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anthyp

Joined: 16 Apr 2004 Posts: 1320 Location: Chicago, IL USA
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Posted: Sun May 16, 2004 1:22 pm Post subject: |
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Excellent post, leeroy. Capergirl didn't even mention whitjohn in her OP. I think she was talking about the kinds of teachers who shouldn't be teaching. Look, you can defend somebody's right to privacy, but we are talking about teachers here, and some of the actions we've seen lately are hardly appropriate for a teacher. Morality has nothing to do with this. And to say that there are far worse people in this profession than whitjohn or so - and - so is completely missing the point. Those other people shouldn't be teaching, either. |
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Bindair Dundat
Joined: 04 Feb 2003 Posts: 1123
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Posted: Sun May 16, 2004 3:44 pm Post subject: |
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anthyp wrote: |
...some of the actions we've seen lately are hardly appropriate for a teacher. Morality has nothing to do with this. |
If you're not talking about morality, what are you talking about?
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anthyp

Joined: 16 Apr 2004 Posts: 1320 Location: Chicago, IL USA
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Posted: Sun May 16, 2004 4:01 pm Post subject: |
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Well, I am not the type of person to break out the dictionary when trying to explain what I mean. I was trying to distinguish between actions that one might find inappropriate based on one's personal code of ethics (what I meant by "morality"), and behavior clearly wrong for a teacher. Please spare me the dictionary definition; I admit I didn't use the term correctly there. But banging one's students or posting lewd comments about them (or both) certainly falls under the latter.
You can have no problem with what he's doing - it's true, there's a lot worse going on in this world ... but whitjohn is a teacher, and nobody can say this is suitable behavior for a teacher. Don't confuse the point of the OP by making this a "moral police" - type issue. It's not nearly as complex as that. Certain actions are clearly inappropriate for a teacher. |
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Bindair Dundat
Joined: 04 Feb 2003 Posts: 1123
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Posted: Sun May 16, 2004 6:42 pm Post subject: |
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anthyp wrote: |
Well, I am not the type of person to break out the dictionary when trying to explain what I mean. |
Nor am I. I don't normally need to.
anthyp wrote: |
I was trying to distinguish between actions that one might find inappropriate based on one's personal code of ethics (what I meant by "morality"), and behavior clearly wrong for a teacher. Please spare me the dictionary definition; I admit I didn't use the term correctly there. But banging one's students or posting lewd comments about them (or both) certainly falls under the latter. |
Pardon my pointing out the obvious, but you're talking about behavior that is "clearly wrong" in your opinion, and in the opinion of several other posters in this thread. You can be forgiven for confusing your opinion with a universal code of morality, particularly since you have found people who share that opinion; however, it is still only an opinion, and only one of many.
anthyp wrote: |
You can have no problem with what he's doing - it's true, there's a lot worse going on in this world ... but whitjohn is a teacher, and nobody can say this is suitable behavior for a teacher. |
Anyone who wants to can decide that it *is* suitable behavior, and there are many teachers, students, and concerned parties who would and have, obviously; many more than you'd like to believe. There are no universal ethical standards that I know of in this world.
anthyp wrote: |
Don't confuse the point of the OP by making this a "moral police" - type issue. It's not nearly as complex as that. Certain actions are clearly inappropriate for a teacher. |
Got all your bases covered, huh? Don't say this, don't say that, and "It's not nearly as complex as that". Not for you it isn't; not for Whitjohn, either. I'm glad that you see things as clearly as he does.
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arioch36
Joined: 21 Jan 2003 Posts: 3589
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Posted: Sun May 16, 2004 7:06 pm Post subject: |
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So if I had a Japanese teacher. A female, 35, a doctor who taught me as a part time hobby/job and she asked me out to dinner and after a damn good night out we ended up in the sack would she be a "predator" a "sick teacher who got my mother's child into bed"?
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If you were a 18-20 year old Chinese student, and a 50-60 year old female teacher had sex with you and many other teen boys as she could ...that is the question to ask here. And yeah, I would say she had a problem.
The diference, I think many men might not mind having it published that they had sex with a woman. I don't know if any women would care to have such things posted. Or do any of the whitjohn defenders care about how a giirl feels aboutthis issue (In case you haven't notices, men and women are different)
Though if you had a girlfriend you cared about, and a teacher posted this about you, I would imagine things wouldn't be so pleasant. |
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James_T_Kirk

