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[guru]

Indonesian girls!

My wife is all I ever dreamed of and more. She isn't just pretty, she is the kindest, most wonderful caring person i've met.

I never found a western woman that i really was truly interested in. However, there are plenty of wonderful western women out there. Sadly i think feminism has destroyed a lot about western women's feminity. In indonesia many women are still feminine, and equal in status but not feminist.

Feminism is one of the biggest turn offs about women, not their looks.

Whilst many can admire the great attributes of women from other cultures, we must bear in mind that the best women are looing for the best men. We need to be caring and communicative and supportive and faithful.

If all you are is a gigolo then maybe a bar girl is a match. If you are looking for a really nice girl then you need to be a real man, not one who gets into casual relationships that hurt and use the other person.

[Dave Kessel]

Sherri wrote:

...Men and women are pretty much the same the world over.

Oh, no, they are not...There are things that are the same and then there are things that differ from country to country. Usually, the richer the country and more successful it is, the more difficult it is to date women there. Women just seem to look and behave in a more stuck-up manner there. In some areas, there are fewer women then men, which also make women more arrogant.

In some countries/ areas women take care of themselves and dress and behave in an elegant, feminine, lady-like way. They treat men with respect. In others, women generally dress and behave in a sloppy/masculine way and treat many men badly.

I remember going from one country to another when I was still quite young and noticing how different the dating scene would become as I changed countries. In one country, women just went by without even looking at me. In others, there was a marked difference in their reactions-they smiled and asked me if I had a wife. Girls would even whistle at me and shout " Handsome, handsome!!!..." If I asked a girl on a date, there would be a smile and the question " When?". In other countries ( richer ones) women would give me a bored look and a yawn.

An American man who may not get a date for years in the US ( too short, too poor, not handsome enough) will have many many desirable dates and meet much friendlier women upon moving to some other country. Honduras for one. Colombia, another. Brazil, Costa Rica, Philippines, VN. Russia. As if by magic, beautiful girls that he would never even hope to be seen within a mile of back home would want to date him.


...There is no one country which is "someplace that has a whole lot of good women (your definition) looking for a good man (you!)".

No "one" but several. One just needs to know where to go, get on the plane, and everything changes magically.


....By all means teach, travel, meet people, some you will like, some you won't.

At least they will be willing to meet me, not yawn and say- "I am busy tonight" or "I already have a boyfriend", or worse, "Get away from me, you creep..."

...You may even get lucky and meet a woman who meets your standards--it's a big world out there.

It is. One just needs to know where to go in order to meet people which are friendlier to strangers, more approachable and less stuck-up...

I remember living in Vermont and it was virtually impossible to date ladies there- I did not date even one-most were so stuck-up that you could not even talk to them. And most were taken, anyway.

Then, upon crossing the border into French Canada, the general attitude would change. There were a lot of girls. A met one within a few weeks.
See, the place matters and there are market dynamics there. Where there is glut of handsome successful men, that is not the place where you should be going to for that sort of thing.

[itslatedoors]

Your post made me swamp my boxers...ha ha.."If you're looking for a nice girl....and "maybe a bargirl is your match". So nice girls don't go to bars.What kind of religeous tosh is that?Your wife is kind I'm sure,as are most south east asian girls.It's their culture to be so.However,don't be foolish enough to suggest that the relationship between western men and south east asian women is ever equal .God knows how many TEFLers and oil men I've met with asian babes.Usually the first thing you notice is the age gap.Out here in the ME,the other thing you notice is that they disappear when the men's real wives shows up. The next thing you usually notice is how pretty they are,(despite looking pubescent) and how loser- like their male partners are.It rarely appears equal,it's more of a bargain.It's like ...well he's ugly but foreign and therefore rich.....I'm poor/Well I'll have to carry her but hey she'll clean and cook and iron and give me good lovin'...it's a deal.I'd prefer a lover to another mother any day.Go bargirl,go! (Oh shit, I'm married).

[itslatedoors]

Forgive me father, that's 'ious and not 'eous'....just thought I'd correct myself before one of the 'righteous brothers' corrected me.I'd better enroll or is that enrol on a summer spelling workshop with the brothers of the immaculate correction......I AM A SINNER..OW....THANKYOU, PLEASE MAY I HAVE ANOTHER,...OW,...THANKYOU, PLEASE M......

[guru]

If you are ugly does that make all guys ugly? My wife is my one and only...i don't have another. Aren't western males who are faithful, attractive and never been married, allowed to marry Asian girls?

Even if someone was ugly, is that really important anyway?

What is the problem with believing in God? Is being a believer such a bad thing? Is honesty, faithfulness, care , kindness, and love such bad traits?

I'm convinced that these traits are in fact conducive to a happy marriage.

Anyway ..'where are all the good women?" they are out there but you need to be a good man!

[biffinbridge]

Looks wise they are not Incas,Aboriginees or Mongolians...that's for sure.

[johnslat]

Dear biffinbridge,
" Looks wise they are not Incas,Aboriginees or Mongolians...that's for sure." Well, if you were a male Incan ( aren't they extinct? ) Aboriginee or Mongolian, some of them would probably seem smashing. After all, those baby Aboriginees and Mongolians aren't being delivered by the stork.
Regards,
John

[usfemme]

Personally, I think the worst one can do is make extreme judgments. ALL Western women are not the same, and ALL (fill in the blank with Asian, African, and so forth) women are not the same. I've noticed that the guys who claim that ALL women in one area are the same are the ones blaming others for their own deficits.

I'm an American woman, yet I have traveled enough to know that, unfortunately, several American women have become confused because of feminism or have been reared to be princesses that no decent guy would want to touch them anyway. But, we're not ALL that way!

Generalizations are okay, as long as there aren't inclusive of all women.

Let's face it: some women are real "b"itches, regardless of their races or origins. And some men are real "b"astards (the software censored out my original words), regardless of their races or origins.

By the way, one of the best ways to break (some) American women of their bad habits is simply not to put up with them. If a woman treats you badly, WALK AWAY with your head held high. The longer you stick around, the more dirt she'll fling. If you're out on a date and a woman starts flirting with another man (just saying a quick "hello" to someone but actually engaging in a conversation and leaving you out of it), the best thing to do is walk away. That gives the message that you wont' put up with that garbage and have better things to do with your time!

[bgor]

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[PanamaTeacher]

Bgor I've met some of the nicest women in the world in the US. I like women in Panama, but I do think they can be limited making the relationship boring after a while. Also, at least american women make some money, these girls are broke. I've never dated a girl with a car or her own apartment or that read, none of that. I hate to say this, but I miss american women (in some ways).

[Marcoregano]

I don't know if anybody touched on this point already, and I can't be bothered reading all the posts to find out, but think about this: Do you want to live abroad in a foreign culture all your life? Does your wife? Rememer that if you find a wife while on your travels and plan on taking her home at some point...she will then be taken outside of her culture, quite possibly for the first time. Many 'mixed' marriages eventually come apart at the seams because of this. Or, despite your wife's great loyalty and love etc, ultimately you may have an unhappy partner pining for her homeland.

[woza17]

Why don't you try men.

[Marcoregano]

And the moral of the story is: Monkeys don't like bad news.

[Tong Dawei]

From the first sentence of the original post on this thread:

[Capergirl]