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Snoopy
Joined: 13 Jul 2003 Posts: 185
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Posted: Wed Jan 07, 2004 3:36 pm Post subject: Blowing a gasket |
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| Have you ever blown your top at a boss? In my extinguished career, I have done so four times, with no great prospects for my future but enormous personal satisfaction. |
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basiltherat
Joined: 04 Oct 2003 Posts: 952
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Posted: Wed Jan 07, 2004 5:33 pm Post subject: |
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yes, if the boss is trying to break any contractual clauses. besides, that it aint worth it. in indonesia, the locals laugh at you wen u blow because their view is that ur hurting (ie suffering phsically) more than the person facing the abuse. they luv it wen u blow so i tried not to give them that satisfaction by walking away and ignoring him/her and carried on as before.
hehehe bulenya marah nich yea hehehe
roughly translated : hey hahaha look at the white bast@rd, hes blowing a gasket hahaha
best to keep ur cool
rgrds
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denise

Joined: 23 Apr 2003 Posts: 3419 Location: finally home-ish
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Posted: Wed Jan 07, 2004 6:28 pm Post subject: |
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I don't really see the point in blowing up at coworkers/supervisors. If they're really that bad, they're probably not going to be changed simply by being yelled at. I agree with one of basil's points--it hurts you more than it hurts them.
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dmb

Joined: 12 Feb 2003 Posts: 8397
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Posted: Wed Jan 07, 2004 7:36 pm Post subject: |
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| @Snoopy. Why do you say extinguished career? Surely you are not joining Biffinbridge and quiting this, the oldest profession in the world. |
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Lynn

Joined: 28 Jan 2003 Posts: 696 Location: in between
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Posted: Wed Jan 07, 2004 8:23 pm Post subject: |
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| I once went around the corner and bawled my eyes out. The manager never saw. |
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shmooj

Joined: 11 Sep 2003 Posts: 1758 Location: Seoul, ROK
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Posted: Wed Jan 07, 2004 11:38 pm Post subject: |
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been sorely tempted several times but while I have never lost it with my boss, I have lost it with admin and with one particular teacher a long and forgettable time ago.
Not worth it IMVHO
Instead I come home and take it out on my guitar and then have a therapy session with the wife (=chat). |
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Gordon

Joined: 28 Jan 2003 Posts: 5309 Location: Japan
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Posted: Thu Jan 08, 2004 5:28 am Post subject: |
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| I blew my top after a teaching practice session in my CELTA course. The trainer had chewed me out for doing something the other trainer had told me to do the week previous. He didn't see me, but after I left the room I punched the wall (it was brick) and cracked one of my knuckles. Man did that hurt. |
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struelle
Joined: 16 May 2003 Posts: 2372 Location: Shanghai
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Posted: Thu Jan 08, 2004 5:49 am Post subject: Re: Blowing a gasket |
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| Have you ever blown your top at a boss? |
In this industry, never. I've had a few issues with management in the past, but they've been minor. Relations have, for the most part, been excellent.
But I recall two times I blew up at bosses when I was doing low-wage service and warehouse work to pay my way through university. One boss was a literal slave-driver in a warehouse. He hired temps, but expected them to work full-time. Once he yelled at me for packing boxes wrong. Normally I'd keep my cool, but this was the proverbial last drop of water that spilled the bucket. At that point I told him off and said I was close to getting a university degree and didn't need this BS.
Another time was at least 8 years ago working as a cashier in a gas station. I was very nervous on the job then, and kept making cash mistakes. Once I was ordered to change the coffee, but nobody had trained me. By mistake, I spilled wet grounds all over the place. The boss yelled at me for being so clumsy, then I yelled back at her and walked off the job.
Thankfully I'm in a job where I am happy with the work, enjoy teaching, and it pays well. Relations with supervisors have never been better now.
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foster
Joined: 07 Feb 2003 Posts: 485 Location: Honkers, SARS
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Posted: Thu Jan 08, 2004 6:44 am Post subject: |
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Never have...but in the current situation, with the principal I have, I could see it happening.  |
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been_there

Joined: 28 Oct 2003 Posts: 284 Location: 127.0.0.1
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Posted: Thu Jan 08, 2004 8:17 am Post subject: DON'T GET MAD, GET EVEN |
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Once I was working at a video store and the manager asked if I could work the holidays. I told him "Sure, I'll work Thanksgiving and Christmas, but I want New Years off." because I could give a beep about religious holidays, but New Year is different. He said, "No problem, I'll do New Years."
Well, I did Christmas and Thanksgiving, and on December 30, my manager came to me and said, "Hey, I want to go to this party, your working the late shift tomorrow."
I smiled and said, "Oh, sure."
I came in at the beginning of my shift, my manager was working and he went to grab his coat and I said, "Oh, I quit." and walked out.
Went to San Francisco with an old University buddy and had the *best* freaking New Years of my life.
I've done similar (well, worse really) things to bosses in this field, but don't feel like disclosing them untill the statute of limitations is expired. |
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Wolf

Joined: 10 May 2003 Posts: 1245 Location: Middle Earth
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Posted: Thu Jan 08, 2004 10:36 am Post subject: |
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I never blew my top at a boss. I neve blew my top with a student either. That doesn't mean I didn't have difficult times, but it would have to be pretty darned serious before I blew my top.
Blow my top in Indonesia? I have two Indoneisan friends. If their general size is average, then if I blew my top in that country, I don't see how it would be me feeling the physical pain.
Which, in all seriousness, is all the more reason I try not to blow my top.
The only time I ever lost it at work was with a very abusive customer when I was working at a gas station. The guy refused to pay for some trumped up reason, so I called the cops. He paid. |
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Roger
Joined: 19 Jan 2003 Posts: 9138
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Posted: Thu Jan 08, 2004 11:46 am Post subject: |
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One of the more frustrating aspects of teaching in a foreign country such as China is that you have to bottle up your true feelings. I have given a piece of my opinion on a few occasions, not necessarily to increase the happiness of my superiors, but I have never blown my top.
Perhaps it's a blessing in disguise? |
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