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[thelmadatter]

So who is here in-country over the holidays because for one reason or another you cannot go home? Im only a semi-orphan as my son is coming to visit me... but a traditional Christmas it wont be.

I know of two others that are more-or-less in my situation. So what are you going to do over the holidays. I think Oaxaca is calling my name.

[MELEE]

Do I count?

I'm staying here, but my Mexican family is as big as my "family of origin"

We are hoping to hit Huatulco for a couple of days at least. Let me know if you come to Oaxaca, maybe we could get together somewhere.

[sarliz]

For the first time in my 29-year-old life, I'm too broke to go home for x-mas. And I'm in the denial/whiny phase right now. Hopefully I'll progress out of it soon. Wah!

[Dragonlady]

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[Tarheel 13]

Same boat here. For the first time in my life I will be spending Xmas without loved ones around. Home these days is North Carolina. My wife came over for a visit in mid-November for 10 days, but work took her away from me. She's now home, but will be traveling north to Canada to see our children and parents. Me? I'm still here in Wuhan, China, until January 19th; then, it's home to Carolina and teaching my adult Mexican friends until the end of June. What does this have to do with Xmas in Mexico? Not a thing I suppose, other than I'll be another lonely teacher far from loved ones. Be well.

[jfurgers]

Just wondering...for those of you who are stuck in Mexico over the Holidays due to not having enough money for a ticket, would it be possible for your families back in your home countries to send you some money so you can visit?

Just curious. My family (three sisters, some nephews & nieces, & mommie) live in Kentucky, actually southern Indiana which is only a hop, skip, and a jump away from beautiful Kentucky but I hardly go to see them even though I'm in the States for a few more months because they have NEVER spent any of THIER money to visit me.

Do you guys and gals feel like it's only your responsibility to see your families? Do your families back home have no responsibility to visit YOU ALL sometimes?

Just wondering.

[MELEE]

[thelmadatter]

Im my case, my son is pretty much my only family. I wont get into the ugly details.

[jfurgers]

I understand. Hope I didn't hit any nerves. I was just wondering. I've been in Texas for ten years and I've only had one nephew visit me one time. Everyone else say they are too busy which makes it a hard sell for me to go see them. I figure once I get to DF in the next three months or so, I'll never see them because they say Mexico is dirty, poor, and full of drug lords and criminals.

The one sister I have who does call me always says....why do you want to live in MEXICO? There's NOTHING down there. Yes, these are people who've never been outside of the States yet know SO MUCH about Mexico.

It's sad to hear how people have so many stereotypes about Mexico which isn't true. Oh well, such is life. I'll have my wifes family for the Holidays once I get to Mexico. They usually meet and have a nice dinner and talk forever. All of the orphans should get together if possible. Make it a nice Christmas.

Feliz Navidad!!!!

[jfurgers]

Melee....I understand how it can bother you when your friends didn't go to Mexico. My best childhood friend refused to go to my wedding by the church in DF back in Dec 97 because it was in Mexico. He said, no way will I ever go to Mexico. That country is too violent.

What's funny is for the past year he has been in AfGRABistan! Go figure! AND he VOLUNTEERED to go over there for the company he works for for a little extra cash. He works for a company that does contract work for the federal government. They have stores set up whereever a military base is or anywhere a war is going on. They supply clothes, food and many other things for the troops.

Amazing! I love DF no matter what people say. Especially people who have NEVER even been there. My wifes sister will never come to the States because she thinks it's too violent and that ALL of the Gringos hate all Mexicans. Not sure where she got that idea since she's never been here. People sure are funny sometimes!

[hlamb]

My parents have come to visit me twice in Mexico and may come once more before I leave. My brother also came once. This Christmas they are paying for my ticket home. It's nice to have a supportive family like this. Two aunts came as well. However, my friends are a different story. They have money for lots of things but not to come here. They would LOVE to come and I am so LUCKY to live here, but they just can't afford it. Yet, when I'm in Canada I'm expected to take the Greyhound to different parts of the country to visit them. Last visit home, I refused. I visited only those who've made an effort to keep in touch or visit me, or who can't, like my grandparents. It's unfortunate, but some people just don't seem willing to put in the effort to keep up good relationships.

[MO39]

[jfurgers]

It's unfortunate, but some people just don't seem willing to put in the effort to keep up good relationships.

I agree hlamb. Most of my friends are like that, especially when it comes to Mexico. The one sister I have who actually calls me once in a while will meet me half way for a weekend before I go to Mexico so I'll be going to Tennessee right before I head to DF to see her.

[jfurgers]

[jfurgers]

[MO39 wrote:
After years of moving around in the US and in other countries, I've discovered who my true friends are - those who manage to keep in touch, no matter how many miles separate us, either with letters and e-mails or with visits.







SOOO true!!!