT Islam."

Well, it wasn't for them, but I have no notion of what your idea of Islam is.

Regards,
John
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vva



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PostPosted: Sun Feb 12, 2012 10:58 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Thank you all for your input!

I understand the irony that a few Muslim countries, in a very general view, may not consist of very good Muslims, but I have no doubt that key areas within the KSA will consist of wonderful communities, especially for women to work in...

problem is, of course, finding those communities Smile
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bulgogiboy



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PostPosted: Sun Feb 12, 2012 11:18 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

vva wrote:
Thank you all for your input!

I understand the irony that a few Muslim countries, in a very general view, may not consist of very good Muslims, but I have no doubt that key areas within the KSA will consist of wonderful communities, especially for women to work in...
problem is, of course, finding those communities Smile


Oh yeah, some of the best working environments for women can be found within Saudi Arabia. It's a virtual Shangri-la for the fairer sex. The first thing you'll feel when stepping off the plane into KSA is a "wonderful" sense of "community". Rolling Eyes

Best of luck. You'll need it. Very Happy
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PostPosted: Mon Feb 13, 2012 3:43 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

vva wrote:
... but I have no doubt that key areas within the KSA will consist of wonderful communities, especially for women to work in...

Oh dear... having doubt would be better I think. Even the women that I know that liked their stints in Saudi would never have used the word "wonderful" to describe either their lives or their work in the country... certainly not the community they lived in...

Tolerable much of the time... lucrative financially... lots of long holidays so that one could get away from the place... often spoiled female students with unrealistic expectations... too many 'eccentric' fellow teachers... But unless you have an MA and many years of experience, you would not be eligible for any of these jobs.

Sadly of all the female teachers that I have known personally over the years... or who have posted here... or sent me PMs... not one seemed to have been able to locate this "wonderful community, especially for women to work in.." in Saudi Arabia.

VS
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Gulezar



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PostPosted: Mon Feb 13, 2012 3:36 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

johnslat wrote:
Dear vva,

Many of the non-Saudi Muslims I knew there (colleagues, mostly) would tell me (in whispers) "This is NOT Islam."



Key words are in whispers. You will not be greeted with open arms, even as a Muslim. Heaven forbid, if you are the wrong sect. There are several different communities in Saudi and none of them trusts the other sects. It may seem ironic, but if you want to meet welcoming, tolerant and open-minded Muslims, stay in the US. There are plenty of refugee communities there and they are glad to finally be able to practice their faith freely and openly.
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PostPosted: Mon Feb 13, 2012 4:07 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Dear Gulezar,

" . . . if you are the wrong sect . . ."

And, for many Saudis, that would mean any Muslim who's not Wahhabi (or, as many of them prefer to be called, "Hanabillah.")

Regards,
John
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