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seklarwia



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PostPosted: Sun Sep 06, 2009 10:22 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Rooster_2006 wrote:
Where are all these American kids running around with knives, guns, grenades, tanks, and napalm?


If you read my other posts you'd know that I have been giving UK comparisons since that's where I'm from. I never make any comparison to the US.

My remark about the US was to part of a comment he made about maturity of Japanese kids now compared to kids in the US back when he was growing up.

Besides, if your kids are running around with tanks and napalm, then you have it worse than we do.
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seklarwia



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PostPosted: Sun Sep 06, 2009 10:33 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

GambateBingBangBOOM wrote:


I think THAT'S the big difference if you look at kids in other nations. In other nations the chance of failing a year will always spur them to do at least the minimum required to get to the next level. They don't have that here and so the kids don't.



Not sure that we have that either. A few years back 18,000 students left compulsory education without having passed English and Maths.

That year, my sister left compulsory education without English and only a few crappy grades in not the most useful subjects subjects, like art and childcare.
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PostPosted: Sun Sep 06, 2009 10:55 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

seklarwia wrote:
Rooster_2006 wrote:
Where are all these American kids running around with knives, guns, grenades, tanks, and napalm?


If you read my other posts you'd know that I have been giving UK comparisons since that's where I'm from. I never make any comparison to the US.

My remark about the US was to part of a comment he made about maturity of Japanese kids now compared to kids in the US back when he was growing up.

Besides, if your kids are running around with tanks and napalm, then you have it worse than we do.
I have no time to go back and read your other posts.

You made a comparison to the US in THIS thread, which is the one I care about since it's the one I'm reading. I'm not a loser with enough time to go back and read all your other posts.

I'm refuting your comparison, since it's obvious you haven't spent much time in the US and are making an uninformed criticism based on stereotypes of America in the media. Believe it or not, Will Smith, wearing sunglasses, isn't wielding two sawed-off shotguns having a showdown with an evil drug lord on every US street corner.
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GambateBingBangBOOM



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PostPosted: Sun Sep 06, 2009 11:40 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

seklarwia wrote:
GambateBingBangBOOM wrote:


I think THAT'S the big difference if you look at kids in other nations. In other nations the chance of failing a year will always spur them to do at least the minimum required to get to the next level. They don't have that here and so the kids don't.



Not sure that we have that either. A few years back 18,000 students left compulsory education without having passed English and Maths.

That year, my sister left compulsory education without English and only a few crappy grades in not the most useful subjects subjects, like art and childcare.


So what would happen if they were in say, grade 8 and didn't study a single day, and maybe didn't even bother to show up for school? They'd have to repeat the year- or at least they would in pretty much all North American systems.

Here they would go to grade 9 and not only be the kind of kid that doesn't often try, but be the kind of kid who doesn't often try and is now so far out of his or her depth that they CANNOT do the work. And yet, they will pass grade 9 and go to grade 10 as well.

When your sister left, her parents knew she was leaving without English and only a few crappy grades in not the most useful subjects, like art and childcare. They wouldn't have known in Japan, because 0 +0 + 0 + 0 = 60% here.

In North America, the most commonly failed grade is grade 1. Some kids just aren't ready for reading and arithmetic yet. Those kids will be a year older than most of the other kids in their classes for their entire education, and it means that they will have one year less of working for their career. That's a big, big thing. Kids aren't failed lightly. But, to not fail that kid would mean that a kid who otherwise could have taken one more year to develop and then gone on to have no problems at school, possibly going on to university etc, will be virtually guaranteed to not understand what they need to know every single year of their education, and yet they'd be passed anyway (eventually teachers would come out with comments like 'she can't learn'- I've heard that one a few times). It's why there are so many Japanese people who've graduated high school and maybe junior college or even university and can't actually read the newspaper in their own language.

In many ways it's just the opposite of the education system I went through. In mine, teachers are always just a little bit standoff-ish but ultimately cared if you were trying or not, here they are supposed to be parents as much or more than the kids' own parents and students are pampered, but ultimately, the teachers just don't care if the student never learns anything, doesn't try and just sits there.
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PostPosted: Sun Sep 06, 2009 11:41 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

[quote="Rooster_2006"][quote="seklarwia"]
Rooster_2006 wrote:

You made a comparison to the US in THIS thread, which is the one I care about since it's the one I'm reading. I'm not a loser with enough time to go back and read all your other posts.

