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Wedding Customs In Columbia

 
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Strum



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PostPosted: Wed Sep 13, 2006 7:09 am    Post subject: Wedding Customs In Columbia Reply with quote

If a Catholic Columbian woman gets married does she take on the last name of the man who she is marrying? Does the custom matter if the husband is Columbian or not? Thanks.
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naturegirl321



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PostPosted: Wed Sep 13, 2006 3:38 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

She takes his first last name and adds de.
For example Juan Perez Tume marries Maria Verde Long
She becomes Maria Verde de Perez
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lozwich



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PostPosted: Wed Sep 13, 2006 9:12 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

For the record, its Colombia.

And not necessarily with the surname. Lots of women here just keep their own name. It depends on the woman.
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Justin Trullinger



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PostPosted: Thu Sep 14, 2006 12:25 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Though the "de somebody" is quite traditional, it doesn't get used much as far as I can see. On extremely formal documents such as a marriage certificate, perhaps, but only the very traditional older generation seems to use it as a name. By the way, "de" with a name is the Spanish possesive, so traditionally it was a way of saying that she now is his. Any thoughts?

The two surnames that most Spanish speaking peoples use come from the mother and the father- I've heard it remarked that the fact that I have only one surname, my father's, is a sign of the deep sexism of Anglo culture. Any further thoughts?

I've been to a Colombian wedding, and found that the most important tradition is to get REALLY DRUNK!

Justin
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pollitatica



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PostPosted: Mon Sep 18, 2006 11:56 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

I can't speak for Colombia, but I know that in Costa Rica, I never met a single woman who took her husband last name. In fact, my boyfriend at the time thought it was really strange and almost offensive and sexist, as Justin said, that women in the US take their husband's name.

However, it did seem that once women got married, they dropped their 2nd apellido. My host mom's name was simply "Elizabeth Soto". But don't quote me on that one.
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MELEE



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PostPosted: Tue Sep 19, 2006 2:45 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Justin Trullinger wrote:
I've heard it remarked that the fact that I have only one surname, my father's, is a sign of the deep sexism of Anglo culture. Any further thoughts?
Justin


I usually explain that my parents formed a new family, that my mother was an integral part of. Most people choose the man's last name, but some men have taken on the women's last name instead (usually the man had an undesirable like Buttus.) or some times they combine the two names. My X and I always joked that we would do just that because the combination would result in a pronunciation similar to "fair enough". Laughing
If people say it is sexist that I only have one last name now, there is a very long long list of things in Mexican culture that show what seems to me a much deeper sexism than our ancient naming practices. Surely you could do the same in Ecuador?

In Mexico, you occasionally here de Somebody, but when the husband is an important person and the women wants to make darn sure you know you are dealing with so-and-so's wife. The first lady, La Senora Marta de Fox is a prime example.
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