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ghost



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PostPosted: Sat Jan 13, 2007 11:45 pm    Post subject: The same story in Taiwan Reply with quote

The same thing happened in Taiwan all the time, during the time ghost spent there...."have you eaten yet?" or "ni chifan le ma?" several times a day ......

It is a cultural thing with the Chinese....and yes, food, is one of the most important things in life for the Chinese....but all the more so in Chinese/Taiwanese culture...

If one has not eaten, then nothing will be done....and ghost noticed there were advantages to this.....for example, no Taiwanese in their right mind does exercise between noon to 2pm....and this was fine with ghost who had the local swimming pool (all 8 lanes) all to itself during those lunchtime hours.....Taiwanese colleagues would constantly ask ghost why it exercised during the lunch hour, and ghost would reply "why not?"...to the Taiwanese response....."noon time is for eating..." and then the same nonsense would repeat itself at 6pm, when 99.9% of the Taiwanese could be observed speeding throught their evening meal....no matter where they were located....

ghost, Montreal French school board substitute teacher
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Gauguin



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PostPosted: Sun Jan 14, 2007 6:55 am    Post subject: The Genuine Object Reply with quote

I'm a single Englishman (45+) who is always getting hit on by American but especially Australian ladies. I�m not sure whether it�s the accent or wot!

Let me put forward an alternative �Supermarket� scenario. (All in good fun)

A: A rather large American lady with three chins.
B: An English gent, no beer gut and breathing unaided.

English gent reaches the check out, says �Hi� to the cute check out girl and seeing that the slim pretty lady behind him who has only one or two items in her hand offers to let her through first. As she passes he comments, with a smile that he also uses that brand of coffee / shampoo / tampons.

Next, the American lady comes up to check out with a trolley full of diet coke, Hershey bars, micro wave meals and double buttered popcorn. There is a piece of fruit, a lone apple which she picks up, looks at confused and mumbles �How the heck did that get in there?� Tossing it onto the gum tray she pauses, her hand reaches back to the tray and comes away with a dozen packs of gum. Suddenly, she notices the Brit watching her, so she smiles coyly revealing a set of teeth normally seen on a horse.

Lady: �Hi! How are we today?�

Gent: �Married! very married. With five kids, invalided parents living with me and a huge mortgage�. Byeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee

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veiledsentiments



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PostPosted: Sun Jan 14, 2007 3:51 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Laughing I have always wondered at how it is that the average male of all nationalities assumes that a casual greeting is being 'hit on.'

And if she said, "Hi, how are we today?" - she probably wasn't American... can't recall anyone here saying 'how are we?' when speaking to an individual.

And I don't think it qualifies as a pick-up line... (and which brand of tampons is it that you use? and what for, pray tell?)

VS
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PostPosted: Sun Jan 14, 2007 5:27 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Very Happy

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ghost



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PostPosted: Sun Jan 14, 2007 7:42 pm    Post subject: the truth... Reply with quote

Americans, often, are more friendly in the small talk department.....and ghost notices this every time it goes to the States from Canada, where the behaviour is more similar to British....reserved that is...and less talkative....(in Canada..)

In U.S. stores and restaurants the service people tend to lay it on thick with "and how are you today," "have a nice day," "will it be the same order as last time," and many other examples.

Nothing wrong with all that....it is cultural, even though Brits. and Aussies often interpret that type of behaviour as "overkill."

The comments on the food choices are very apt, and it is indeed interesting to spend time at checkout counters and observe people, their physiques and then the contents of their trolleys...and there is, indeed, usually a very strong correlation between those things......

Ghost, French Montreal school board substitute teacher
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redcliff



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PostPosted: Sun Jan 14, 2007 11:14 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

let me intercede quickly so this doesn't digress into a Canadian vs American whose better at the "how's it hanging" thread.

off topic on Malaysia again...

Did any of the other posters (?) who have worked in Malaysia notice the tendancy of the people there to inexplicibly drop there T's so that restaurant was restauran ?

One unforgettable experience I had occurred when a female student of mine in social studies told me she wanted to do her project on the semen shortage in Malaysia.

Surprise was my first thought, that I could perhaps make a few easy bucks on the side the second.

It was only after I asked her to explain why she thought this was a problem did I realize she had dropped her T and she was infact talking about the cemenT shortage. Wink
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veiledsentiments



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PostPosted: Mon Jan 15, 2007 1:04 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Now that was funny... Cool

Perhaps there is no ending 't' in their language?