I'm refuting your comparison, since it's obvious you haven't spent much time in the US and are making an uninformed criticism based on stereotypes of America in the media. Believe it or not, Will Smith, wearing sunglasses, isn't wielding two sawed-off shotguns having a showdown with an evil drug lord on every US street corner.


And I'm telling you that you misunderstood my post because the bit about drugs, etc was in reference to the UK. Something you would have understood if you had read my other post in THIS thread.
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PostPosted: Sun Sep 06, 2009 1:04 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

The woman who sits on my right at high school is 47, a home economics teacher and lives at home as well as holidays with her parents. The man who sits on my left is 58 and lives at home. When I asked him about his lunch one day and commented him on his cooking skills, he told me his sister made it for him every day. There's three that perhaps should have flown the nest by now...
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PostPosted: Sun Sep 06, 2009 1:12 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

cornishmuppet wrote:
The woman who sits on my right at high school is 47, a home economics teacher and lives at home as well as holidays with her parents. The man who sits on my left is 58 and lives at home. When I asked him about his lunch one day and commented him on his cooking skills, he told me his sister made it for him every day. There's three that perhaps should have flown the nest by now...


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PostPosted: Sun Sep 06, 2009 1:41 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

cornishmuppet wrote:
The woman who sits on my right at high school is 47, a home economics teacher and lives at home as well as holidays with her parents. The man who sits on my left is 58 and lives at home. When I asked him about his lunch one day and commented him on his cooking skills, he told me his sister made it for him every day. There's three that perhaps should have flown the nest by now...
Wow, I couldn't imagine living at home for that long, unless I bought the house from my parents. lol I'm almost 30 and still live with my parents, but not out of choice, but because of lack of stable work and not ever having a job where I made enough where I could go and get my own place. Seems those who do live with their parents still (US anyway) usually for financial situations. I know one guy I went to school with actually had to move back home last year because of hard times. Due to the mortgage crisis, I lost my job (worked in mortgage government insuring).

So...in Japan, it's not taboo to live with your parents until such an old age. lol
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PostPosted: Sun Sep 06, 2009 2:13 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

seklarwia wrote:
The youths of Japan have problems. And they are severe issues.

But comparing with the situations in other developed countries shows that it could be a whole lot worse.
I wouldn't know, and frankly it doesn't matter to me because this is the Japan forum. That may sound harsh, but I'm sorry. I can only speak for issues related to Japan, and unless other countries have solutions to Japan issues, I really don't think they need to be brought up. I'm not saying you shouldn't post them; I'm not a moderator so I don't have that power.
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PostPosted: Mon Sep 07, 2009 10:39 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

ssjup81 wrote:
So...in Japan, it's not taboo to live with your parents until such an old age.


The same is true in a few European countries as well. In Italy, children stay with their parents well into adulthood, even after they marry and have kids.

I think the rationale for this is the scarcity of appropriate accommodation, and the fact that many simply will not be able to afford to own their own home. So living together makes financial sense.

It's also culturally more acceptable in Italian society (particularly in the South) as familial ties are comparatively strong, in contrast to Anglo-Saxon countries. With all the previous talk about Japan, I'm not entirely sure if the same could be said of Japanese families!
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PostPosted: Mon Sep 07, 2009 11:02 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

the difference is that a lot of these kids aren't like the ones who are mostly going about their lives, getting jobs etc... many of these people are basically dropping out of society altogether. No job, no going out, no friends, nothing at all. They just sit there all day, every day maybe playing video games or reading manga, getting their parents to pay for everything. And it's the same thing they did throughout junior and senior high-school as well.

And in Japan, it's not like other countries where companies are hiring all year long- if they miss the hiring season of their cohort, then that may be it.

The example of the European countries is just a traditional thing, it's not really uncommon here, either.
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PostPosted: Tue Sep 08, 2009 7:33 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

When offering social analyses one is forced to do a certain amount of abstracting, in order to make a coherent argument. Thus, some distortion is necessary but to do so successfully is somewhat of an art. It is tough enough to do in a large thesis, much less a forum post. By creating too big a picture one simply caters to anecdotalism.

