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32 year old alt with wife and baby
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rxk22



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PostPosted: Wed May 21, 2014 11:25 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Wow, Nights, some nice detective work there. Looks like the guy is looking to take an almost 50% paycut to come to Japan. Interesting, or better yet BS on the 10m yen salary
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weigookin74



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PostPosted: Thu May 22, 2014 9:27 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

mateacher wrote:
I make about 10 million yen now equivalent and can save about 30k per year, but when I lived in japan and earned about 6 million yen and had no kids I found it tough. My friend makes about 300.000 and doesn't seem to have plan apart from getting drunk every Wednesday, Friday and Saturday. In fact his salary is less than it was about 10 years ago but he now has a 1 year old child. His old bag of a wife will probably want another child soon enough, his plan is just to do more privates. Is it me or are these kind of people stupid, future blind or oblivious?


IPAYINCASH, we have all wondered where you went. Your 82 million dollar home, your 13 million dollar private jet, your bling, and the like....
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RM1983



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PostPosted: Thu May 22, 2014 10:52 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

I thought itd be obvious that if youre gonna be an English Teacher you GOTTA marry a girl from a rich family. Now teaching is my hobby, but you know Japan isnt known for the cheddarz
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PostPosted: Thu May 22, 2014 10:54 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

RM1983 wrote:
I thought itd be obvious that if youre gonna be an English Teacher you GOTTA marry a girl from a rich family. Now teaching is my hobby, but you know Japan isnt known for the cheddarz


Crud! I must've missed that memo ๐Ÿ˜ž
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mateacher



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PostPosted: Fri May 23, 2014 2:30 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

sorry you are all jealous and dont believe my salary. If you had read closely it said an equivalent of 10 million yen. I work at a university and I get free rent for a 3 bedroom and utilities. I also get healthcare. Sometimes during the 5 months off I teach some summer or winter sessions for overtime pay. Due to the lower deductions in Korea, my total salary works out to about 10 million yen equivalent.
Sorry if you don't like it, but that's what my salary is and I am not ashamed of it at all. It pretty good for ESL. Probably better than anyone on this board I guess from the hate.
I was also looking for positions in Japan since I lived there a long time ago and enjoyed it. I was looking at positions paying between 5 and 7 million because that's all I could find. I was thinking of working part time at another university during the research days to top up the salary to something close to 7-9 million. And some of those university positions I applied to in Japan had subsidized housing which would further top up the salary close to 10 million if you take into account a 2 or 3 bed in most major cities is at minimum 100.000 yen per month.
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rxk22



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PostPosted: Fri May 23, 2014 4:17 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

HAHAHAHA, no. No one is jealous of you. Wow man, seriously, you sound like an awful person. I really hope that you are a troll. Otherwise, work on getting a personality.
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RM1983



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PostPosted: Sat May 24, 2014 12:43 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

To indulge this a little bit, I have huge doubts about ever having a baby here, but not especially because of money. People, everywhere, often have kids when they arent enormously financially secure and they manage to get by. The wife can get a job when te kids are old enough, and that is just for starters.

Id also say most people dont come here expecting to get rich. I know Korea has many people who go solely to make a quick buck so it's a slightly different situation.

The reaction you got though is cos it is a bit of a personal question isnt it? Would you go up to someone back home and needle them in the same way?
It might be an American thing (?) but in the UK it is considered really rude to start questioning people's life decisions like that, especially when you dont know them. Also boasting about your own salary isnt a good look usually. I think that it is a valid question but id advise you be more aware of cultural differences between expats when you post in future.
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mateacher



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PostPosted: Sat May 24, 2014 7:29 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

yeah, your right I am an awful person for trying to save up enough money to be able to retire when I hit 65. And it is a sin to want to have a salary that is enough to send my kids to an international school and a western university in the future. If you say those kind of things, it implies jealousy. I guess in your book it is an honorable thing to be poor and an ALT and have no ambition.
to address further points, I wasn't poking fun at the guy! who happens to be my friend but I was trying to understand what goes through his head! I thought I would address a similar audience on the Japan forum since most people here are on entry level positions. I know this myself from being in an entry level position about 15 years ago and being quite active on the forums, since I started working at universities I posted less and less. Now the only time I post is to ask genuine questions! I.e. salaries and working conditions at universities or other questions Facebook friends who used to be eikaiwa colleagues in japan have either asked or I have been curious about.
And yes, I am bored at work, most people are bored at work. When I am bored I look at esl cafe forums like most people working in esl to get a general picture of what is going on. There is a lot of animosity toward me which is obviously due to my salary, which in fact is not that much. Most of my colleagues have similar or higher salaries and are not rich by any account, they have old cars, cheap clothes and do not do much. They are generally struggling to send their own children to university or trying to build up a retirement fun. They say to retire at 65 you need a million dollars,so my alt friend basically is in denial and is continuing on this path of apathy and my question was not only to him but obviously other forum members about what are their plans due to the above. Or are most of you like him, kind of in blind denial and future blind? And he is not a dumb guy, far from it.
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mitsui



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PostPosted: Sat May 24, 2014 9:04 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

If you make that salary then stay in Korea.

For people with a kid I would say go move to the UAE and go to an international school.
Things are getting worse in Japan. Wages have dropped.
People stay here if they have a Japanese spouse or can`t get a better job somewhere else.
Some Japanese partners really do not want to live overseas.
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rtm



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PostPosted: Sat May 24, 2014 9:10 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

mateacher wrote:
yeah, your right I am an awful person for trying to save up enough money to be able to retire when I hit 65. And it is a sin to want to have a salary that is enough to send my kids to an international school and a western university in the future. If you say those kind of things, it implies jealousy.

