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StayingPower



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PostPosted: Tue Jan 23, 2007 5:14 pm    Post subject: Breaking Etiquette Reply with quote

Is it just a fact of life here or does it seem at times you might be breaking etiquette? I mean, going for a job interview, feeling like it's a great opportunity, like they'll hire you. Then you get this non-comittal appoach from some, as if you've been fleeced.

What I mean is that I did a demo a few days ago and it went well. The lady placated me with plattitudes, said she'd call me the next day( I know this Taiwanese lie.) Told her I'd spent a few years teaching in Korea, she adhered. Then three days later still no call.

So I called tonight, asked her When? She said they had some teacher coming in from Seoul, wanted to test him. Thought, Why Seoul? How could they grab someone out of the blue from Seoul? Would the fellow, or woman, really come all this way to do a demo? Would anyone really apply here from Seoul(The jobs there pay atleast 2.2 million won, hub of Korea.)

I got to thinking. Why lead me on? If I had been in Korea, which I was, then why go out of your way to have someone come all the way from there when you had someone at your doorsteps? My only thinking is this.

Did I break etiquett by mentioning Korea? Does Korea outshine them? Is it not true Korea is one of the most proficient of ESL learners/speakers-according to statistics-in Asia and could that be why?

The demo, therefore, went well. The interview went great. No face was lost, except this.

They needed me as a sub the next two classes and to prove that in some respects, teaching etiquette, kowtowing to what the children, and the school's budget demanded, was not but a demo to illustrate an illusion.

The CT didn't like me.
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TaoyuanSteve



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PostPosted: Wed Jan 24, 2007 1:39 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Just forget about them and move on. Do not wait for any one job and don't waste time wondering why they might want other candidates. For all you know they might think the other teacher is younger and better looking. I doubt the Korea thing is really a factor, at least not for the school. Your last line of your post may be the real reason you didn't get hired along with the subbing thing. Keep going to interviews and keep calling.
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SanChong



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PostPosted: Wed Jan 24, 2007 3:03 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

It's not a great situation, but is it much different from back home?

Back home, sometimes firms won't even respond to applications at all, or often simply write a one or two line email or letter, months later, indicating rejection.

Don't go down the road of blaming things on the local culture... we are here to adjust, after all, right? If you keep feeling this way, you will just end up bitter and angry for the long run....
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matchstick_man



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PostPosted: Wed Jan 24, 2007 8:02 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

In my personal experience if you're not hired straight away you haven't got the job. If there was no call after three days I'd assume I hadn't got the job. I've done demos and never heard back for the same reason. As Sanchong says it's not just in Taiwan.
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Toe Save



Joined: 04 Oct 2004
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Location: 'tween the pipes.........

PostPosted: Wed Jan 24, 2007 10:12 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

I've met so many folks who come in here expecting that Taiwan owes them a living. A guy came in the other day and flat out accused our staff of lying to him. Lying? In Taiwan? Shocked

Point is, sure, the locals may be stretching the truth a tad, but if you've been here longer than a cup of coffee, you'll realize their "lies" are not designed out of maliciousness or greed, but in fact, to save everyone's face. The "lie" is accepted, the goal is realized and everyone moves on relatively unscathed.

Hey Toto, you ain't in Kansas anymore. Stop trying to turn Roosevelt Road into The Yellow Brick Road. When you come to Taiwan, please bid farewell to the Road of Yellow Brick.
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StayingPower



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PostPosted: Wed Jan 24, 2007 10:14 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

SanChong wrote:
It's not a great situation, but is it much different from back home?

Back home, sometimes firms won't even respond to applications at all, or often simply write a one or two line email or letter, months later, indicating rejection.

Don't go down the road of blaming things on the local culture... we are here to adjust, after all, right? If you keep feeling this way, you will just end up bitter and angry for the long run....


I know SanChong, and you're right. I definitely don't want to nurse any grudges or resentments and feel this embitterment creeping in when I do. Just makes things more miserable.

I kind of threw this info out because I had some time, pondered a little as to what I could be doing wrong, or if there was a different approach I should take.

