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Insubordination



Joined: 07 Nov 2007
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Location: Sydney

PostPosted: Sat Mar 12, 2011 9:29 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

I have to agree with the above poster. The more unreasonable responsibility you take on, the more they'll keep shovelling at you. You're making it easy for them. They get to shut you in the classroom with these 'students' and collect the money and forget about it. Yes you have a good nature, but it seems you are letting others take advantage of that.

I think you need a different 'teaching persona' for this class. This unfortunate situation is surely put before you to give you ideas for new teaching strategies and for dealing with administration.

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And I am pretty sure they are taking advantage of my good nature and the school's lack of discipline and management.


I think you could be limiting yourself and your options by saying that you have a good nature and that's why these particular classes are not effective. If you accept that theory, then nothing can change.

Of course, you've been put into an impossible situation that few of us could deal with (myself included!). It's hard to be fair and consistent this late into it and suddenly start enforcing behaviour codes when you haven't before. Students have seen that they can get away with this and will probably continue behaving this way.

Either you shrug your shoulders and coast the rest of the year and get a better job next time or you decide to make some changes. I'm not recommending either course of action. I'm not one of those that blames the teacher. Sometimes the problem really is the students/admin/class size.

Anyway, if you try to do something then I suggest you write a code of behaviour and run it past your superiors. Tell them that you appreciate their support when dealing with the consequences of breaches because you are trying to increase the quality of the class, as it's become almost impossible to manage behaviour with the change in numbers/levels.

E.g. Standards for our class

1. No cell-phones/mobiles. If one is spotted, you have one chance to switch it off and put it in your bag. A second incident, and you must leave the classroom for today. Paper dictionaries will be provided if necessary.

And so on.

Once this code is prepared and the consequences OK'd. Garner the class's silence by staring as long as necessary at problem individuals.

Then give an honest speech to your class. This class is difficult/It is not working/I feel you are not learning because/The class is changing from today and raising its standard/I don't want you to waste your time and money/I expect your adult cooperation with this/the outcome will be a good one.

Then you have to be consistent and enforce this code every time. Never get emotional/angry. Just be neutral and detached and refer to the code and the fact that the student/s in question are not adhering to the standards of the class.

Maybe to complement this change, you could choose different types of teaching activities to suit different learners. That way, you will be seen to be making an effort as well as them.

Of course, if you don't feel it's worth this kind of effort or if you think it very unlikely to work., just deal with things the best you can and try to see the humour in the temporary situation. It's a bit of tough luck to be sure, but you've already shown you have a bit of grit by sticking it out this long.
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mat chen



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PostPosted: Sun Mar 13, 2011 2:40 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

I did something that I learned from weiqi teachers. I do daily grading. Come late one point taken away. Play games on your cell phone, one point taken away. I also give points for participation. The problem is that the students are being ignored by their parents and the system. A good Chinese teacher only teaches the kids in the first row. Students have money but not their parents time.
Don't give up you will see a change. Show them you care
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wangdaning



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PostPosted: Sun Mar 13, 2011 3:28 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

If students are messing about then just stop teaching. Remind them money is being paid for the class, but you will not teach if they don't want to learn. I guess you need older students for this. It is amazing how fast students shut up and cell phones go away. It is sad that many students need to be reminded.

I have ejected a whole class before, that also gets to them. I don't like singling out one student, as they usually have a group. Half way into a 90 minute class before I just told all the students to get out. I let them know if they thought I couldn't teach them then it was up to them to learn what they needed. They came to the next class as good students.

I teach university, so the students should be adults. Remind them that money is being paid and they seem to remember that. Academic culture here is very different. I refuse to treat my students as children (many Chinese teachers take this or a completely apathetic approach). I explain everything I am doing and why I am going to do it. It is then their responsibility to understand it. No more or less than I would expect from a teacher back home.
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jibbs



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PostPosted: Sun Mar 13, 2011 4:32 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

flyingscotsman wrote:
jibbs wrote:
Sounds a bit rough mate. Reckon you'll stay there a while?


It's like playing 52 pick up...

So far I am the only teacher to have stuck it out. I have seen a 100% ( not including me) turnover since Sept.

My plan is not formulated at present.


I see. Does sound a bit hard though. But then, when are things easy?

