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[secretsquirrel]

I had to laugh at WttW and his comments of earlier. Clearly he has little insight into management or any natural gifts AT ALL! To quote...

You're assuming that all teachers are honorable - laughable of course.

The fact that you laugh at your teachers speaks volumes about you, WttW. And I would presume that the same can be applied to managers - especially you?! In my experience, good managers are few and far between, and the good ones do not regard their teachers as sources of amusement (OK, at certain times, yes!)

Some staff need to be controlled, otherwise they do as they please.

Same for people who think they are 'managers', when they really are just teachers in a manager's position, i.e., no training, qualifications or disposition for management. They need putting in their place, reminding of how talentless they are.

Either you control the staffroom or it controls you.As they say.

Really?! Who says that? IS this your guiding principle? If so, you really do display a poverty of imagination AND ability! I can not believe that a so-called manager displays such a breathtaking shallowness of the task and contempt toward his teachers.

The problem with this forum is it's written by those with no idea of the demands of management.

Including you, it seems. I'm just guessing, but it looks like you have no idea of management either. What are your qualifications? Your experience? Your legitimacy?

I actually spent two years in a ME management post before I returned to the classroom. Let me first say that, as a manager, I found three main sources of pressure - the teachers, the students, and the senior management. The first two I could hande, as I was well-experienced (and respected) in doing so. The last was a whole different ball game.

Well, for the first year I just sat on my hands and did as I was told, like a good little newbie - jumping through hoops and such (when not sitting on my hands of course). But in the second year I was determined to stand up for myself and the teachers who were coming under increasing pressure to do extra tasks for no further reward.

Then, one day, I was asked to fire a teacher for no other reason than she hadn't been given a contract yet - so we should take advantage of that and save some money, as THEY said we had too many teachers. I refused and stood my ground - for the rest of the year. Of course, I jumped at the end of the year, before I was pushed, but it wasn't just due to that incident.

In the fact, the whole year had been marked by constant bickering and power struggles between so-called academics who were pretending to be managers. Never have I seen such an ugly display of the meanest side of humanity. Meetings turned into shouting matches, accusations of all manner of unprofessionalism and illegal and immoral behaviors were thrown about, and threats of immediate termination of employment were issued - and given. It was common to conspire against colleagues who were seen as a threat (i.e. better), and decisions were taken by the Director against the wishes of everybody, except his toe-rag scullions of course.

I guess you would have been very happy there, WttW!

[jdl]

secretsquirrel,

Your experience with bullying was very traumatic for you. It will take time for you to work through the anger and your feelings of failure and inadequacy as you review how you may have better handled the situation. Don't despair, many have shared your experience. Look at it as just another growth experience and remain as positive as possible as you struggle with your feelings. It does get better so, 'hang in there' as they say.

The website you list on your profile is one which may help you in your healing process as it does allow people to vent very openly; but at some time a more positive forward looking response will be required as a natural step in 'moving on'.

Good luck with your journey. Hopefully your process will prepare you for similar situations in the future for as abhorrent as bullying is in the workplace, it is an all too often common practice and really will not change for the better without a reasoned response from those who have first hand experience with it. Victims are the greatest agents of change once the emotion of victimization gives way to reason and thoughtful response.

[jpvanderwerf2001]

Very interesting thread.
First off, I'm not in Qatar; however, I don't feel this issue is limited to that country (of course).
As a fledgling manager (less than a year), I can now plainly see why some in charge resort to "bullying" to get their message across. At the moment, I have a staff of only 13 teachers, and some of them definitely do things (e.g. come late to class, bring their phones to class) that are against the rules.
However, I think there are more effective ways of getting one's point across than bullying. Such "far-out" management techniques as talking to the "offender" in a professional, private and polite manager; respecting teachers (as I liked to be respected when I was one such); and listening to teachers' suggestions (after all, they are very smart people with great ideas). Being honest with those around me seems to be a good policy, as well. Respect, listen, honesty and communication: These seem to be more fruitful options than intimidation.
All-in-all, our school, while rather small, has a pleasant atmosphere with relatively happy teachers, generally pleased students, and one satisfied manager.

[jdl]

As Horace Greeley said, "Common sense is very uncommon". Thank you jpvanderwerf2001 for bringing us back to the common sense virtues of honesty, respect and listening(communicating). Good sound advice for all in all activities. I guess the difficult part comes when faced with less than respectful behaviour we do not know how to respond in an honest, respecftful yet meaningful manner. Although in our hearts and minds these virtues have importance our behaviours are often contradictory testimonial. So this is a long winded way of asking........any suggestions on how a teacher who is feeling bullied could act in a manner consistent with the virtues identified?

I find many comments in these forums regarding bullying or other injustices are a frustrated call for help; that is, how can I act to correct this situation in a principled manner. How do I act morally and ethically in an immoral situation?

And the secret of life is?????????

[johnslat]

Dear jdl,

"And the secret of life is?????????"

Avoid dying.

Regards,
John

[jdl]

Gotta love the virtue of pragmatism.

When all philosophy fails us, there remains the crucible question, "And how is that working for you" - Dr. Phil

[johnslat]

Dear jdl,

So far, so good - I'm just about 67 years old and still avoiding it. However, to quote Andrew Marvell:

"But at my back I always hear / Time's winged chariot hurrying near."

Regards,
John