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PostPosted: Mon Jan 15, 2007 5:24 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

I'm surprised it's not the opposite, that they're not trying to conceal it. You must look like an Emirates flight crew member! It's a bit contrary to some of the things I've seen in the UAE...in many cases men who send their wives and kids home to (country of origin) are subject to carry-on with another girlfriend in the country. Before any men slam me for stereotyping, I'm not saying you all do it, but it's not uncommon, either. The fact that they're telling you this may mean a) you're giving off some scent b) they're a bit overly sensitive (you can fill in your own reason why that is!)
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Cleopatra



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PostPosted: Mon Jan 15, 2007 9:13 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

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men who send their wives and kids home to (country of origin)


I've always really disliked this phrase - men 'sending' their families home as though they were a DHL package with no initiative of their own. Reading such phrases makes me thank my lucky stars I'm not a wife, much less one of the compound variety.



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(except for one I knew, from Belfast, but too much perfection from one small island would be just too...perfect, right?)


Belfast, eh? Well, that explains everything, really.
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PostPosted: Mon Jan 15, 2007 9:54 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

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much less one of the compound variety.
the compound variety wife? please expand on this Cleo.
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Cleopatra



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PostPosted: Mon Jan 15, 2007 11:18 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

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the compound variety wife? please expand on this Cleo.


Not much to expand upon, really.

Think of the following:

- dull coffee mornings
- dull Canadian/USAnian/UKnian women's association meetings
- Sri Lankan/Philipino/Eritrean 'help'
- dull outings for "Western passport holders only" (though the driver may be exempted from this normally stringent requirement)
- dull children who go to the British/Canadian/'international' school

.... and there you have a picture of that endlessly intriguing figure, the Compound Wife.
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PostPosted: Mon Jan 15, 2007 1:50 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Cleo--Bravo. I noticed this to an appalling degree at the Raytheon compound in Jeddah. I was really disgusted by those compound housewives who thought anyone who would go back to the West and actually PAY TAXES was INSANE and why would anybody want to live and work back in the West when you could stay here on this compound with your servants and play tennis and swim all day and be mean to people you consider poorly dressed or low-status teachers instead of administrators...while saving all that money? Oh--and by the way, the most egregious of such Compound Cathys were Koreans and Latinas. The few American wives were not that bad.
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PostPosted: Mon Jan 15, 2007 1:59 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

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I was really disgusted by those compound housewives who thought anyone who would go back to the West and actually PAY TAXES was INSANE


At least those people were being honest and admitted that they were on to a good deal. Worse are those who continually b***h about the natives and the help and the 'restrictions' and yet in so many ways enjoy a lifestyle they could never afford back in Perth or Vancouver. Of course, this is not only true of the "Compound Cathies" (LOL!) but of so many expats in general.


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Oh--and by the way, the most egregious of such Compound Cathys were Koreans and Latinas, wives of Americans.


Have no personal experience of such people (nor do I ever intend to) but what you say wouldn't surprise me. To indulge in a stereotype, I suppose you might say that women from these cultures may be predisposed to such a mentality, given that the whole idea of the 'kept wife' never became unfashionable there.

Or did it?
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PostPosted: Mon Jan 15, 2007 1:59 pm    Post subject: Haven you tekken your supper?! Reply with quote

Redcliff--Here's another little snippet of my Malaysia chapter, about just that topic:

As for accent and pronunciation, Paul Theroux describes the Singapore/Malaysian English dialect in his novel Saint Jack:

True [Singapore] Chinese is impossible to
reproduce without distraction� The �flied lice�
and �no tickee, no [laundlee]� variety is really
no closer to the real thing than the plain speech
I have just put in Big Hing�s mouth. Chinese
do more than transpose r and l, and v and b,
and s and sh. They swallow most of their
consonants and they seldom give a word an
ending: a glottal stop amputates every final
syllable. So what Big Hing really said was,
�Shi� duh�,� [for �sit down�] and �We go� a
pro�lu��; there is no point in being faithful to
this yammering.


The vocabulary is simplified, using a few catchall verbs and nouns to replace lexical complexity. You might be on business in KL and when it�s time to leave, your hosts will kindly announce �I�ll send you to the airpo�!� They really mean they�ll take you to the airport. This begs the question, what do they say when they�re actually sending you away, rather than �driving� or �taking� you? I am not sure, because fuzzy language leads to fuzzy thinking, such as Malaysian college students describing a country�s �standard� of living when they�re really discussing cost of living. They never mention the latter, so the former stands for both, and it�s confusing.

Some slight language barriers hinder my first feeble attempts at meeting local women. A Chinese hottie in the reception room of an automotive workshop turns me down because, she says, �You spea� with hayvy slang!�
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PostPosted: Wed Jan 17, 2007 8:50 am    Post subject: To get back to those English men.... Reply with quote

I've noticed that not all married British men wear wedding rings. Given that in our multicultural workplaces the wearing of a wedding ring gives a fairly clear signal that one is married, maybe they are just trying to clarify.

I say fairly clear because I have also noticed that sometimes what we could call confirmed bachelors sport a ring on the appropriate finger at work, presumably to prevent any gossip.

Not a hand fetishist, just observant...
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