Same scenario happened to me in Japan and I'm wondering if I'm being too direct, or frank. I hate to mince words when I talk, but I feel being frank is faux pas in Asia. I say this because I'd mentioned some flaws to the woman who interviewd me about teaching students in Korea. But I'd only done this when she asked me why I'd come to Taiwan.

In comparison to "back home", however, there's a slight difference. Jobs here seem to get far too personal and subjective, whereas the West depends a lot on objectivity. This is just my opinion.
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StayingPower



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PostPosted: Wed Jan 24, 2007 11:00 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Toe Save wrote:
I've met so many folks who come in here expecting that Taiwan owes them a living. A guy came in the other day and flat out accused our staff of lying to him. Lying? In Taiwan? Shocked

Point is, sure, the locals may be stretching the truth a tad, but if you've been here longer than a cup of coffee, you'll realize their "lies" are not designed out of maliciousness or greed, but in fact, to save everyone's face. The "lie" is accepted, the goal is realized and everyone moves on relatively unscathed.

Hey Toto, you ain't in Kansas anymore. Stop trying to turn Roosevelt Road into The Yellow Brick Road. When you come to Taiwan, please bid farewell to the Road of Yellow Brick.


No one expects "that Taiwan owes them a living" and I'd never thought so. What I 'do' think is that in seeking a job I want to know what clicks and what doesn't, regardless of "lies."

Since "lies" are "lies", by the way, wouldn't that "stretching the truth a tad" have any bearing on "saving everyone's face" but yours?

Think about it, if this be the case as to why I didn't get the job. The yellow brick road only led to a false reality and so may Roosevelt Road if somewhere or another none of us gains what the characters sought.
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TaoyuanSteve



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PostPosted: Wed Jan 24, 2007 12:03 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

It's hard to know what the school's management was thinking and I recommend not bothering to try to analyze their behaviour too much. You've been in Asia before, so you ought to know about the face concept already mentioned.

I think many of us here have been through this passive rejection before and can relate to your feelings. We westerners just to know where we stand. The Chinese, however, think telling you "you're just not who we want" is too direct and will insult your dignity.

Who knows how they decided they wanted to try someone else. I think, like many Chinese management decisions, it was made hastily and without much thought. Locals. I've found lack planning skills and are reactive rather than proactive in their management style.

I like your point about objectivity vs. subjectivity. I think you are on to something with that idea. It may be that your prospective school was looking for a person who met a certain set of physical characteristics rather than for someone who could actually do the job.

Point is, though, keep looking and forget about what schools say. If they want you, the Chinese style is to hire quickly. If they don't, move on.
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Toe Save



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PostPosted: Wed Jan 24, 2007 3:41 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

StayingPower wrote:
Toe Save wrote:
I've met so many folks who come in here expecting that Taiwan owes them a living. A guy came in the other day and flat out accused our staff of lying to him. Lying? In Taiwan? Shocked

Point is, sure, the locals may be stretching the truth a tad, but if you've been here longer than a cup of coffee, you'll realize their "lies" are not designed out of maliciousness or greed, but in fact, to save everyone's face. The "lie" is accepted, the goal is realized and everyone moves on relatively unscathed.

Hey Toto, you ain't in Kansas anymore. Stop trying to turn Roosevelt Road into The Yellow Brick Road. When you come to Taiwan, please bid farewell to the Road of Yellow Brick.


No one expects "that Taiwan owes them a living" and I'd never thought so. What I 'do' think is that in seeking a job I want to know what clicks and what doesn't, regardless of "lies."

Since "lies" are "lies", by the way, wouldn't that "stretching the truth a tad" have any bearing on "saving everyone's face" but yours?

Think about it, if this be the case as to why I didn't get the job. The yellow brick road only led to a false reality and so may Roosevelt Road if somewhere or another none of us gains what the characters sought.


No one is a lot of people. In my years here, I've talked to a lot of language purveyors and a hunky majority of them were overzealous, odious autocrats. From guys with zip experience saying they wouldn't work for less than a thousand an hour to the forming of mini-unions threatening walk outs if the contract they'd agreed to not 2 months ago wasn't changed to alleged child molestors quickly sent packing to CKS and escorted right to immigration, I've pretty much witnessed the gamut of selfish, self-righteous, semi-literate swainish fops who have an air of expectation that hangs on them like the bouquet of a pair of socks soaked in ChoDoFu.