The things you say above are respectable, and I don't think anyone would fault you for using your money on your children's education or saving for retirement. I think what people were objecting to were things like:
mateacher wrote:
I had a nice modern apartment in kamakura overlooking the sea? I had good quality furniture! a good american kitchen. I had a nice car. I would buy food at the American buyers club and costco. I would have a few girlfriends and go to clubs in Tokyo. There were always bills coming through the post car tax, gas bills, shaken, health and city tax. It wasn't easy even on 6 million in my late twenties. I would take two, two month vacations a year which would eat up anything I had managed to save.

People were knocking you because you come across as thinking that the above are necessities. Your previous posts indicated that a salary that doesn't allow lengthy vacations and nice cars (rather than saving for retirement or your children's education) is not enough to live on.

I also don't see your current salary as very relevant, although you have brought it up in many of your posts. Yes, you ask questions about salary and conditions at jobs in Japan, but, whether it is intended or not, you also come off as bragging quite a bit.

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I guess in your book it is an honorable thing to be poor and an ALT and have no ambition.
No, I don't think that's honorable at all. But, your OP only indicated that he is an ALT, not that he is poor or has no ambition. He might have different ambitions and values than you, however.
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I thought I would address a similar audience on the Japan forum since most people here are on entry level positions.
I think there might be more variation here than you think.
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rxk22



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PostPosted: Sat May 24, 2014 11:08 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

LOL, you sound like you have a mental disorder. Yes we are all haters and are jelly of you,

I have a nice permanent teaching job, that I may keep, or go else where. Not sure yet. Not entry level at all.

BTW a million to retire? Did you hear that, or do you know? I know quite a bit about stocks, and with your crazy spending habits, I hope you do as well.


BTW, doesn't matter the topic, if you come off as an abrasive jerk, people will respond to you negatively. Hope you aren't quite the *beep* in real life, as you are here.
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nightsintodreams



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PostPosted: Sat May 24, 2014 1:43 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

I for one just want to make it clear that I do believe you earn the equivalent of 10 million yen, and yes I would love to be making that much myself.

My Salary is actually very close (perhaps a little more or a little less) to the salary you claim to have been making in your late twenties a long time ago, and guess what?! I myself am in my late twenties, so no I'm not particularly jealous of you, especially when you consider that today's TEFL job market is a very different one (not only in Japan but globally) to the the one you experienced.

That is not the reason I am criticising you though.

I am criticising you because you are a "BEEP".

I would not go onto the forum for Brazil (or any other for that matter) and start a comment saying "My friend is working in Brazil and only earning 1500 dollars a month, how can he live like that? I earn 50 million dollars and am struggling" while knowing full well that many of the people on that forum earn a similar salary.

Its just a dickish thing to do...

... and if you cant see that then it is you who has a problem. You're a fully gown man for Christs sake. Take up sewing, golf...masturbation or whatever it is that people do when they go through a late midlife crisis.

Leave us alone and stop judging people publicly by your standards of what it means to be successful or to lead a fulfilling life. My sister is working in another country and earning about 1000 dollars a month, but she lives good life, is happy and a decent person which is more than can be said for you.
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mateacher



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PostPosted: Sat May 24, 2014 5:36 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

I think you are critical of me, and it must be due to jealously.

I never went on the forum to brag, I went on it because I actually asked my friend what will you do in the future and he said to me he has no idea. I wanted to see if this was the general way ALTs and eikaiwa guys think. All I got was abuse, obviously due the fact I am marginally successful.

I am telling you the truth, if you want to live what most people would call a middle class American lifestyle in Japan you need to earn at minimum 6 million without children.

I am offended that you are saying I am a dick or going through a mid life crisis, that is not why I use efl cafe forums. The normal way I use the forum as you well know is to find out peoples salaries and work conditions and then apply to those jobs.
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rtm



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PostPosted: Sat May 24, 2014 7:13 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

mateacher wrote:
I think you are critical of me, and it must be due to jealously.
No jealousy here. I actually make more than you do. I just haven't stated as such because it really isn't relevant to any of this discussion.

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I never went on the forum to brag
Have you ever heard the phrase "If you're the only one right, then you are probably wrong"? It might not have been your intention to brag, but that's how everyone else here understood it, so please understand that that IS how it appears.

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I went on it because I actually asked my friend what will you do in the future and he said to me he has no idea. I wanted to see if this was the general way ALTs and eikaiwa guys think.
Then why did you start talking about your current salary and your salary in previous jobs? Completely irrelevant to the discussion you say you wanted to have. You could have just asked "Are you guys making plans for the future? What kind of plans?" and left it at that. But, you didn't. What you say you wanted to know has nothing to do with your current salary, or even your friend's salary, wife, etc., really.

If you want to know what I'm doing for saving for the future, personally, I am paying into the retirement system in my current location (I'm not in Japan anymore), as is my employer, and I also have a good amount invested in stocks.
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rxk22



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PostPosted: Sun May 25, 2014 10:39 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Oh we must be Jealous Rolling Eyes Why are you so pathologically fixated on that part? No one cares! We think you come off as a jerk.

And RTM just crushed you and your misplaced pride Razz
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