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matttheboy
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| Guy Courchesne wrote: |
 On more than one occasion I've seen a guy get belted with a purse or open hand for pinching bottom. For the life of me I can't figure out what goes through the mind of such a guy...grabbing someone in a public place. In the entire history of pick-up tactics, has that ever worked? "Thank you for pinching my bottom. How sweet of you. Shall we go out for a coffee?" 
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Well, as i've been suffering from major insomnia this week i've been being boring and reading forums that don't entirely concern me...
Anyway, as the 'latin' culture runs through all of latin america to greater or lesser degrees i'd like to add a a couple of points...
Firstly Sadken, i kind of agree with your worries. When i lived in Ecuador, my 'western' girl-friends got hassled every. single. day. by ecuadorian men. It was truly tedious. My ecuadorian girl-friends did not get 'ppppsssssssssstttttttt'-ed at nearly as much. The phrase 'European girls are really liberal, no? huh-huh huh-huh' was all too common whether the girls were with male friends or not. This also happened a lot on Peru and Bolivia when i travelled there. I've never been to mexico before but, from my experience in those countries, i'd assume (rightly or wrongly, don't shoot me down, please) that things could be similar there. I should add that the hassles were never really scary, just fc uking annoying for the girls (and for me when i was with them). If you haven't been to this part of world before then i don't think it's a problem for you to ask about the safety of your girlfriend as i'm sure you've probably heard horror stories from various sources. I think it's more the way you phrased it that riled some of the (usually extremely reasonable) ladies on this forum. Rest assured that most trips to Latin America pass off without the slightest incident-you have to be unlucky for anything really bad to happen.
To address Guy's point above...in Mendoza, Argielandia a while back, a young bloke on a bike cycled past and slapped my girlfriend's arse and made a hooting noise. Quite what he expected to achieve is beyond me but i assume he thought he'd cycle off and tell his mates what he'd done haha how clever blahblahblah. Shame about the red light and the bus blocking his way...he truly looked surprised when i dragged him off his bike, screamed at him to apologise to my girlfriend (and her mother and little sister) for being disrepectful to women and then threw him into one of Mendoza's handy drainage ditches at the side of the road. I mean, really, what did he expect would happen?
Sadken, personally i believe that if your girlfriend is getting looks and comments then just suck it up and get on with life, it's not worth the bloody knuckles...if she's getting groped then do whatever you feel is appropriate...but make sure the groper isn't armed.
Have a great trip. |
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matttheboy
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In England, does "pinched" mean stolen? If her ass gets stolen in Mexico, you may want to talk them down to a fair price to buy it back. |
And that is quite entertaining. |
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gordogringo
Joined: 15 Jul 2005
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Location: Tijuana
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| Mexican men are some of the worst I have ever met.My current novia is a former dancer at one of our local clubs here in Tijuana.Walking through our colonia together on any given day I hear tons of whistles,cat calls,and who can forget the "oi mami's" no matter how she is dressed.I have taken to yelling back "Gracias" and shaking my fat butt a little.So while the local men will not attack your novia you will hear everything under the sun yelled at you by everything from construction to office workers.Even the cops.My novia says mexicanas are used to it. |
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gordogringo
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| As for the pinching and grabbing and such it seems to work with mexicanas.I call it mexican mating. |
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Guy Courchesne
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| gordogringo wrote: |
| As for the pinching and grabbing and such it seems to work with mexicanas.I call it mexican mating. |
I'm sorry, but it begs the question...is this how you met you current novia? |
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cwc
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| Posted: Tue Mar 07, 2006 2:48 am Post subject: WHAT??????????? |
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| Gordogringo, that may work in T.J. but in the Yucatan and Campeche you will wind up with big probs. Remember these big families always have a monton of males willing and ready to defend the females. I, for one, don�t believe pinching and grabbing works in T.J. Maybe with the working girls... |
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gordogringo
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| The pinching and grabbing remark was meant in humor.Though I have never seen women in TJ fight it.As for me I met my novia the way most gringos in TJ met thier's.Either pull out some dollar bills,smile alot and good luck or wait outside the factory gates and when the ladies come out introduce yourself.This is dating on the frontera. |
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gordogringo
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On a more refreshing topic...
How has the search gone for frontera jobs for your friend,Guy. |
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kitkat1
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| Sadken, despite some of the not so helpful or nice responses here, your questions are totally legitimate and I think your concern for your girlfriend's well being is just sweet. Her experience will clearly depend on where you are traveling and maybe even a bit on what YOU look like. I have dark hair and very white skin. My Spanish is clearly not Mexican. When I am alone, people ALWAYS stare at me and often they ask me for directions (which I think it just strange). It used to really bother me at bus stops and I always asked the people at my school if there was something wrong with the way I looked or dressed. But it was really just based on the fact that I was clearly not Mexican which draws attention in the same way it would for you at home. But I have never had a negative experience with someone trying to touch me or saying something to me. When I am with my boyfriend who is Mexican, nothing ever happens (aside from the occasional glance). In Guadalajara or DF where I am now, I think it's just about people noticing that I look a little different - mostly due to my white skin. In Veracruz, I've had people ask me a question in Spanish just to see if I spoke Spanish. In DF, traveling with a blond haired, blue eyed tall American, he was constantly stopped by packs of teenage girls -- they would ask him if he had the time - even though they could see that he wasn't wearing a watch. Again, it was just about looking different. In any event, Mexican is a wonderful place and you'll have a wonderful adventure! |
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sarliz
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| I'm a tall, blond girl (not going so far as to say I'm hot, but a gal can dream...), and I've travelled in Mexico alone (Egads!) with no problems. Whistling, "ay mamasita"ing, honking: Yes. Anything remotely physically violating: No. I actually had my ass grabbed for the first time in recent history at a gay bar in Chicago. Go figure. |
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