So, keeping this in mind, focusing on Japan what do we know:

J power (that which dominates society) remains confined to a very narrow few. It has been said that the people that matter in J (those in real power) could fit into a room. Note that the past several J PMs have been related (either son or grandson) to a former PM. The same goes for the 'backroom boys' - the industrialists and bureaucrats.

Significant social change that began to develop into democratic force on J campuses in the early 1950s was squashed by an American/Japanese power conglomerate with aid enlisted from the yakuza thugs, to assuage conservative paranoia during the Cold War and Korean War. Thus, we have 54 years of single party politics. There is no serious descent in J; democracy is a shell for maintaining status quo. Add to that the conservative mindset of the culture.

This is a way of asking -- what is there to do in J? Besides work. For previous post-war generations one's family was one's coworkers, often one's biological family came 2nd. But if one does not consume or produce, what does one do? It seems to me that J is a very cloistered society - very brittle due to the tremendous amount of energy going into maintaining status quo. I think this has been evident to some degree in its culture for decades. Even now, in the private sector, you do not go home at quitting time. Do people have outside interests, causes, reasons for being? Certainly the money is there, as is the standard of life (as strictly limited in measurement to purchasing power). But the people I have spoke to seem to echo the things I read - people live largely to work because the social and political constraints are so narrow that there is not much else to do.
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PostPosted: Tue Sep 08, 2009 11:00 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

RollingStone wrote:

Do people have outside interests, causes, reasons for being? Certainly the money is there, as is the standard of life (as strictly limited in measurement to purchasing power). But the people I have spoke to seem to echo the things I read - people live largely to work because the social and political constraints are so narrow that there is not much else to do.


I was with you until I got to this part. What do people in other countries do when they leave work? They go home and watch TV or they go to a pub somewhere. Most don't do a whole lot else. So that part is actually the same as here (except that the TV is so bad, that maybe sitting around work is preferable).

I think people 'live to work' simply because that's part of the status quo that is so important here. If you look, you'll see that people don't seem to work all that hard during the day, they seem to more time what they have to do based not on finishing at 5, but on finishing at 8 or nine. So they spend an obscene amount of time doing very little. I've known people at boards of education who do nothing at all (other than smoke breaks, coffee breaks, play solitaire on the computer and occasionally answer the phones) UNTIL 5:15 when they are supposed to be able to go home. Then they stay to around 8 like everyone else (still not working all that fast), go to a bar, drink, get up and repeat the process.
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PostPosted: Tue Sep 08, 2009 11:39 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Well, as I suggested in my opening paragraph above, stretching a generalization that exists in Japan into life generally on this planet may be problematic. Point is, it doesnt really matter what people do elsewhere, since we are discussing Japan and, more specifically, why J is the way it is.

Whether people outside of J watch tv or not, there is an intense status quo unchanged likely since feudal times in J society - from the top down. Had democracy been given even a slight chance in the 1950s you would likely see a different J today. The crushing of democratic change by the US/Japan governments and underground has had, I would argue, a lasting and detrimental affect. There has been no impetus for change in Japan since and status quo has become even more entrenched. You see this throughout J society in numerous ways - including the pressure to conform to the J way and full-scale corruption among politicians, bureaucrats, capitalists ie the power elite.

The result, again in keeping with the OP, is that these power relations are remarkably unimpeded. When the status quo is so entrenched like that, alternatives are slim. Apathy appears as the natural alternative, if one is taught they either conform to the status quo or they are nothing. Thus these social drop outs mentioned in the OP are simply exercising the flip side of the same coin, the same paradigm. And this is because an alternative paradigm does not exist. I really sense a suffocating society in J.
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PostPosted: Tue Sep 08, 2009 11:53 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

alas, i am allowing myself to get drawn into that sweeping and misleading generalization about all people do anywhere is watch tv or drink. Embarassed Now, I am not sure where you originated, my congratulations to you on escaping though! Laughing

some things that people do in my neck of the woods - take evening courses; return to school full-time; volunteer; walk around; attend concerts, festivals; exercise; have hobbies; see their kids; get active in social forums; travel. And this is just taking off the top of my head of a few people I know. The norm in J is that you work until late hours - or, accepting your version, simply stay late - either way, it is conforming to the norm (artificially and meaninglessly it seems), you do not take vacation time (for the same reason), you do not do anything that can be interpreted as questioning or upsetting the status quo.

there is a world of difference between the civil society in the West compared to J.
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