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dynamis
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 Posted: Wed Apr 16, 2003 10:29 pm Post subject: Single mother in China |
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Hi. I'm thinking about going to China to teach next year. I'm a single mother of a 14 year old girl. I'd like to bring my daughter with me, and I'm trying to get some sense of what it would be like for us over there. For instance, do you know of any other single parents who have done the same thing? What (if any) are the cultural perceptions of unmarried North American women and their children? Are there international schools for teenagers?
I've never been to China (or any other Asian country for that matter), so I don't know what to expect.
I'd very much appreciate any feedback you can think of.
Thanks,
Dynamis |
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Peter
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My friend Rose has her 11 year old daughter here in Shenzhen,which is just over the border from Hong Kong.
She first send her daughter to the local primary two years ago, but that did not work, it was too rough on her.
Thankfully the school did not use her for PR.
She is now home schooled via a Christian based American outfit.
Private international schools charge like wounded bulls as the cost of education is paid for by expats companies.
As for yourself, C hina is full of women with husbands working elswhere.
In my own Chinese family, my sister in law lives in Hunan, her husband is here in SZ; at any rate , igore what they think, or you have no life left.
In my own case, my Chinese adopted son via marriage gets a NZ education via the Correspondence School.
Total cost for one year: 1400 NZ for one course
As for your daughter......China has very little what teenagers deem essential, exept perhaps Shanghai.
Then the culture shock...... |
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Roger
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I think Peter's reply was VERY succinct!
Can you home-school your own daughter?
Can you juggle this task as well as being the breadwinner? |
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Tim
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| Posted: Mon Apr 21, 2003 9:37 am Post subject: Maybe |
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I have a friend here, from London, who has her 9-year olf daughter with her. She teaches at a private school,so the daughter is going to the chinese classes.
It is a bit hard, with the language, and study methods, and all. but she is coping, and is excused stuff like morning flag parade. |
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scot47
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| Posted: Mon Apr 21, 2003 11:04 am Post subject: school |
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School fees for an international school will be beyond your means. Home-schooling ? A chinese-medium school ? No school ?
Why not look at teaching in an international school - if you have teaching credentials in your home country. That would make more sense. |
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zacharybilton
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| Posted: Wed May 13, 2015 11:51 am Post subject: Re: Single mother in China |
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| dynamis wrote: |
Hi. I'm thinking about going to China to teach next year. I'm a single mother of a 14 year old girl. I'd like to bring my daughter with me, and I'm trying to get some sense of what it would be like for us over there. For instance, do you know of any other single parents who have done the same thing? What (if any) are the cultural perceptions of unmarried North American women and their children? Are there international schools for teenagers?
I've never been to China (or any other Asian country for that matter), so I don't know what to expect.
I'd very much appreciate any feedback you can think of.
Thanks,
Dynamis |
I guess your one post made you reconsider? China is still not the place for a single mother. It's the simple. China doesn't accept such a thing, even today. Marriage. Unless your widowed and advertise such a fact, it's the wrong place socially. |
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esl_prof
Joined: 30 Nov 2013
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Location: peyi kote solèy frèt
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| Posted: Wed May 13, 2015 4:45 pm Post subject: Re: Single mother in China |
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| I guess your one post made you reconsider? China is still not the place for a single mother. It's the simple. China doesn't accept such a thing, even today. Marriage. Unless your widowed and advertise such a fact, it's the wrong place socially. |
Throwback Thursday must have come early this week!  |
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Non Sequitur
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I'm having 'Throw up Thursday'
What's goin' on zb |
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toteach
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| Posted: Mon May 18, 2015 2:42 pm Post subject: Re: Single mother in China |
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| zacharybilton wrote: |
| dynamis wrote: |
Hi. I'm thinking about going to China to teach next year. I'm a single mother of a 14 year old girl. I'd like to bring my daughter with me, and I'm trying to get some sense of what it would be like for us over there. For instance, do you know of any other single parents who have done the same thing? What (if any) are the cultural perceptions of unmarried North American women and their children? Are there international schools for teenagers?
I've never been to China (or any other Asian country for that matter), so I don't know what to expect.
I'd very much appreciate any feedback you can think of.
Thanks,
Dynamis |
I guess your one post made you reconsider? China is still not the place for a single mother. It's the simple. China doesn't accept such a thing, even today. Marriage. Unless your widowed and advertise such a fact, it's the wrong place socially. |
There are two single foreign teachers with families at my school, and they are not looked down upon by locals or other foreigners in any sense, social or otherwise. There are challenges to being a parent in China, but they are outweighed by the benefits... |
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7969
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| I don't think zachary bilton will be back to respond. At least not till his new username gets approval from higher command. |
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mike w
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I don't think zachary bilton will be back to respond. At least not till his new username gets approval from higher command.
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What reincarnation will the next one be? 6th., 7th., 8th. ? |
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MuscatGary
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| Posted: Tue May 19, 2015 1:26 am Post subject: |
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I don't think zachary bilton will be back to respond. At least not till his new username gets approval from higher command.
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What reincarnation will the next one be? 6th., 7th., 8th. ? |
He hasn't posted since the 14th which was the day I asked Mr Kalqukshi to look at the number of old posts being resurrected! |
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