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[Yawarakaijin]

Hey guys thanks for your suggestions. Just to clear on a few things I will address some of the comments made in previous posts

I'm not a lonely gaijin suffering from culture shock. I have quite a few friends here and I am active at the local gym and culture centre. I'm 31 to answer Henry's question and my Japanese is good enough to interact with Japanese on social level.

I'm not hitting on innocent little girls as they eat their meal at the local izakayas as someone hinted

I'm not desperate to get married although it would be nice to meet some women where that could actually be a possibility down the road

I was simply curious as to whether or not anyone knew of any good places that people hang out where the gaijin were'nt all just simply looking to get laid and the girls wanted something more than free english lessons.

There are pick up joints back home and there are places that are a little more sophisticated. It would be nice to know if anyone has ever been to any of places. Tokyo is a huge city, I was just curious as to whats out there.

I'm trying to be as absolutely as clear as I can

[cornishmuppet]

I suggest you hang out in the bookshop. That`s where the intelligent girls will be, and if you see one who`s good looking, there you go. Just avoid the comic section.

Seriously, if you want to meet girls who aren`t going to look at you in a certain way, I suggest you try to meet them anywhere but in a bar. No matter how classy the place, bars are where you meet people with potential `romance` in mind, its a simple fact as far as I`m concerned. If a girl comes over and talks to me in a bar, I don`t assume she wants to discuss the quality of the wine.

Also, just out of interest, how do you tell the difference between a hostess and a beautiful woman?

Best of luck

Chris

[space]

hostesses shop at the hard-off used clothing store.
oh, and the hostesses tend not to be Japanese, of course.

beautiful women go to the department store.
i suggest hitting one up and asking some 'how does this look on me.'

ok, i dont know where my sarcasm begins or ends, but seriously, stores are good (think a book shop was mentioned earlier) coffee shops don't seem to work for me out here. and really, nothin but bad news for me from bars.

[pnksweater]

Join a class that's full of girls. My yoga classes are full of nothing but fit ladies. Well, one girl did attend with her boyfriend... And of course having a regular bar that's not aimed at foreigners can help too. While I'm not looking to pick anyone up, I did get to meet and know a wide range of people, Japanese and foreign, by hanging out at the same bar every weekend. Being a regular at a place, most any place, is likely to increase your chances of bumping into someone worth while.

[space]

heh heres one.

at the local asaichi (morning market) i volunteered to do some work. this ended up involving running a free 'eikawa' of sorts for the event. this happened cuz i ate at the resturant in my semi-inaka and met a student's parent who runs the thing. he knew i was looking for friends in the area so he said itd be a good way to meet people. in the end it was ok. most people were over 50 but it was fun. some hotties from tokyo did stop by to sample the local beverages tho, and happened to hit up the asaichi. there was also one case of a mom comin by introducing her college daughter to me, but before i could talk enough i got whisked(sp?) by someone else...