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blaz44
Joined: 03 Jan 2005
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Location: wroclaw, poland
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 Posted: Tue Oct 12, 2010 3:51 pm Post subject: No Polish Friends |
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| Just wondering, are there other native speakers in the same boat. Honestly, after 5 years teaching in Poland, I can say I have no Polish friends. I know people, have their #s, but at the end of the day, not really a friendship there. I am married to Pole as well, I just have nothing in common, except the drink and usually I am drinking them under the table(not something to be proud of boys and girls). I am on the edge of going postal. Looking for a change but not interested in returning to Canada or my old occupation. |
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wojbrian
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| Posted: Wed Oct 13, 2010 9:02 am Post subject: |
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| I have some great friends here. |
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Jack Walker
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| Posted: Wed Oct 13, 2010 12:20 pm Post subject: |
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Yeah I know what you mean. I spent 7 years there and never really made any good male friends. There are a few that I keep in touch with, but they were all colleagues from work.Generally Poles are terrible when it comes to keeping in touch.
An Australian mate of mine spent 10 years in Poland and never had a good male friend after that time. He said that the Polish blokes like to call you up/text from the pub at 2am when they're pissed and ask you to come out with them,but when sober they tended to lay very low.
The Polish blokes I met fell into 3 categories:
1)Guys wanting to practice their English/be seen with a "foreigner" for free.
2)The drunk friends/drinking buddies who appear a few times a month only to vanish again.
3)The guys whose lives revolve around their jobs.They could be your friend under normal circumstances, but are so busy working 50-60 hours per week trying to keep up with the Nowakowskis, that they have no time for an actual life.
Female friends are quite easy to make, but the whole sexual tension thing usually messes things up.Polish women are all a little batty/neurotic and should be dealt with very cautiously!  |
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maniak
Joined: 06 Feb 2008
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| Posted: Wed Oct 13, 2010 11:16 pm Post subject: Re: No Polish Friends |
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| No surprise there, most people made friends back in college or through immediate relationships, ie family/friends of friends/work. |
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Jack Walker
Joined: 23 Oct 2008
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| Posted: Thu Oct 14, 2010 1:27 pm Post subject: Re: No Polish Friends |
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| maniak wrote: |
| No surprise there, most people made friends back in college or through immediate relationships, ie family/friends of friends/work. |
Good point.....I think most serious friendships are forged during the college years.All my current good friends were the ones whom I'd met during uni.
I think it is the result of "being a stranger in a strange land" scenario as well.
You are "exotic" and "trendy" when abroad, but people have a tendency to forget about you when you move home or to another country.The same situation happened to me after my 2 years in Asia.It isn't unique to Poland. |
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hrvatski
Joined: 16 Nov 2008
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| Posted: Sat Oct 23, 2010 7:10 am Post subject: |
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| Zero close Polish male friends... female friends on the other hand were plentiful! how good is it strolling into a bar with 6 gorgeous women |
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maniak
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| Posted: Sat Oct 23, 2010 10:36 pm Post subject: |
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| hrvatski wrote: |
| Zero close Polish male friends... female friends on the other hand were plentiful! how good is it strolling into a bar with 6 gorgeous women |
the gay guy
sorry
edit:
from my pov, if you want make buds with polish dudes you yourself have to appeal to polish dudeness. speaking polish is a big deal, as most guys feel uncomfortable having to speak english in a real deal setting, but if you can BS on things like cars, making szmal, *beep*, and just general pierdolenie while acting a bit like a tough guy is a good start, especially having something in common like some hobby. otherwise what good are you as a friend, cause honestly the thought of having to take out some brit and babysit him since he doesnt know whats what doesnt sound like fun. but most poles are quite hermetically closed, and those barriers stay up for a long time, its just that kind of culture. |
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hrvatski
Joined: 16 Nov 2008
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| Posted: Sun Oct 24, 2010 5:00 am Post subject: |
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| Ha! I deserved that, but really it's a good way to go. |
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Master Shake
Joined: 03 Nov 2006
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Location: Colorado, USA
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