Catch ya soon,

send a note if you will.
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flyingscotsman



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PostPosted: Mon Mar 14, 2011 4:07 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

mat chen wrote:
I did something that I learned from weiqi teachers. I do daily grading. Come late one point taken away. Play games on your cell phone, one point taken away. I also give points for participation. The problem is that the students are being ignored by their parents and the system. A good Chinese teacher only teaches the kids in the first row. Students have money but not their parents time.
Don't give up you will see a change. Show them you care


The problem is that the Delter students do not care at all. Spoiled kids and Delter gives them a "Canadian" diploma regardless if they come to class or pass a class. As long as the money is paid they will graduate.

I can't fight that system and the students know they graduate regardless, so they just don't care.

The "IF I CAN GET THROUGH TO ONE OF THEM" mentality doesn't even work.

Delter is the lowest of them all... But, YES I knew that before I came here.
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mat chen



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PostPosted: Mon Mar 14, 2011 7:48 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Lame excuse Scotty. I went to the Harvard of the north McGill University and Harvard has the same situation. Rich Alumni kids get the breaks. It is the world you live in. You have a job to do and you can't blaim your students. Bring the class down. Teach them like kindergarden students. TPR them. Show you care and they will change. Don't just say everyone else who taught them has left. Everyone else who taught them didn't care either.
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mrwslee003



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PostPosted: Tue Mar 22, 2011 12:04 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Hi Mr. Scott,

Here is what I would do and I did it when I taught in China:
The first few times I tried to reason with non-listeners and talker and disturbers who showed little respect or who got lost in the English instruction. I told them that their parents paid big money for them to attend the school, which was a Canadian school operating in China, and that their parents had worked hard to earn the money and that they should appreciate the opportunity and not waste their time here or disrupt others who want to learn. Then of course, reasoning only can go so far for some and reasoning was beyond certain individual students.

Some persistented disrupting and showed little respect, I then asked one or two (of the worst) to leave the class and ask them to stay near by but away from the doorway so they cannot be seen by classmates. I would return to giving my lesson as though nothing had happened. Now, I had senior high school students and most did want to learn. In your case, older students may just have a stronger personality. This method may or may not work. You have to guage them and act accordingly.

Don't be shy, be clear that you want their attention or else you will move them out of your class. Be firm and act upon your warnings to them.

Finally, if nothing seems to work and you feel the admin is taking advantage of you then you tell them that that is not acceptable to you and if they keep taking advantage of you, tell them you will not accept it and return to your office. It is advantageous for you to tell your boss, with other teachers within listening range your conditions, private conversation is not as effective. Public knowledge of your unacceptable conditions puts social pressure on your boss to act, otherwise he/she will appear "useless" and lose "face".

I hear you and understand your situation. Do what you can by letting your students know you won't accept disrespect and your boss know you won't accept being taken advantage of. You will gain self esteem and self confidence and student respect should you come through these problems.

China is going through fast economic and social changes and you just got caught up in the whirl wind of changes. I am certain none of these is personal. Your staying is a loud message that you care.

Good luck!
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flyingscotsman



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PostPosted: Tue Mar 22, 2011 7:32 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

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I told them that their parents paid big money for them to attend the school, which was a Canadian school operating in China, and that their parents had worked hard to earn the money and that they should appreciate the opportunity and not waste their time here or disrupt others who want to learn


We have had this discussion. They don't seem to care that they are wasting their parent's money.



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China is going through fast economic and social changes and you just got caught up in the whirl wind of changes. I am certain none of these is personal. Your staying is a loud message that you care.


I understand about China's changing economy etc. Tell you the truth, I STOPPED caring about the school and students. I just show up, STILL give my 100%, and leave quickly. The students hate the school - no surprise - but really most do not care about learning. The other day a student brought his laptop and during the lesson him and the girl sitting next to him were playing 2K9 NBA on his laptop. Shows you a bit about their interest in learning.
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Dr. Dow



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PostPosted: Tue Mar 22, 2011 8:09 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

I feel you Scotty. While I wouldn't say the "students" at my current school are disrespectful or act badly, most don't seem to care.

It seems the school doesn't really care either. Offering an Oral English class that meets every other week with a foreigner for 1 semester is a good way to drum up business. Instead of building another large classroom building, they are building more dorms. I must admit, there is another building going up that looks like it will be a classroom building based on its location and size. I've been told the private college I toil away at now makes a 100 million rmb profit per year. That seems a bit high, but I'm not eactly sure how many students there are and what the tuition/dorm fees are.

Either way, the school doesn't seem to care about providing a book, not that I'd use it, or whiteboard markers. Since there isn't a book, I made my own and asked the kids to copy it and bring to class every time we meet. It is basically handouts that I use in class. I was told this morning that my handouts were too expensive all of the students didn't want to copy it for 2.2 rmb!!!

