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[Weona]

I thought Jzer's "slip up" was intentional?!! A little disappointed now that I know it wasn't.

At any rate, I have had nothing but bad and so-so experiences dating Latino men. It's pretty unfotunate because I tend to be most attracted to Latinos which really complicates things because I find it's more difficult to date them than it is for me to date men from my home country. My difficulties in finding a good match has a lot of it to do with the fact that I like to have a lot of the "control" in the relationship and I find that Latino men do not like that. That machista attitude here really, really gets to me and I can't imagine myself being in a relationship with a man who expects me to cook for him, do the dishes, the laundry, etc. And you know, I realise that this isn't impossible..... but thus far very difficult.

So my advice to you is to go and date and have fun but also make sure he isn't taking advantage. Let us know how it turns out!

[Justin Trullinger]

I certainly don't think that by dating a foreigner I'm saying that I look down on the locals. I was already hooked up when I got here, and hardly felt like I should dump her just cause she happens to be British.
While dating is certainly one way to build relationships and experience the place where you are living, it definitely isn't the only one. How about making friends, volunteering in the community, joining a club, taking a class at the local uni, or practicing a sport? Or joining a church, if you're into that kind of thing. All of these are "non-dating" ways to get the most of the culture where you're at.
There are many kinds of relationships that one can start with the locals. I have tried most of the above, and they work. If you're running away from yourself, you'll never find anything. If you want to integrate where you are, there are many ways, with or without dating.

Regards,
Justin

PS Or if I tell my girlfriend it's for cultural purposes, maybe she won't mind...

[JZer]

[Flo]

[amandajoy99]

[gambasbo]

Very true, even when you date/marry someone from the USA!!! By the way, I am British.

Mike


i do think that when dating someone from another country you�ll come across cultural differences you never even imagined existed.[/quote]

[tonydicer]

[moonraven]

I have no understanding with trolls.

Since you are bombarding the folks on this borad with abusive PMs, your stay on this forum will be brief, buddy.

[tonydicer]

This thing is getting off topic

[moonraven]

In addition to being a troll, you're a liar.

You sent PMs to Guy, Chula and to me, and this is the one you sent to me, Se�or Alzheimer:

"Inbox :: Message
From: tonydicer
To: moonraven
Posted: Sat Mar 05, 2005 3:20 pm
Subject: STUCK IN MEXICO?
YOU SEEM TO KNOW EVERYTHING ABOUT LIFE, MONEY, ESL, LIVING ARRANGEMENTS, MEXICO....

AND IF YOU'VE BEEN TEACHING SO LONG IN MEXICO, THEN YOU'VE RUN AWAY FROM SOMETHING.

YOU SHOULD LEARN TO KEEP YOUR THOUGHTS TO YOURSELF, BECAUSE YOU CERTAINLY SOUND RIDICULOUS."

This is the last time I will respond to any of your trolling.

[Guy Courchesne]

SimplySteven, I don't think it matters what alias you use...your MO is the same.

Sometimes, we raz each other here on the forum, but in the end, who cares about hard feelings...this is a virtual forum for cryin' out loud. Abusive PMs are easily ignored, but you cross a line when you send threatening email, a step that could put you in jail.

[tonydicer]

[tonydicer]

[sheepgirl]

"The green card effect is one worry. Major culture shock is another"
I was kinda counting on dating locals as a way to prevent/get rid of culture shock?

[tonydicer]

Yes, that would be a way to combat the culture shock. But also, establishing friendships works just as well, if not better.