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[brsmith15]

I've warned many newcomers about getting involved in Chinese problems, but this time I failed to take my own advice. Before I recant this sordid tale, let me say that about 3 months ago I came to the aid of an older woman who'd been laid flat as a result of a hit-and-run. As might be expected, about 60 Chinese hovered around allowing the dying woman no extra air. I did what I could and asked a guy who spoke English to tell the crowd to keep back and for someone to call both the police and the EMT's. I was later told I'd saved the woman's life. Maybe so, maybe not. I simply did what my instinct told me.

Here in my apt building, there's a woman who really belongs locked up. She's mentally unstable and dangerous. About 2 times a week, she screams at a pitch that would crack concrete and the target is her young son. A few days ago, as I was coming to my place,she was out in the hall and carrying on like the Grim Reaper was on her case. I feared for her son and so physically restrained her.

Later she called the PSB and I had to go to the local station. The cops were very professional but in the end I had to pay her 800 rmb and give her a formal apology. Luckily my Chinese wife was with me and was able to offer some supporting evidence of this woman's insanity. Still and all, I was the one guilty of battery and so Justice leveled her scales.

From now on, if I see any Chinese in trouble, I will do in Rome (SH) as the Romans (SH's). Ignore it.

[NathanRahl]

Yeah, the chinese have no sympathy for foreigners, especially those that try to help. Remember, no good deed goes unpunished.

[Plan B]

[clark.w.griswald]

I hear you man. I had a similar experience a while back. I posted about it here on eslcafe but it turned into the usual troll fest and I think that the thread eventually got locked. Here is a post to my story on another forum where the responses were a bit more in line with what I expected:

http://www.shanghaiexpat.com/index.php?name=MDForum&file=viewtopic&t=44347

I would also caution everyone to be wary when playing the good samaritan. Hopefully we won't all turn out backs on those in need, but certainly try to protect yourself if you do decide to step in.

[englishgibson]

[jeffinflorida]

One day these 2 chinese were going at it - one a women one a man. My Pretty Chinese Girlfriend said I should break it up - I said not a chance I didn't want to get involved.

I can tell you I have actually learned a few things from trolling Daves for the last 2+ years...

DON'T EVER GET INVOLVED IN CHINA IF IT AIN'T YOUR OWN BUSINESS.

That's should be #1 on the list of advice given to newbies...

[JJ711]

[brsmith15]

JJ,

You gave me pause with your soul-searching question. Yes, all things considered, I would help. F**k the consequences. I was brought up Christian and now embrace Buddhism as well, although I shun organized religions. Too stuffy and involved with a lot of ritual.

OH, I'm no hero, just an ordinary guy who sometimes finds himself in extraordinary circumstances. Just ask the woman who had me charged with battery; she'll tell you I'm some kind of fiend.

[TravellingAround]

[Neilhrd]

I have had similar experiemces involving differing attitudes towards me as a foreigner between young and old Chinese people.

I often use the buses in Nanning and as I live right beside the terminus usually have a seat on my way to school. After a few stops the bus gets very crowded. I used to give up my seat if an old person got on as many young Chinese do. However the offer of a seat, made in Chinese, was nearly always refused although they would take a seat from a young Chinese person. I have never had any abuse and the old person was often embarrassed but still firm in their refusal. I think the reason is that they were brainwashed when young into believing that all foreigners were devils and therefore cannot lose by face by accepting a favour from the devil. Either that or they really think that I am a superior being with more right to the seat than they have which I find hard to believe.

I think the sheer pace of change in China has left many old people bewildered. With limited education they just can't adapt to changing attitudes to foreigners among many other things.

Whatever the reason I now rarely offer my seat to old people. However I still do so for young mothers with babies who invariably accept gratefully.

[james s]

This is a little vulgar but...my friend, a blond American, just came home and found black pubic hair shavings in his toilet.Of course, it was his fault for having his door and windows locked.

No Asian gf.

Nothing stolen, moved, or touched. Just the hair in the toilet. His razor was clean.

Seriously bizarre.

[JJ711]

[cj750]

Once in Changchun, a couple of girls were getting bit ch slapped by a couple of man-purses in the street across from the "jao zi" King....off to the rescue went the calvary in the guise of a couple of laoshi laowai..and true to the creed of the Chinese..the whores went after the bulls..chivalry is dead in China..

what is Chinese is Chinese..and what is foreign is foreign...

For those who still drink at Mayflowers..stand outside on a weekend night and see how many Chinese try and get between those big German Autoworkers..

[sultansofping]

[englishgibson]