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[Lostone7]

[Adventurer]

I wonder if the OP is really wondering why he as a nice guy isn't getting a woman around his arm so to speak. That is probably what he means and that if some of the girls who complained were with him they wouldn't have had the horror stories they recounted to him. The bad boys exude confidence are not boring. So basically, you can't go from being a nice guy to an as*hol* really, so you have to make sure you aren't boring to the women. Also, sometimes some of us guys might find certain nice girls not interesting when they would probably make great, loyal, loving girlfriends. We often want the adrenaline rush especially these days.

[daskalos]

Well, I think it's a false dichotomy. The real dividing line is men who project confidence and men who don't. I think it's a truism that, on average, badboys/a-holes project more confidence -- even if it's false or misplaced -- than nice guys, who are more inclined to have rational doubts, because they are more likely to be thinking, emotionally mature, self-aware human beings.

And the thing is, thinking, emotionally mature and self-aware human beings tend to find each other. This leads the bimbos and badboys to try to come up with theories as to why they can't find anyone they could consider to be "quality," because the sad truth is, they wouldn't know quality if it stood naked in front of them.

Of course, this is all predicated on the assumption that the OP was talking about actual relationships, not just "hook ups." Because the rules are completely different, and that causes much confusion in people who look at hook-ups as potential marriage material. (e.g., the fat, pimply guy/girl, who can't understand why s/he can't bed the hottest prospect in the room, which leads to sadly pathetic anguish along the lines of, "If only s/he knew what a sterling person I am on the inside, s/he'd take me home and **** me like a wh*re.")

Hook-ups are about sex, and that kind of sex is about what gets you hard/wet in the space of the hour or two before you boink. Nothing wrong with that, but thinking that such couplings will lead to anything serious is like trying to finance your retirement by means of winning the lottery.

Relationships are also about what gets you hard/wet, but what emotionally mature people find is that a man/woman who can't get you hard/wet in an hour may indeed, in a week/month/year, do the trick far more effectively than the hour's hook-up. And also that the guy/girl who made you hard/wet in the first hour, after a week/month/year, more often than not ends up leaving you limp as a cooked noodle, or dry as an uncooked one, as the case may be.

So I suppose my message is, Children, please work out your daddy and mommy issues before you start in seriously on the task of finding a mate. By then you'll have the real confidence, not its sham, to attract people who have real confidence, not its sham, and to be able to tell the difference between the two.

[djsmnc]

Man, when I am nice, I usually have to hang out alone, but when I get tough, man, I get all the way to third base!

[mindmetoo]

[Sincinnatislink]

[Privateer]

[nautilus]

Most people have intelligence to override their wet/ hard impulses. Playas only thrive in an alcahol-soaked environment; but in the normal everyday world they just appear ridiculous and objectionable.

[oneofthesarahs]

There's something sort of appealing and romantic about reforming the "bad boy." It's a challenge to turn a walking, talking chunk of testosterone and turning him into true boyfriend material. Granted, it usually ends in disaster, but it's fun while it lasts.

But what most girls really truly want is the guy who has the bad boy image without the bad boy behavior. The bad boy with the creamy nougat center.

[canuckistan]

[luvnpeas]

[canuckistan]

[SuperFly]

[twg]

[brento1138]

I know of many nice guys who get ass all the time. Thing is, they're good looking. Now, the not so good looking nice guys. They are the ones who complain.

Girls are just as skin deep as we are. That's a fact.