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Bud Powell · Joined: 11 Jul 2013 Posts: 1736

The home address problem can be solved by telling the bosses that you might be put in a position of being asked to give private lessons. I'm sure they won't like that.

Didah · Posted: Wed May 07, 2014 2:03 pm Post subject:

Greetings,

I agree with Chodoudufu that it would be a good idea to offer a positive solution that saves face for everyone.

I also understand about the need to save face and I know that they know how to use the need to save face in their culture against Westerners. I agree that sometimes they need to lose face. Kind of like the old saying that you have to break a lot of eggs to make an omelet. In this case, you have to break a few rice bowls without getting fired or frog marched out of the country.

Thinking back to teaching in China and Japan, sometimes there are hopeless or ridiculous situations that reminded me of the movie The Bridge Over the River Kwai where the sadistic Japanese prison camp commander slaps Alec Guiness across the face with his copy of the Geneva Convention and yells at him that "ENGRISH PLISONERS BUILD THE BLIDGE!!!!!" I had more than a few days in those countries when unrealistic or unreasonable demands were made. The commands were terse. I always walked away thinking, yes, this is an English prisoners build the bridge day. Looking back, it seems I built a lot of bridges and was happy in my work.

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doogsville · Joined: 17 Nov 2011 Posts: 924 Location: China

I'd tell them to take out the passport number, and replace it with your 'teachers' QQ number, but only on condition that they put something at the bottom to let people know that you are available for private tutoring and your rates are lower than Web Internationals.

jimpellow · Joined: 12 Oct 2007 Posts: 913

Not to get off of topic but I got thinking about the poor female teacher who was harassed late at night. When I was at the Web we had a female teacher for a short while who claimed that on two occasions male students asked her if they could urinate on her. Anybody hear similar?

Of course I guess it cuts both ways. We also had a male teacher who stalked every female under the age of thirty. The girls were so scared of him some would bring in their boyfriends. It was easy for him to get numbers and such as Chinese feel very obligated towards teachers requests as you know. He would have them take him out to eat and run up these huge tabs whether they could afford it or not. Took six months for them to fire him, and this was generally a well managed school.

jimpellow · Joined: 12 Oct 2007 Posts: 913

Not to get off of topic but I got thinking about the poor female teacher who was harassed late at night. When I was at the Web we had a female teacher for a short while who claimed that on two occasions male students asked her if they could urinate on her. Anybody hear similar?

Of course I guess it cuts both ways. We also had a male teacher who stalked every female under the age of thirty. The girls were so scared of him some would bring in their boyfriends. It was easy for him to get numbers and such as Chinese feel very obligated towards teachers requests as you know. He would have them take him out to eat and run up these huge tabs whether they could afford it or not. Took six months for them to fire him, and this was generally a well managed school.

nomad-ish · Posted: Tue Jul 15, 2014 4:56 pm Post subject:

The Great Wall of Whiner · Joined: 29 Jan 2003 Posts: 4946 Location: Blabbing

You could play along with their fears.

"I don't want Xinjiang terrorists to kidnap me, please don't tell everyone my personal information."

fat_chris · Joined: 10 Sep 2003 Posts: 3198 Location: Beijing