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Guy Courchesne

Joined: 10 Mar 2003 Posts: 9650 Location: Mexico City
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Posted: Thu Oct 06, 2005 7:14 pm Post subject: |
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| And I swear, every time I'm back, they are all in the same chairs, looking at newly upgraded systems, |
As opposed to you, who sits in the same type of chair, albeit in a different country, posting to Dave's on machines that badly need upgrading? |
zzzzzzzzzinger! |
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benno

Joined: 28 Jun 2004 Posts: 501 Location: Fake Mongolia
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Posted: Fri Oct 07, 2005 2:43 am Post subject: |
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| I liked your post spidey. Certainly everything is relative and a matter of perspective. After 5 years in Japan I don't feel any travel excitement anymore. My life is just as humdrum as that of my friends back home. As a married person it's not so easy to just jump ship to new countries everytime I get the itch. And quite honestly I don't get the itch anymore. I'm quite happy with humdrum. I just want to do it with more career opportunities on the horizon. And, I'd like a dog. |
i think when you get married its a whole new ball game
the only prob is that i have a strong urge to travel but my wife hates travelling
problems...problems...and im going mad now here in this one horse hole of a place!!!
when i do go home ...its right....evrybody is doing their own thing...all my friends are working like crazy to repay their huge mortages and car loans
and its boring |
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Guy Courchesne

Joined: 10 Mar 2003 Posts: 9650 Location: Mexico City
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Posted: Fri Oct 07, 2005 2:51 am Post subject: |
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| the only prob is that i have a strong urge to travel but my wife hates travelling |
Similar for me...except, my wife wants to go to France, Italy, Canada, whereas I want to go further south and into some hard to reach places of South America. |
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spidey
Joined: 29 Jun 2004 Posts: 382 Location: Web-slinging over Japan...
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Posted: Fri Oct 07, 2005 3:34 am Post subject: |
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I'm into what you're syaing man...just pass the bong over once more.
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Ahhhh....those were the days.  |
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Sweetsee

Joined: 11 Jun 2004 Posts: 2302 Location: ) is everything
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Posted: Sat Oct 08, 2005 1:38 pm Post subject: |
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| ...and they could be once more. Only by returning to those things that we did that were wrong do we have a chance to live again. |
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Guy Courchesne

Joined: 10 Mar 2003 Posts: 9650 Location: Mexico City
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Posted: Sat Oct 08, 2005 3:08 pm Post subject: |
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| Only by returning to those things that we did that were wrong do we have a chance to live again. |
I am considering making that my new sig... |
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Don McChesney
Joined: 25 Jun 2005 Posts: 656
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Posted: Sun Oct 09, 2005 9:01 am Post subject: |
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| "When we go back, we find out why we left." |
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Gordon

Joined: 28 Jan 2003 Posts: 5309 Location: Japan
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Posted: Sun Oct 09, 2005 9:33 am Post subject: |
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| "When we go back, we find out why we left." |
You got that right. |
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lady z
Joined: 28 Sep 2005 Posts: 39 Location: India
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Posted: Mon Oct 10, 2005 10:53 pm Post subject: |
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This thread caught my attention because i am experiencing extreme culture/reverse culture shock right now. I just got back 10 days ago after being gone for a year from the U.S. The initial excitment of seeing friends and family has faded. Now I am just left with unhappiness about being back and wonder how i am going to survive the next 9 months.
There are lots of good things about where i am, including family and lifelong friends, a good city surrounded by great natural beauty in all directions....but, it just doesn't fit for me.
It was a good point that someone raised--something to the effect that one can be happy or unhappy anywhere, but right now i am happiest when thinking about and working towards leaving again--this time for good.
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Guy Courchesne

Joined: 10 Mar 2003 Posts: 9650 Location: Mexico City
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Posted: Tue Oct 11, 2005 1:28 am Post subject: |
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| Now I am just left with unhappiness about being back and wonder how i am going to survive the next 9 months |
I've often found alcohol to work fine. Bad solution though. |
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Sweetsee

Joined: 11 Jun 2004 Posts: 2302 Location: ) is everything
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Posted: Tue Oct 11, 2005 6:03 am Post subject: |
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Hi Guy,
I believe those were the words of Oscar Wilde, not my own of course.
Enjoy,
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Sweetsee

Joined: 11 Jun 2004 Posts: 2302 Location: ) is everything
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Posted: Tue Oct 11, 2005 6:05 am Post subject: |
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Hi Guy,
I believe those were the words of Oscar Wilde. Something to that effect, at any rate.
Enjoy,
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spidey
Joined: 29 Jun 2004 Posts: 382 Location: Web-slinging over Japan...
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Posted: Tue Oct 11, 2005 6:22 am Post subject: |
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| lady z wrote: |
This thread caught my attention because i am experiencing extreme culture/reverse culture shock right now. I just got back 10 days ago after being gone for a year from the U.S. The initial excitment of seeing friends and family has faded. Now I am just left with unhappiness about being back and wonder how i am going to survive the next 9 months.
There are lots of good things about where i am, including family and lifelong friends, a good city surrounded by great natural beauty in all directions....but, it just doesn't fit for me.
It was a good point that someone raised--something to the effect that one can be happy or unhappy anywhere, but right now i am happiest when thinking about and working towards leaving again--this time for good.
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Could you elaborate on what it is that "just doesn't fit?"
and...
May I ask why you feel such a strong desire to leave your friends and family "for good?"
finally...
What is it that you are searching for?
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lady z
Joined: 28 Sep 2005 Posts: 39 Location: India
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Posted: Tue Oct 11, 2005 7:02 pm Post subject: |
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Sure spidey,
well, first of all, I am in the beginning of this adjustment. It has only been 12 days back, and so my post might have sounded a bit dramatic...but great questions! I will try to be brief:
I didn't say i wanted to leave friends and family for good--they are what have kept me here the past decade! I said when i leave again i would like it to be for good--meaning an indefinite period (rather than a finite period of a year, as this last time). Looking back i see that it was poorly worded.
What doesn't fit for me is living in the U.S. and my profession ....Also, the last presidential reelection didn't help.
What I seek is to live and work ouside of the U.S. while contributing something valuable and practical such as teaching english. There are many places I would like to go, not as a tourist, but as a contributing member of society.
I am still adjusting from being back after over a year. There are good days and bad days like anywhere else.
cheers!
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ronin

Joined: 22 Feb 2003 Posts: 50 Location: canada
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Posted: Wed Oct 12, 2005 1:12 am Post subject: |
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| After a year in Japan I returned to Toronto and went straight to the Japanese reference library for hours reading magazines on Tokyo and watching documentaries on Japan. I made tons of Japanese friends in Toronto and hung out with them so the reverse culture shock quickly evaporated. I also quickly got out of the reverse culture shock by experiencing my great city and its different cultures and what it had to offer but I still have the Japan bug. Now that the winter is coming I suffer from Thailand reverse culture shock. I vacationed in Thailand for 5 months a few years ago in the winter and had the time of my life! Every cold winter in Canada I think about Bangkok it's fresh fruit, palm trees, the girls and Phuket. I even think about the plane trip there on Thai airways oooooh those sweet stewardesses! I love you! But in FEB 06 I will be in Thailand for a month and Japan for 3months! wahooo!!!!! |
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