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Tainan
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Wow, now this is what's known as hijacking a thread!
Knexus, could you tell us a bit about Nakon Si Thammarat?
I would still love to hear whether anyone has been in Chiang Rai and has an opinion.
Now, to join in the hijacking business (since it's so far gone as to be past protesting....)
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| Single Western women in Thailand often complain that they are ignored by Western males, most of whom are far more interested in pursuing the local 'talent', and generally feel marginalized by the expat community. |
Is the complaint that the foreign men ignore them totally, do not make friends with them, do not have conversations with them? Or are they really only complaining that they cannot find a foreign boyfriend?
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| Sure, but in Thailand the Number 1 wife accepts that there are minor girlfriends. In rich old times, all the girlfriends lived in the big house or palace. |
In what way does this make Thailand different from any other part of the world? The harem and the seraglio stretch from Turkey to Japan, and while we don't use the words to describe the bevy of mistresses and concubines that a European king or nobleman might have, the reality is the same, as even a cursory perusal of the private life of just about any European monarch before the modern period will attest. Among the rich Belle Epoque Frenchmen who are Proust's characters, the strange thing would be not to be keeping at least one mistress. This has been going on since the dawn of time--what was it that Achilles and Agamemnon are fighting about at the beginning of Iliad--and if we doubt that it remains true today, we have only to ask the wife and mistress, both of whom, I think, survive, of Mitterand. And has anyone read about the lives of the Rock stars?
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| In america, most wives don't accept and want fight/divorce etc. Tiger Woods is very rich.he has a lot of problems now--but in Thailand no problem, pay money, have girlfriends, normal for very rich man. |
And the American way seems like an improvement to you? Seriously? The common ground between American men and Thai men--let's say all men--seems to be that they are not, by nature or inclination, monogamous. That may be distressing, but it should be surprising to precisely nobody over the age of ten. The choice is to accept reality quietly or to make a huge trauma out of it. What will the future say about an age of supposed liberalism where a Clinton, a Spitzer, an Edwards, a Woods, and dozens of others, and, unfortunately, their wives, are paraded out before the cameras for a preposterous ritual humiliation for doing what normal men have always done? As for the non-famous, the choice for is to live with reality peacefully and at least keep marriages, homes, and families intact, or to make a constant fuss, fighting, divorcing, impoverishing children (which is the end result of divorce) and, often ending up alone. The Thais choose the former, and we the latter--and that seems better to you? |
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Pauleddy
Joined: 19 Mar 2006
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Location: The Big Mango
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I was not stating that any one way of life is better.
As a homosexual man, I quite often "don't understand" all of this hoo ha. Monogamy is rare for me.
At no time did I appear biased either way. I was just responding to the last poster. Of course, polygamy, concubines and mistresses (blah blah) are not unusual. But I feel that, in Thailand, a middle class man can have mistresses etc etc and the main wife will (often) tolerate it, as long as she is taken care of.
A Thai friend of mine, now 35, has many half-sisters. His high-class dad kept 4 wives/girls in the house---and in the 1970s, not the 1920s.
I am unconcerned about how people conduct relationships, as long as they don't harm eachother or the kids.
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Bakunin
Joined: 08 Jan 2009
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| Posted: Tue Mar 02, 2010 4:56 am Post subject: These replies are not relevant to the topic |
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This thread is supposed to be about the best small cities to live in isn't it ?
Well, I lived and worked in Thailand for over 15 years.
Apart from 1 year of living and working in BKK, I spent 9 years in
Kanchanaburi and 4 years in Chachoengsao.
Both towns are nice and not too far from BKK when you need to go and watch a film or do some shopping etc.
When I first started living in Kanchanaburi in 1992, there was only 1 bar in the whole town, but by the time I left the town, it had become much too touristy with too many Farang tourist bars.
But, the town is in a great location with very nice scenery.
Major problem is that it's one of the hottest places in Thailand in April.
Chachoengsao is a nice quiet town that grew on me. At first I thought it was a complete dump. It's not a farang tourist town, so all of the expats you'll meet will be teachers. A nice nightlife scene geared towards the locals and not westerners, but the people are friendly, the food is good, there is now a Major Ciniplex plus bowling. A decent house costs about 3,000 - 4,000 Baht to rent.
The big downside is that the countryside is completely flat ( Holland in Asia ? ) When I lived in Thailand, I visited many provincial towns, and wasn't particularly impressed with Chiang Mai. Hua Hin was okay, but a bit touristy. I agree that Sri Racha is a nice town, and has the bonus of an Immigration office. So for me, the best small city, would be Chachoengsao, followed by Kanchanaburi, Sri Racha, Ayutthaya. |
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Gypsy King
Joined: 05 Mar 2010
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Going back to the main topic of this fouum Chiang Mai has my vote anytime as the best big town to work in the LOS!  |
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