BWGAF, I am not at all calling the OP such a stench. Before you start calling the Dave's cops on me, I am speaking about people I've met yi-doy-yi.

As for saving face, saving one person's face saves the face of all concerned. AND: No one desires another to lose face. By saying that an appointment you have is cancelled because the person you are supposed to have the appointment with has a, erm, uhh, medical emergen...sick, she is sick today,, ya, that's it.... spares them the embarrassing duty of telling you that you presented yourself as an unshaven nitwick with zero experience and the look of greed in your eyes. Would you rather someone tell you this?

Dudes, during my last 6 months in Canada, my "goal" became 3 rejection letters a day as I searched in vain for legitimate employment, attempting to once and for all, get Thespus behind me. Ha......Ol' Thespus....what a character......


Rejection? Let me tell you about rejection: I auditioned for the X Files.



7 times.


A week on the X Files pays 10K Cdn. Scale. Half my student loan in a week.

To get to the audition level, you gotta do a pre-screen. So an audition is like a 2nd interview. If you pass this, you get a callback.* Here's where you will most likely get an offer, or it may go to more callbacks. Point is, if you can't take rejection, you'd best find a nice safe bank teller job.

But to even get a pre-screen, you gotta have some game. This is big business, and Coreen knows what she is doing.

She had me back 7 times. And nary an offer.

That's rejection.

3 rejection letters from Corporate Canada a day was nothing. Like doing a 2 year bit at Club Fed. But even at that, I never expected any response from any CV I sent out or dropped off. Just a wish and a dream sometimes, (don't get me started on The Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles, The Series audition) but not a solitary expectation.

So I am always taken aback when I meet these doofusses with balls that could keep Taipei 101 earthquake-stable. Oh.... and I am quick to point out their doofussness. So you want truth? Stop by my office and try your schtick out on me. I've give you the truth. Just follow the Yellow Brick Road..........


We're off to see the Wizard.......la lala lala la la...


*Never got a callback. That's why I am here I guess.
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lipsonto



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PostPosted: Thu Jan 25, 2007 6:43 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Not sure where you're getting your statistics from StayingPower about Korea being one of the most proficient of ESL learners/speakers in Asia. According to an article in the Guardian UK Koreans are the worst English speakers in Asia.

http://education.guardian.co.uk/tefl/story/0,,1972859,00.html [/url]
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lipsonto



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PostPosted: Thu Jan 25, 2007 7:31 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

You were saying that the Taiwanese lie to save face, but, they're terrible at it, so, aren't they actually losing face by lying?

Good luck with the Job hunting StayingPower.
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Toe Save



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PostPosted: Thu Jan 25, 2007 10:03 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

lipsonto wrote:
You were saying that the Taiwanese lie to save face, but, they're terrible at it, so, aren't they actually losing face by lying?


Quite true. However, if both parties know a lie is being proffered and both parties agree to the acceptance of said lie, is it still then, a lie? If a lie is told in a forest and no one cares about the truth, does it still matter????

What we consider to be black and what extremes, truth or falsehood, Asians consider all the shades of gray in between. Well, that's not true. Consideration would require effort. Not the strongest of suits around here. It's just easier to accept the lie and move on to the next fire.

The DNS, when quitting her job at The Big Yellow School Bux, told The Dragon Lady that she was moving to the mainland to help her uncle's business. A complete fabrication and everyone knew it. Should she have simply told the truth and called The DragonLady a mean old battleaxe with the sensitivity of a stiletto heel thru the foot? no. She got thru a difficult situation by lying. Not a big lie. No one is getting hurt from it. She'd had enough and wanted to move on. She lied and the conversation lasted 30 seconds and she walked away with an offer to return anytime she wanted. It wouldn't matter a jot if the two of them ran into each other in a nightmarket 2 months later. She would have simply decalred the job complete and now she was.....whatever.....

I think you get my point by now.

Toe Out.
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