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nomadder
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 Posted: Thu Dec 23, 2004 4:17 am Post subject: Who Decides? |
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| Overall who decides where you live if you are a couple? From what you read here it is the woman(submissive appearing or otherwise). Marriage just got better looking. |
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cujobytes
Joined: 14 May 2004
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Location: Zhuhai, (Sunny South) China.
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| Posted: Thu Dec 23, 2004 4:53 am Post subject: > |
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This 'submissive' Chinese woman thing is a myth. It's the women who run things here. (though in traditional western style they do let the man think he is).
The reason women generally get the raw end of the deal here is that Chinese women are far superiour to Chinese men (in intelligence and common sense) and the men know it. So while the men have the upper hand they use it to keep the women down. They know that if they didn't it wouldn't be long before the women were running the show. |
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Tong Dawei
Joined: 31 Jan 2003
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| Posted: Thu Dec 23, 2004 6:32 am Post subject: |
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| Women don't want to be running the show. They just want to rule the roost. Let the man do battle with the outside world while you have the final say at home. Pretty good deal... OP attests to this ethic. |
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Will.
Joined: 02 May 2003
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Location: London Uk
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| Posted: Thu Dec 23, 2004 11:02 am Post subject: |
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| The bank account and whoever has the most in it, often it is a combination of both bank accounts and neither being sufficient alone. .. a shared decision/responsibility. |
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The Great Wall of Whiner
Joined: 29 Jan 2003
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Location: Blabbing
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| Posted: Thu Dec 23, 2004 9:47 pm Post subject: |
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| Will. wrote: |
| The bank account and whoever has the most in it, often it is a combination of both bank accounts and neither being sufficient alone. .. a shared decision/responsibility. |
No.
My boss makes all the coin for his family and his lazy wife sits around and files her nails all evening, shops during the day, and does nothing in the rest of the time.
Her husband does what he is told. |
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moonraven
Joined: 24 Mar 2004
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| Posted: Thu Dec 23, 2004 9:51 pm Post subject: |
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As should you, probably.
Just kidding. Any kind of sexism is repulsive. |
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Cardinal Synn
Joined: 01 Nov 2004
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| Posted: Sun Dec 26, 2004 12:43 am Post subject: |
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| My partner is clever - she makes me think it's me who decides. |
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Chris_Crossley
Joined: 26 Jun 2004
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Location: Still in the centre of Furnace City, PRC, after eight years!!!
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| Posted: Mon Dec 27, 2004 6:40 am Post subject: Who rules the roost? Not I! |
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Neither I nor my wife rules the roost. It's her mother! AAAAAAARRRRRRGGGGGGHHHHHH!  |
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timmo
Joined: 31 Mar 2004
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| Posted: Mon Dec 27, 2004 7:33 am Post subject: |
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This 'submissive' Chinese woman thing is a myth. It's the women who run things here. (though in traditional western style they do let the man think he is).
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yes, well said mate but I would add that there should be a place you don't go beyond. We come from a place and a culture of which they know NOTHING!
The women in our own societies watch us grow up, they see what roles we are destined to play. I have assumptions about the place women will play in my life.
For better or worse to have a relationship with a Chinese girl for any length of time demands a large rethink in how men and women look at each other. |
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cujobytes
Joined: 14 May 2004
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Location: Zhuhai, (Sunny South) China.
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| Posted: Mon Dec 27, 2004 7:47 am Post subject: > |
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| Time to move CC |
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nolefan
Joined: 14 Jan 2004
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Location: on the run
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| Posted: Mon Dec 27, 2004 12:39 pm Post subject: |
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| I like to fool myself into thinking that our decision are mutual but I know better. I like the ones where we can't agree and we have to resort to rock, paper, scissors for the outcome...those can't be debated at all. |
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Chris_Crossley
Joined: 26 Jun 2004
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Location: Still in the centre of Furnace City, PRC, after eight years!!!
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| Posted: Mon Dec 27, 2004 3:00 pm Post subject: Who decides?! |
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| cujobytes wrote: |
| Time to move CC |
We've considered that (i.e., my wife and I), but her parents do a great job in looking after our little baby daughter. Hence, it makes practical sense to remain where we are for the time being, even if her mother is apt to complain a lot about this, that and the other. It's been a lifelong habit with her, so we just have to put up with it ... 
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| I like the ones where we can't agree and we have to resort to rock, paper, scissors for the outcome...those can't be debated at all. |
My wife and I do this fairly often. Guess who wins almost every single time?  |
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