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[tanyakenapa]

Hi,

Im getting married on 1st March next year in Jakarta, I know this has nothing to do with ESL .. but so are alot of other topics on here

Anyway... I would love to know if anyone has any input about venues etc. Have you been to a wedding in Jakarta somewhere, and thought it was really good, or really bad and the reasons why...such as hotels, or churches .

thanks..

[laughing_magpie06]

I got married in a catholic church in Central Jakarta and we had dinner in a chinese restaurant not far from there also. Everything included it cost 22 million, that is cars, dress, photos and plenty to eat for 70 + guests. All in all not bad value.

[Chester]

we did it at all saints uniting church, Menteng
www.allsaintsjakarta.org

was 5 juta.
the priest, Dale Appleby is real cool.
lovely little church. great atmosphere.
there's also a nice garden and vestabule (spelling?) for informal reception.

[alicantik]

Hi,

There is a discussion board for women with Indonesian partners where you could get lots of ideas and advice. Check out:

groups.msn.com/ourindonesianmen

[xsbir]

Most Indonesian weddings that I've been to have been "dry" with respect to alcohol. The exceptions have been "mixed weddings", including my own. If you're going to have a mixed wedding with even a small group of foreign guests who expect alcohol, I'd say provide it, but don't go "half way."

I attended a mixed wedding recently where the English teacher groom tried to economise by promising only the bule guests free flow of their choice of beer, wine or champagne, but anyone wanting to drink had to pay half the charge, or Rp75,000. It turned out the groom had miscalculated and was misinformed about the choice and the disgruntled drinkers ended up paying Rp125,000 of their own money plus whatever they put into the gift envelope. This is a good example of trying to go half way. The groom maybe saved $100 total doing it this way, but he lost a few friends.

Also, don't try to bar children from going to a wedding. Indonesian families typically bring their children to weddings, and they will anyway.

This wedding in question had both elements, and was a bit of a disaster.

[tanyakenapa]

Yeh there will be a few expats at my wedding I guess, and well to be honest I have no intentions of worring about if they are interested in drinking or not... so Im not bothering to have alcohol... less stress for me!! And I dont drink so it doesnt bother me

When the guys talk about it at the office - other weddings and drinking, I just keep quite, cuz I feel bad that there will be no alcohol at my wedding waiting for them... who knows they'll see it on here so I dont have to mention it at the office ha ha :p

About kids, I have no worries about kids attending weddings as long as their parents can control them, and a couple of my young students will be invited, because Ive known their families for a few years..

But it is difficult to keep everyone happy !!!

[laughing_magpie06]

Good call xsbir, I also had a similar wedding and with my love of a cold beverage offered beer to my guests even after the owner of the restaurant said it was no option. But it is not hard to find other ways and so talked the guy into buying from a nearby store. It is funny though how large restaurants don't provide alcohol-this was a chinese not muslim restaurant!
I don't know how this guy whose wedding you attended can live with himself, has he no self respect? You expect your wedding day to cost money but it is a once in a lifetime occasion. But maybe with this guy if he is so cheap, who knows?