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shuanglu pijiu
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| maybe the people who run your school have realized how ignorant you are and have decided that they don't like you and don't want to help you. |
seriously. now i'm not saying the school shouldn't have helped you open a bank account - that's pretty standard, though phone stuff is your own responsibility - but the first time you encounter a little difficulty you start going off about tryannical dictatorships and communist overlords? i have no doubt you're a real gem to deal with in the school. |
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dog backwards
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I have to agree with the Great Wall of Whiner about learning the language when one lives in a foreign country. I am guilty of not even learning survival Chinese.
If I HAVE learned anything after a few years in China, it is to be patient. There are so many things that can bring about a meltdown in China if one cannot learn patience. The Chinese experience a lot of frustration in their own lives, I believe. I often wonder how they cope with bureaucracy, unnecessary complications, unbelievable answers to their own questions. The OP's FAO may not know how to do what the OP wants to be done. Really.
I've always worked for public universities, and I've always been paid in cash. If the OP just goes to the local main branches of banks, he'll eventually find somebody who can help him.
Every time I've worked in a new city, I've had to muster up the courage to accomplish everything on my own.
Recently, I had to deal with a bank for the first time in a new city. I had to remind myself my inability to communicate effectively in their language lie at the heart of the problem. When I met with resistance when dealing with a Chinese English speaker, I just smiled and remained as chatty as possible. It went a long way toward helping them to accomplish what I needed to accomplish.
Now, if I could just cross the street without the help of a Chinese eight year-old, life would be bliss. |
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thelmaharper.1921
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| Posted: Wed Apr 06, 2011 7:26 am Post subject: |
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| maybe the people who run your school have realized how ignorant you are and have decided that they don't like you and don't want to help you. |
Can I point out the definition of "ignorant"?
ig�no�rant /ˈɪgnərənt/ Show Spelled
[ig-ner-uhnt] Show IPA
�adjective
1. lacking in knowledge or training; unlearned: an ignorant man.
2. lacking knowledge or information as to a particular subject or fact: ignorant of quantum physics.
3. uninformed; unaware.
4. due to or showing lack of knowledge or training: an ignorant statement.
It means that someone doesn't know. "Obnoxious" is the word you were looking for. Sorry to be pedantic, but I just really hate reading that word used in that way. |
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The Great Wall of Whiner
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| Maybe he actually meant the real meaning? |
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bythebookie
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| Posted: Wed Apr 06, 2011 8:26 am Post subject: Re: My Chinese superiors are refusing to help me |
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I don't know if this is just my bad luck with these individuals or I'm running into a cultural pattern. I have been told I should learn Mandarin. I don't see how I can learn enough Mandarin is a week to deal with my bank or the phone company.
I'm beginning to wonder if there is a hidden resentment towards Americans or if the Chinese are very lazy and unwilling to help because they just don't want to bother themselves, or if there is some other cultural insensitivity involved?
I work long hours to do a good job teaching. Is it wrong of me to expect my supervisors to help me with problems with my bank and my phone company?
Why is my expectation so off base? I am growing weary of the way I am treated here in China. I am very disappointed in the indifference that I am experiencing. I don't think I would have come to China had I known I would be treated like this.
Hoping to hear from those who have more understanding of China than I do.
Wildgander |
I've experienced both extremes of this issue and in the end I've come to the simple conclusion - if I (you) are not able to live and function independently then I (you) don't belong in this foreign country. I've learned to adapt and live my live without codependency. |
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clownshow
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| Is it wrong of me to expect my supervisors to help me with problems with my bank and my phone company? |
If a company hires foreign workers is is not out of line to expect the FAO to arrange help for the foreign worker. Those who berate the op likely couldn't negotiate the economy without help and likely it is a case of the keyboard commandos at work fronting their abilities. |
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MisterButtkins
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| Posted: Wed Apr 06, 2011 9:41 am Post subject: |
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| thelmaharper.1921 wrote: |
| CJD wrote: |
| maybe the people who run your school have realized how ignorant you are and have decided that they don't like you and don't want to help you. |
Can I point out the definition of "ignorant"?
ig�no�rant /ˈɪgnərənt/ Show Spelled
[ig-ner-uhnt] Show IPA
�adjective
1. lacking in knowledge or training; unlearned: an ignorant man.
2. lacking knowledge or information as to a particular subject or fact: ignorant of quantum physics.
3. uninformed; unaware.
4. due to or showing lack of knowledge or training: an ignorant statement.
It means that someone doesn't know. "Obnoxious" is the word you were looking for. Sorry to be pedantic, but I just really hate reading that word used in that way. |
He meant ignorant in sense 4: He is showing that he lacks knowledge of Chinese culture and business practices, and due to this was behaving in an insensitive or obnoxious manner. While 'ignorant' has the literal definitions you stated, it also carries a strong negative connotation and often suggests that the person so described is offensively stupid or lacking in knowledge. |
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shuanglu pijiu
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| Posted: Mon Apr 11, 2011 12:07 pm Post subject: |
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| clownshow wrote: |
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| Is it wrong of me to expect my supervisors to help me with problems with my bank and my phone company? |
If a company hires foreign workers is is not out of line to expect the FAO to arrange help for the foreign worker. Those who berate the op likely couldn't negotiate the economy without help and likely it is a case of the keyboard commandos at work fronting their abilities. |
i'm one of the people who berated the op, but keep in mind i wasn't berating his inability to navigate the situation on his own, i was berating his apparent unwillingness to even try, and his resorting to spewing out all kinds of 'totalitarian dictatorship' rhetoric just because someone wouldn't help him once. if it's such a horrific draconian dictatorship, then why is he or she here?
and i'm not some keyboard warrior. i have a Doctorate in Chinese Linguistics, can read and write well over 15,000 characters, and have worked for years as a legal and immigration interpreter and translator. so no, i'm not just chiding others for doing what i can't do.
that being said, when i first came to China, i knew only a little Chinese. but like many others on here, i sucked it up, went out in the world, and dealt with it like an adult. shocking concept, i know, moving to a new country and being expected to navigate daily life in the LANGUAGE OF THAT COUNTRY. |
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shuanglu pijiu
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