Out of 18 different groups of approximately 60 students, so far most have been pretty good about copying the handouts. But, 3 or 4 groups basically didn't copy it. Perhaps 10 in each group, so, I guess they understood me when I told them to copy it and bring it to the next class because we would use it in class.

When I've asked the classes that didn't copy the handouts what we were supposed to do in class, the few that understood what I said - watch movies, play games and sing songs!

Out of the 60 or so, generally 40 came to the 2nd class meeting. A few generally left during the break.

At this point, I really don't care and am just counting the days, grinning and bearing it. 100 to go!! What I do care about is the electric and internet going out regularly. Stay away. Granted, if I had English majors maybe things would be different.

A lot of the students are very nice and do try. But the majority are another story. I basically told them last week and the past 2 days, don't come to class. As long as you come for the Final chat, I will pass you.

I realize I'm not the best foreign "teacher" in China, but still, when a bunch of kids don't even come to the 1st class, let alone the 2nd, why should I care? As long as they pay me.

This school does have a few classrooms with new computers. I tend to walk around the room while in class and usually find at least 10 of the 40, out of 60, that came to class playing solitaire. I feel you Scotty. Count the days!
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Insubordination



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PostPosted: Tue Mar 22, 2011 10:28 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

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The other day a student brought his laptop and during the lesson him and the girl sitting next to him were playing 2K9 NBA on his laptop. Shows you a bit about their interest in learning.


OK, I'm not in your situation but I would just say, 'No laptops in class. Close it please.' I don't think that stating this in an unemotional way is treating them like children. I can't imagine someone refusing to do it. If so, I would just say that they are the conditions of the class and that they're free to leave, again without emotion. The teacher has to be (somewhat) responsible for classroom management but I know that you can't force adults (customers?) to learn either.

Of course, if it's just easier if they sit there and play games and don't bug you, then I guess I can understand that you might just want to focus on those that can be bothered. Would the non-interested students' behaviour be worse if you took away the possibility of using these items?

I think allowing people to do their own thing might invite chaos into the room. If he can use the laptop, then someone can sleep, and another person can text or read a book or film you. What about the few who are interested? Wouldn't this impede their learning?

I'm not intending to be too critical. It's hard to understand the exact conditions over the internet.
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Dr. Dow



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PostPosted: Tue Mar 22, 2011 11:07 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

What I don't understand about the "non-interested" students is - why attend class in the 1st place?

I know that the kids/students generally do what they are told, which is different than where I'm from, but, if all you are going to do is sleep, play on your phone etc... why go?

That's is why I began each of my 2nd meetings with the "students" and told them, just don't come to class if all you are going to do is sleep etc... I'd rather have 20/30 people interested in what's going on than all of the others.

Stay home. Just come for the Final and you'll pass. I'll remember those who came every class and they will get a good score, 90 or above. The others, maybe 70. I guess I'm too nice.

Quite frankly, in a certain way, I have more respect for those who never go to class and show up for the final than those who just pass time away out of a sense of duty/fear.

Wait a second - I guess I'm doing that now because I need a Release Letter!!! The whole idea of needing permission to get another job is alien to me.
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mrwslee003



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PostPosted: Tue Mar 22, 2011 5:36 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

I hear you Scott-if your adult students don't care about their learning, its their choice. If you can allow them to behave this way in your class, fine.

If you can live with the amount of pressure the admin put on you, fine.
If not, then let them know your feelings. Don't just take it until you get sick.
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killian



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PostPosted: Thu Mar 24, 2011 10:28 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

do as i heard the profs sneer at my state U: pass em all, let the job market sort em out. it is college.

if you fail them the the institution is going to A) tell you to provide a retest or B) change their grades w/out telling you.
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Matson



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PostPosted: Fri Mar 25, 2011 12:14 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Laughing

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flyingscotsman



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PostPosted: Fri Mar 25, 2011 9:57 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

killian wrote:
do as i heard the profs sneer at my state U: pass em all, let the job market sort em out. it is college.

if you fail them the the institution is going to A) tell you to provide a retest or B) change their grades w/out telling you.


There are students who have never stepped foot in the classroom and they will all get a "diploma" . I just assign the work now and let them do what they want. I make them finish the work and hand it in so that I am covered for in-class work and homework ( I make them do the homework in the classroom).

right now its just a CYA thing and a WATCH THE CLOCK and calendar thing.
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