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[simone]

I think that in the long run, most women (and perhaps most men too) want a "partner".

The trick is, marriage ain't 50/50. If you go into it expecting that, you'll be constantly measuring your contribution against your spouse's, and sometimes withholding when you think you're "overcontributing". IMO, it's impossible to overcontribute.

A good marriage is 100%/100% with each spouse doing all they can. Sometimes I bring in all the money, and do half the dishes, sometimes I bring in some of the money and do none of the dishes... the situation can vary greatly, and life requires flexibility.

You marry a person, with a life as changeable as your own, and if you want to stay married, it helps to remember that people are a lot more than just the role they play.

I hope that someday, (perhaps when we have kid #2) I can take a year or two off work and be a full-time-mom. Would I want to give up my career long term to do so? No effin way! I like putting on my suits and going into meetings and telling roomfulls of ajoshis everything they're doing wrong. It's fun.

If you want to see good discussion of gender roles in marriage related to educated 2-career couples, check out this blog: http://blogs.wsj.com/juggle/ It's part of the wall street journal, and issues related to "who does what", the "mommy track" and so on. You get all sorts of comments, but it seems that for most, the issue of "who supports whom" is ancient history. Most people seem to be giving their all just to get by... there's no room for anyone to be a "slacker".

[Draz]

[simone]

[Draz]