Joined: 20 Sep 2003 Posts: 357 Location: Ten Forward
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Posted: Sun May 16, 2004 9:41 pm Post subject: |
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So these are the issues..
He lusts over girls far younger than him.
I have to admit that when I see a 60 year old with an 18 year old, I feel a bit queezy too. I can understand his preference though - I'd rather go for an 18 year old than a granny any day of the week, and I'm told that this feeling of physical preference doesn't go away over time. But on asking my Dad (who's divorced) why he goes for women his age instead of any younger (assuming he'd even be able to!) - he told me that in time you learn to look for more in a woman than a tight body. Things like character and intelligence become integral parts of a woman's sex appeal. As men mature, so should, in a way, their sex drives. |
Welcome back Leeroy...what happened to your avatar?
I would like to respectively disagree with one of the issues that you have outlined in this situation. While Whitjohn's blog and the fact that he is a teacher not living up to his obligations certainly are issues, I don't think Whitjohn's lust over younger women is an issue here at all.
I have a different take on why Whitjohn is attracted to these younger women (and I am surprised no one has mentioned this yet): I think he likes them because they make him feel young. My father lives in Latin America, where it is normal for men in their 40s, 50s, and 60s to date/marry women in their 20s, 30s, and 40s. Many of my father's friends are with women considerably younger than them (I know one guy in his late 60s married to a 27 year old), and I think one of the main attractions is that when these guys are with these younger women, they feel as if they are young again too. Sure, there is the whole physical attraction thing, but for these older men, that feeling of youth is priceless and really what they are after.
I hate to compare Whitjohn's situation to the older guys I know in Latin America for several reasons (they are monogamous and he isn't, they don't create blogs detailing their relationships, they are not teachers, etc), but I think that perhaps they share the same motivations. While some older guys appreciate mature women the same age, others prefer the "fountain of youth" that perhaps only younger women can offer. |
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anthyp

Joined: 16 Apr 2004 Posts: 1320 Location: Chicago, IL USA
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Posted: Mon May 17, 2004 2:23 am Post subject: |
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Neither am I one of those who likes to quote entire passages from posts, asking self - congratulatory, smart - alecky questions after each selection, in an attempt to avoid addressing the issue directly. Come on, you can play all the cutesy word games you want. Certain actions are just inappropriate for a teacher. No "universal code of ethics" for teachers exists, I agree with you there. None should. But
1. Banging one's students
2. Posting photos with lewd comments about them on the web
Certainly falls under the category of "inappropriate behavior for teachers." Are you being serious here? Nobody in the world would say this is appropriate behavior for a teacher. Would you? |
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Aramas
Joined: 13 Feb 2004 Posts: 874 Location: Slightly left of Centre
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Posted: Mon May 17, 2004 3:10 am Post subject: |
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That list could be extended to include violent or abusive behaviour, sexist or racist comments, inappropriate dress or grooming, tardiness etc. However, none of those things involve sex, and as we all know, sex is filthy and digusting and it must be stopped!
The thing is that teachers are no different to anyone else. The term 'professional' has become meaningless in that it now refers to sports people, pool boys and garbage men etc.. Being 'professional' means turning up on time, dressing appropriately and delivering a product or service of marketable quality. It doesn't, however, define what is appropriate. The schoolmarms are trying to bully their way into establishing the EFL industry's version of a Code of Ethics, which apart from its comedic value doesn't have a lot to recommend it.
How about If your principle goal is to lord it over your students, you are not fit for a career in teaching. ?
It addresses the sex issue along with violence, racism, sexism and verbal abuse, but I doubt it will prove popular. After all, sex is evil, and it sells. I suspect that a lot of EFL teachers get off on their percieved social status, and feel that lording it over students is their god given right. Teachers, like nurses, shopkeepers, butchers, bakers and candlestick makers are traditionally considered to be upper working-class, and should not be confused with lecturers or tutors at universities. While technically teaching and nursing have been raised to the level of a 'profession' in recent years, their social status hasn't, and is still the same as it always was - and that makes some people's shoulder-chips itch. Some people just like the feel of bunched panties, I suppose  |
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rj

