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johnslat

Joined: 21 Jan 2003 Posts: 13859 Location: Santa Fe, New Mexico, USA
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Posted: Thu Nov 12, 2009 1:52 am Post subject: |
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Dear Deicide,
Not always - but like marriage, living alone has its upsides and its downsides.
For me, the downsides outweigh the upsides; for others, maybe it's the opposite.
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John |
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littleoldlady

Joined: 06 Apr 2009 Posts: 286 Location: knitting heaven
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Posted: Thu Nov 12, 2009 7:32 am Post subject: |
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Loneliness sucks.
But, I have my cyberfriends to keep me happy.  |
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With Malice Toward None
Joined: 20 Oct 2009 Posts: 250
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Posted: Thu Nov 12, 2009 7:43 am Post subject: |
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Dear JS,
I do not know really whether you enjoy being single, or, just the experience of having been married once is enough- but either way, you don't seem to have done poorly, at all. Congratulations. I and my wife had our 25th ann.(silver, they call it) on the 2nd Nov and we didn't have too many regrets. We do fight and the upsides and downsides are all there but at the end of the day I wouldn't call it a bad deal at all. It takes a lot of patience to stay together,wallah! The major problem is with the kids and relatives, , , , , , ,and so on.
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trapezius

Joined: 13 Aug 2006 Posts: 1670 Location: Land of Culture of Death & Destruction
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Posted: Thu Nov 12, 2009 2:38 pm Post subject: |
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| The Day of Judgement can't come any sooner for such 'humans'. |
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johnslat

Joined: 21 Jan 2003 Posts: 13859 Location: Santa Fe, New Mexico, USA
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Posted: Thu Nov 12, 2009 2:47 pm Post subject: |
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Dear WMTN,
"I do not know really whether you enjoy being single, or, just the experience of having been married once is enough-"
I didn't enjoy being single all that much - which is why I've tried being married three times.
The third time seems to be lucky - we celebrated our fifth anniversary(a record for me) a couple of months ago.
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John |
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veiledsentiments

Joined: 20 Feb 2003 Posts: 17644 Location: USA
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Posted: Thu Nov 12, 2009 3:39 pm Post subject: |
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| littleoldlady wrote: |
Loneliness sucks.
But, I have my cyberfriends to keep me happy.  |
Cyberfriends have certainly changed things for the better, but I've never found that being alone = loneliness. There is no one more lonely than someone trapped in an unhappy relationship.
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With Malice Toward None
Joined: 20 Oct 2009 Posts: 250
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Posted: Thu Nov 12, 2009 3:49 pm Post subject: |
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| The Day of Judgement can't come any sooner for such 'humans'. |
The Day of Judgement is the bogeyman who never comes and which godmen used to terrorise people with.
WMTN. |
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Deicide

Joined: 29 Jul 2006 Posts: 1005 Location: Caput Imperii Americani
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Posted: Thu Nov 12, 2009 4:25 pm Post subject: |
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| veiledsentiments wrote: |
| littleoldlady wrote: |
Loneliness sucks.
But, I have my cyberfriends to keep me happy.  |
Cyberfriends have certainly changed things for the better, but I've never found that being alone = loneliness. There is no one more lonely than someone trapped in an unhappy relationship.
VS |
You have unique genetics... |
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johnslat

Joined: 21 Jan 2003 Posts: 13859 Location: Santa Fe, New Mexico, USA
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Posted: Thu Nov 12, 2009 4:28 pm Post subject: |
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Dear veliedsentiments,
As I've told my in-her-forties single niece: There's only one thing worse than being single, and that's being married - to the wrong person.
"One is the loneliest number that you'll ever do
Two can be as bad as one
It's the loneliest number since the number one"
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John |
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Deicide

Joined: 29 Jul 2006 Posts: 1005 Location: Caput Imperii Americani
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Posted: Thu Nov 12, 2009 4:32 pm Post subject: |
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Dear veliedsentiments,
As I've told my in-her-forties single niece: There's only one thing worse than being single, and that's being married - to the wrong person.
"One is the loneliest number that you'll ever do
Two can be as bad as one
It's the loneliest number since the number one"
Regards,
John |
Yes, this is true. I remember well from my first marriage. |
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veiledsentiments

Joined: 20 Feb 2003 Posts: 17644 Location: USA
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Posted: Thu Nov 12, 2009 6:03 pm Post subject: |
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| Deicide wrote: |
| veiledsentiments wrote: |
| I've never found that being alone = loneliness. There is no one more lonely than someone trapped in an unhappy relationship. |
You have unique genetics... |
You're not the first to accuse me of that one... never sure if it is meant as an insult or a compliment. Probably both...
VS |
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Deicide

Joined: 29 Jul 2006 Posts: 1005 Location: Caput Imperii Americani
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Posted: Thu Nov 12, 2009 6:57 pm Post subject: |
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| veiledsentiments wrote: |
| Deicide wrote: |
| veiledsentiments wrote: |
| I've never found that being alone = loneliness. There is no one more lonely than someone trapped in an unhappy relationship. |
You have unique genetics... |
You're not the first to accuse me of that one... never sure if it is meant as an insult or a compliment. Probably both...
VS |
Well, you have no interest in human companionship nor interest in propagating your DNA...that is pretty unique, especially the combination of both. |
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johnslat

Joined: 21 Jan 2003 Posts: 13859 Location: Santa Fe, New Mexico, USA
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Posted: Thu Nov 12, 2009 7:04 pm Post subject: |
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Dwear Deicide,
Much as I hate to nitpick (Yeah, right) "unique" cannot be modified. And, of course, everyone's DNA (one's genetic "material") is unique (if it's not, CSI is in BIG trouble.)
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John |
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Deicide

Joined: 29 Jul 2006 Posts: 1005 Location: Caput Imperii Americani
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Posted: Thu Nov 12, 2009 7:07 pm Post subject: |
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Dwear Deicide,
Much as I hate to nitpick (Yeah, right) "unique" cannot be modified. And, of course, everyone's DNA (one's genetic "material") is unique (if it's not, CSI is in BIG trouble.)
Regards,
John |
That is very prescriptive of you...who says it can't be modified? It is not 'ungrammatical'. |
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johnslat

Joined: 21 Jan 2003 Posts: 13859 Location: Santa Fe, New Mexico, USA
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Posted: Thu Nov 12, 2009 7:21 pm Post subject: |
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Dear Deicide,
Well, OK - perhaps I was being just a tad prescriptive there:
"Usage Note: For many grammarians, unique is the paradigmatic absolute term, a shibboleth that distinguishes between those who understand that such a term cannot be modified by an adverb of degree or a comparative adverb and those who do not. These grammarians would say that a thing is either unique or not unique and that it is therefore incorrect to say that something is very unique or more unique than something else. Most of the Usage Panel supports this traditional view. Eighty percent disapprove of the sentence Her designs are quite unique in today's fashions. But as the language of advertising in particular attests, unique is widely used as a synonym for "worthy of being considered in a class by itself, extraordinary," and if so construed it may arguably be modified. In fact, unique appears as a modified adjective in the work of many reputable writers. A travel writer states that "Chicago is no less unique an American city than New York or San Francisco," for example, and the critic Fredric Jameson writes "The great modern writers have all been defined by the invention or production of rather unique styles." Although these examples of the qualification of unique are defensible, writers should be aware that such constructions are liable to incur the censure of some readers."
but then, otherwise, I'm pretty perfect.
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John |
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