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ChrisRose · Joined: 19 Apr 2003 Posts: 427 Location: Hong Kong

Does anyone have the contact information for Chizuko Aoki?

PM me pls.

Thanks in advance.
Chris

Glenski · Joined: 15 Jan 2003 Posts: 12844 Location: Hokkaido, JAPAN

There are 127 million Japanese here. Can't you give more information?
age
some idea of location or school?

taikibansei · Joined: 14 Sep 2004 Posts: 811 Location: Japan

He's been searching all over the web for this individual...his ex-wife, it would seem. E.g., see this thread here:

http://www.japanforum.com/forum/general-discussion/35118-lost-friend.html

As others have told you, your best bet would be to convince her parents to give out this information to you. That you have contacted them repeatedly with no answer from your ex-wife (even if they did not understand your English exactly, they would have at least told their daughter that a foreigner named Chris Rose called) is your answer, I'm afraid.

seklarwia · Posted: Mon Jan 03, 2011 4:21 am Post subject:

I've seen them, too. And some of the messages are a little concerning.

In at least one post which I will not spread around by posting here, you actually did share some info about her that perhaps she wouldn't appreciate having plastered on public forums where people close to her might come across it.

And some of them as well as seeming the words of an unstable stalker, reek of emotional blackmail. Take this one for example http://oldclassifieds.metropolis.co.jp/viewAd,43132.htm

Then this one kind of implies that you have already been given your answer: http://www.flickr.com/people/christopher_rose/

Has it not occured to you that her parents reluctance to pass on your details is thanks to this woman's wishes? Perhaps she doesn't want to have any contact with you at all, not even to tell you to stop looking for her. It might be due to custom, the fact that she simply doesn't like you anymore, that she feels uncomfortable and doesn't want to risk giving you anything that could be used to track her down, or out of respect for a new partner... I'm pretty sure that if she had wanted to stay in contact with you, you would already have her new contact details.

Do yourself a favour: Get the professional help you have already admitted you need and move on with your life. And think about how your current wife; how will she feel if she finds out you are obsessing over you ex-wife?

Rakuten · Joined: 14 Jun 2010 Posts: 67 Location: Japan

Wow. Really creepy. That's all I'm gonna say about that.

ChrisRose · Joined: 19 Apr 2003 Posts: 427 Location: Hong Kong

Creepy?

Nice comment.

She was my wife. We seperated 17 years ago. Recently I have had some health prolems. I came accorss some opld pictures and all the emotons came flooding back, so I decided to contact her parents.

Alas they dont' speak English ad I dont' speak Japanese. I just want to know if she would be would like to talk and catch up.

I can't really think of any other options for trying to contact her due to the language barrier and the fact I only have her parnets contact number and they won't pass on my contact details to her.

Think what you like, but try to avoid insuting comments or passing judgements.

With regards,

Chris

Bread · Joined: 24 May 2009 Posts: 318

Wouldn't it be easiest to just get a Japanese person to contact her parents by proxy? Surely you can find a Japanese person somewhere.

G Cthulhu · Posted: Mon Jan 03, 2011 8:04 pm Post subject:

Yup, creepy. It's not insulting; it's us telling you how it's coming across. Smile

If you just want to catch up and you know her parents phone number (& presumably address) then just write a letter, address it care of her parents and send it to her. They can pass it on for you. If she responds, great. If not, you've got your answer.

ChrisRose · Joined: 19 Apr 2003 Posts: 427 Location: Hong Kong

Thanks for the obvious.

It has been 17 years, I did try writing and got no replys, so I checked Google maps and the building where her parents used to live is no longer there.

So, a translator, yes I tried. The reply was from her mother that it had been 17 years, she hoped I was happy but would't pass on my contact number to her daughter (my ex).

If she doesn't want to speak with me, it shoudn't be too diffcult for her to either just call, have a friend call or e-mail me. I just would like to know wether or not she might like to chat after all this time or meet up for a coffee in the future.

I note your observations and comments, but please don't turn this thread into some sort of flamming thread.

Regards,
Christopher

TokyoLiz · Joined: 16 Jan 2003 Posts: 1548 Location: Tokyo, Japan

Could the mods remove these messages, please? Allowing these messages here just perpetuates this guy's stalker-like behaviour.

taikibansei · Joined: 14 Sep 2004 Posts: 811 Location: Japan

Actually, TokyoLiz, I'm going to disagree with you--I think this thread should be kept up here as a warning to all who might mistakenly want to help the OP. (This way, it will come up in searches, similar to the thread I found when I initially Googled this topic.) Indeed, just to make sure his latest confession (i.e., that he has actually been told directly that, no, his ex does not want any further contact with him at all) does not get edited out, I'll quote it below again.

ChrisRose · Joined: 19 Apr 2003 Posts: 427 Location: Hong Kong

I have never heard from my ex period. I have only had a translator state that my ex's mother told her I had called but will not give her daughter (my ex.) my contact details.

As for stalker, excuse me. Allow me to re clarify. I was married to the person, haven't spoken or communicated with her for 17 years. I have been trying to ask if she would like to get in touch, however and I do repeat, I have had no word from her.