Joined: 29 Mar 2004 Posts: 159
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Posted: Mon May 17, 2004 3:35 am Post subject: |
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For those who think that there is nothing wrong with a teacher's primary goal being to bang their students, would you also agree that it is acceptable to mention that during your interview? I have yet to see any posts in this forum that advocate doing that, but I have seen several stating that under no circumstances should you include that kind of information in the hiring process. If there is nothing wrong with it, then what is the harm in admitting it? Surely there are some enlightened university employers out there who wouldn't get their panties in a bunch over such a thing. |
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Aramas
Joined: 13 Feb 2004 Posts: 874 Location: Slightly left of Centre
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Posted: Mon May 17, 2004 4:32 am Post subject: |
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There's a difference between thinking there's nothing wrong with it and figuring that it's none of my business. When did it become compulsory for EFL teachers to share a hive mind? |
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Bindair Dundat
Joined: 04 Feb 2003 Posts: 1123
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Posted: Mon May 17, 2004 5:45 am Post subject: |
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anthyp wrote: |
Come on, you can play all the cutesy word games you want. Certain actions are just inappropriate for a teacher. No "universal code of ethics" for teachers exists, I agree with you there. None should. |
Great! I'm glad we agree on that.
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Are you being serious here? Nobody in the world would say this is appropriate behavior for a teacher. Would you? |
For whom would you consider it appropriate behavior? What he is doing would be offensive to many people regardless of what he does for a living. Teachers are not subject to any exceptional moral obligations except those that pertain to their work. Those obligations are usually spelled out clearly by such instruments as job contracts, laws, and the by-laws and operating principles of professional associations. They change from place to place and time to time.
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tgb
Joined: 12 Jun 2003 Posts: 76 Location: GZ
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Posted: Mon May 17, 2004 5:46 am Post subject: To Rhonda |
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Rhonda Place wrote: |
It is true I am OLD - 57, but Caper Girl is young. I fully understand the attraction to these younger girls, I am just saying that a 40 YEAR GAP is unacceptable IN ANY COUNTRY - let alone for a Teacher to be "dating" students, or girls of a similar age. |
Hey Rhonda...i was going to stay away from this...but i feel i have to reply. Surely if two people are in love...age doesn't matter provided they are both adults. Perhaps you are going too far when you say that a 40 year gap is unacceptable IN ANY COUNTRY. I've always found that love between two adults is always acceptable...regardless of age, creed or any other barriers the moral minority want to try to impose on us.
This agism disturbs me a little Rhonda...it seems out of character. I can see an ethical argument with regards to dating students but the age thing seems odd.
Incidentally...i'm not accusing Mr Whitjon of having anything to do with his students...just curious about the comments about age.
anyway...i look forward to hearing your response
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arioch36
Joined: 21 Jan 2003 Posts: 3589
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Posted: Mon May 17, 2004 5:56 am Post subject: |
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I do know of a 60 year old Aussie thinking of marrying a 28 ??? y/o Chinese girl. But he is only going after one girl, with a serious interest, not going after multiple girl students, and not posting his exploits on the web. |
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tgb
Joined: 12 Jun 2003 Posts: 76 Location: GZ
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Posted: Mon May 17, 2004 6:03 am Post subject: Age gap |
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arioch36 wrote: |
I do know of a 60 year old Aussie thinking of marrying a 28 ??? y/o Chinese girl. But he is only going after one girl, with a serious interest, not going after multiple girl students, and not posting his exploits on the web. |
Yeah...thats what i was talking about in my post. maybe i should have marked it OT...i'm not really interested in talking about the actual topic. Hey...if he is serious and she likes him...good luck to him i say. The world is a nasty enough place...a little happiness goes a long way.
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Bindair Dundat
Joined: 04 Feb 2003 Posts: 1123
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Posted: Mon May 17, 2004 7:03 am Post subject: |
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rj wrote: |
For those who think that there is nothing wrong with a teacher's primary goal being to bang their students, would you also agree that it is acceptable to mention that during your interview? |
Although I am not by any stretch of the imagination ashamed of my sexual behavior, I don't discuss it in interviews. Do you discuss yours?
Neither do I discuss my politics, my religious beliefs, my preference in underwear colors, or how many mites I dug out of my dog's ears yesterday. Some things are just not relevant to one's performance.
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