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[jello1]

I'm interested in honest feedback about the local ladies. No, not bar girls or anything like that, but how have you all found the dating scene? For instance, are japanese ladies open to westerners, are these relationships accepted in the culture etc.

Thanks for your comments!

Matt

[Rorschach]

Depends what kind of girl you are after. If you are only after a bit of fun then there are lots of opportunities to be found in bars and clubs. Japanese women in general go for Westerners because they are exotic and treat them differently from normal Japanese guys. If you are looking for a serious relationship then you have the added dimension of the Japanese family to deal with. It depends on the parents, I was lucky in that my girlfriend's parents are very progressive and not as traditional as what you'd expect. Japanese women are worth it in my opinion, just don't treat them like objects (as most gaijin men do).

[nicyvesweet]

[jello1]

Niceyve?

Sniff, sniff, sniff...

Is that the smell of failure?

If you relax you might live longer!!!

[MindlessFudge]

I`m sorry, the pettiness on this thread made me laugh so much that I had to breathe life back in to it. I love watching people fight on online forums. That and I wanted to throw in my own opinion on the off chance that it might be read seriously.

What are Japanese women like? Let me answer that with an analogous question: What are the women like from your country? A generalization like this is simply impossible to make. Just think of the scope that the question encompasses.

On the surface Japan seems very homogenous, but that could not be further from the truth. There are all kinds of people in Japan, all with their own beliefs, their own ways of thinking, their own outlooks on life.

I could lecture for a while on this topic, but I`ll leave it at that. But of luck to you all.

[jello1]

WHat are japanese women like?

This is your summation of my question, one which I believe you will find incorrect if you look at my original post.....I asked, are Japanese women open to westerners, is the culture open to relationships between westerners and locals, etc...? I was looking for some personal experiences from folks who have lived in Japan and dated locals(I was not expecting the energetically negative response I recieved.) Indeed, women from all over the world are similar in many respects, but the culture in any particular place obviously affects dating, relationships between the sexes, and between members of different cultures...This was the thrust of my question, one I thought was perfectly reasonable....

I stand corrected. I shall attempt keep my posts of a more sophisticated nature in the future...(he said with his tail between his legs...)

Cheers!

[stillnosheep]

best place to keep it maybe

[tokyorabbit]

Jello1,

Your question was fair and I'm not sure why everyone on this thread is so offended.

Yes, Japanese women are very open to dating Westerners. Many PREFER Westerners over Japanese men. (Especially those who are studying English and like international things.) If you are friendly, you will probably meet a lot of high quality women here.

To everyone else: Jello's question was a pretty NORMAL question for any single person considering moving to a foreign country. Why the chip on the shoulder? Many of my Japanese female students going abroad ask me if American men are open to dating Japanese women.

[Glenski]

jello,

You are going to find many types of Japanese women. Some are scared to death of foreign men. Some are insatiably attracted to them. Many are in between.

Of the in between group, beware. Some may only want to show off a foreign boyfriend, yet they will have no serious intentions of attachment. Others are in it only for the sex. Some just want the attention and/or gifts. Some just don't know what they want in life, and they are attracted to foreign men because they more often provide a feeling of gentlemanliness than Japanese men.

[spidey]

[stillnosheep]

[spidey]

[Brooks]

I have a Japanese wife but I have yet to meet her father and brother.
So, my wife doesn`t have a problem that I am foreign, but I have to wonder if her father does.

[Travel Zen]

This forum sure does have a bunch of 'stiff teachers'. I wonder what the problem is? So defensive about japanese women? Most of you aren't even Japanese.....weird stuff.


I'm going to Japan on Wednesday from Busan, and I'm also curious as to the women there. Westerners? What about black Westerners? Or am I crossing some line in asking.

[stillnosheep]