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Maitoshi
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| Cool! I have no idea if the repeated visa runs will be a problem, but it sounds like you are already apart, so any time together would be better than things currently stand. Your husband really needs to start putting you first, though. Why is he so concerned about a company he may or may not leave in the near future, anyway? People's circumstances and minds change all the time. |
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cookiemon
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| Posted: Thu Oct 01, 2015 11:55 pm Post subject: |
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| Yeah, I know. He's not seeing it as an either/or proposition, just one requires him to ask more of his company and both achieve the same result (he's hoping). I would probably feel bad in his position too. The job in Japan is not something they'd do if they knew he was leaving for sure, as it's costing them extra money that they see as a worthwhile investment. He's going to ask, he just feels guilty over how thick they're laying on the "future of the company" thing. If I could get the same visa a different way, it would make him feel like less of an arsehole. I've told him the same things you said, and he agrees theoretically, but he feels how he feels. |
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nightsintodreams
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| Posted: Fri Oct 02, 2015 7:09 am Post subject: |
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| Don't feel bad about misleading a company in Japan, there isn't a single one that will feel bad about misleading you. |
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Maitoshi
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| Posted: Fri Oct 02, 2015 8:48 am Post subject: |
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| I don't think it is a Japanese company, Nights. |
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Lamarr
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| Posted: Fri Oct 02, 2015 7:16 pm Post subject: |
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I had a friend who came into Japan on a tourist visa. He got the 3 months initially, then renewed it at the immigration office for a further 3 months (you can get 6 months in total). Once he'd reached the end of that second 3-month visa, him and his Japanese partner flew out of the country and flew back in. They both had to do what sounded like a lengthy interview at the airport when they returned. I think what it boiled down to was that his partner could show that she was working and had enough money to support him.
IIRC he didn't have to do any more visa runs out of the country after that. I'd think, as long as your husband can show he's working, and earning enough to support you, you should be OK. |
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Maitoshi
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| Posted: Fri Oct 02, 2015 10:49 pm Post subject: |
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| Would this work if neither partner is Japanese? |
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Lamarr
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| Posted: Fri Oct 02, 2015 11:42 pm Post subject: |
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| Maitoshi wrote: |
| Would this work if neither partner is Japanese? |
I don't see why not, as long as one person is earning enough to support two people. And being married will only strengthen your case.
In my friend's case, he was the unemployed foreigner, and they weren't married. |
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cookiemon
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| Posted: Sat Oct 03, 2015 2:23 am Post subject: |
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Ah, good to know about staying on a tourist visa. I'll actually be definitely be leaving the country in late December to go to a friend's wedding, then coming back again. If I can't get a dependent visa by then I'll make sure I have my marriage certificate and proof of my husband's job just in case. I'm not 100% sure that we'll be traveling together at that time. It will depend on how much vacation time he can take.
As for my husband's company, yeah, it's not Japanese. It's American.
Thanks for the input, all. |
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timothypfox
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| Posted: Mon Oct 05, 2015 12:39 am Post subject: |
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CUT MY COMMENT - I WAS BEING INSENSITIVE - SORRY
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cookiemon
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| Posted: Mon Oct 05, 2015 12:38 pm Post subject: |
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| timothypfox wrote: |
Cookieman, since you are sharing personal details about your relationship, I'll go beyond giving you just an ESL teacher's advice. And I speak from experience.
Changing countries with any spouse will lead to a change of dynamics in the relationship. That is to say your roles in the relationship will change once you come to Japan. Things you did for your home, you may not be able to do anymore or as easily. And the same goes for your husband. Or, in your case it sounds like you will depend much more on your husband than you did in the past.
Be careful of being clear with each other what it is you individually want. It won't do any good in the long run to do anything to put your husband's career in flames just because he's trying to please you. That will lead to long term resentment and emotional distancing. Make sure it is both you and he that want to leave Japan after a year - and not just you.
Why is your husband moving to Japan if the company is happier with him in America? If you wait out the immigration thing, there are many many more opportunities for you to work in America than in Japan.
Why are you going to Australia? Was that your decision or his, or both of yours? Again, be clear and make sure you are not pressuring your husband in anyway after he worked hard to build up his career.
Just a few thoughts. Sorry if I gauged a bit deep here, but I do talk from experience here. |
Yeah, you did gauge a bit deep here. It's really not necessary. The details were given for nuanced answers and not to beg for relationship advice. We're good, thanks.
Any other information that anyone has that is relevant to the questions I've asked is very welcome. |
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timothypfox
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| Posted: Mon Oct 12, 2015 4:35 pm Post subject: |
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| Sorry Cookiemon. I guess I did come off a bit rude in my post. |
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