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SuperFly · Joined: 09 Jul 2003 Location: In the doghouse

I'm taking a Social science class right now. The chapter on marriage/divorce says this:

Divorce rate:
4/10 marriages end in divorce
Median age divorce = 35.6 males, 33.2 females
1/3 of divorces happen by the 4th year of marriage.

Leading cause of divorce in the USA:
Personality differences.
incompatability/drugs & alchohol.
infidelity/physical and psychological abuse.
financial difficulty/poor communication skills.
lack of commitment/dramatic change of priorities.

Marital instability leads to:
Marrying on the rebound
Hostility toward family of orientation of one of the spouse to the other.
Dramatic differences in spouses familial backgrounds in terms of religion, ethnicity, race, education, social class.
Dependence on one of the families of orientation for shelter, inceome and emotional support.
unstable marriage in one of the spouses families.
Marriage after being aquainted for less than 6 months or engagement of more than three years.
Pregnancy before marriage or very shortly after marriage.

Factors responsible for decrease in divorce rate:
Annual income of over 50K
have baby 7 months or more after marriage.
Marrying over 25 yrs old.
coming from intact family of origin.
Having a religious affiliation.
Having a university background, or at least some university experience.

Re-marriage:
Percent of remarriages ending in divorce = 60%

Consequences of divorce:
Women suffer more stress and trauma than men.
Women suffer 45% loss of income and standard of living.
4x more divorced men will commit suicide than married men will.
Men who don't remarry after 6 years following divorce have higher rates of alcholism and drug use, depression and anxiety.

Then again, they don't mention the 7 year itch.

bluelake · Joined: 01 Dec 2005

I've been married now going on twenty-three years. When I first came to Korea back then, my wife (not my wife then) was my guide, interpreter, and best friend; I married my best friend (and she's still my best friend).

SuperFly · Joined: 09 Jul 2003 Location: In the doghouse

Has anyone here had any research experience with regression analysis?

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Regression_analysis

ella · Joined: 17 Apr 2006

Disclaimer: I've never been married, these are just my opinions and not intended to offend.

At 36, two years of dating is long enough to know whether or not this is the person you want to marry. Your gf is being ridiculous. If marriage is her goal, she ought to be dating someone who is like-minded. Sticking around year after year, becoming more deeply involved, all the while wishing/hoping/praying he'll change very, very foolish. Having said that, continuing to date someone who is doing that while you're seriously ambiguous about marriage is ungentlemanlike (is that a word?) behavior, in my opinion.

Bramble · Joined: 26 Jan 2007 Location: National treasures need homes

mehamrick · Joined: 28 Aug 2006 Location: South Korea

I say meet the parents.. hell they might end up hating you because your a foreigner.. or who knows maybe you will like them and think it's the best route to go. I think deep down you either know or you dont..

Good luck with whatever decision you make though..

gsxr750r · Joined: 29 Jan 2007

It's just her mom. Father passed away (I am told it WOULD have been a huge problem to him). I'm sure her mom's wonderful, and I anticipate no problems if I did meet her. She has relatives who have married foreigners, and live in the USA.

This may all be too late, anyway.

SuperFly · Joined: 09 Jul 2003 Location: In the doghouse

Why might it be too late man?