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[Scaggs]

Anyone have wisdom on dealing with girlfriend curfew?

[jaganath69]

[Masta_Don]

If she really loves you she'll sneak out.

[bgreenster]

Date a Western chick?

Otherwise, suck it up and make your dates early- it can be like high school nostalgia. Yet another one of the numerous joys of dating a Korean girl.

*edited for a spelling mistake.

[Scaggs]

[Scaggs]

Especially would appreciate any useful thoughts on dealing with it/working around it.

[bgreenster]

Sorry, I couldn't resist. Should have, but couldn't.

I don't know what kind of truly helpful things you can get from us, though- especially without details on your part.

I can give you all the juvenile tricks I did back in the day, if you'd find that helpful... but don't most of us have the same experience overall regarding that?

[chasmmi]

The only thing I can think of is to act like 11pm (or whatever the go home time is) is actually 4am.

So start early maybe see 3 o clock movie showing before dinner instead of after, then have dinner at 5 or 6 before (if your relationship is this far) going to a motel between say 8m and 11pm.


If you are talking about how to get her to come out all night. Well the only way is if you have a gf who is willing to lie to her parent and say she has to study at a female friends house all night.


Sons can come home at any time naked with a prostitutes finger still stuck up his rear end and its generally fine but the daughter will have to be home by midnight. (Not actually to different from the UK if you think about it) Parents are more protectivce of daughters as they are the kids more likely to get raped or abused etc.

[thegadfly]

Two different 28-year old women I dated a while ago each still lived at home and each had a curfew (ah, Korea!). They used the "Dad, I'm going to the jimjibang with friends tonight, be home tomorrow" excuse.

My dating experiences were years apart, and they both claimed it was fairly common for people to do that, so they could use the excuse every month or so...one of them seemed to use it every other week. Dunno if that helps....

[Qinella]

[Bibbitybop]

Assuming your girl is living with her parents, then she will need to lie a lot and get out as much as possible. Don't let her parents know she is dating a waygook, or she will never be able to leave the house in comfort.

Assuming your girl is at a uni and has a dormitory curfew, then most unis let girls stay out as long as they register their absence. Plan ahead, take trips, convince her to stay at your place and convince her that yeogwans aren't only for cheating people. Sound, respectful people go there, too. Show her the Lonely Planet guide with all the "clean" yeogwans they list.

Good luck.

[VirginIslander]

Date her mother instead.

[yingwenlaoshi]

Do her earlier in the evening and then go get drunk or whatever with your friends or by yourself later in the evening.

Why does everything have to be such a problem?

[Bibbitybop]

[mercury]

If she really likes you she can lie, lie, lie. Kgirls can get out of anything with their creative minds, no joke! It might be her way of ditching you, maybe you are just number two and later on she meets her 'real' boyfriend.