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| Married men, are you happier now that ur married? |
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| Yes and No, being married is harder than I thought |
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Paji eh Wong
Joined: 03 Jun 2003
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| mariage is great for me. It made a man out of me. It gives me responsibilities which matures me. When I was single, I was a boy, end of story. Im better off any way you cut it. I have a partner in life who supports me, Im better off financially than I could ever be as a single man. |
Fixed it jinju.
Meanwhile, others among us don't need to have our hands held to make our way in the world. |
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write of weigh
Joined: 08 Sep 2007
Location: Mars
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| Posted: Sun Oct 07, 2007 7:53 am Post subject: |
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What's with all these single guys claiming expertise about something they know nothing about? Go hijack another thread. Damn, It's like listening to myself talk 5 years ago.
Although i dont appreciate being talked down to either, im trying to learn something, rather than talking about shit i already know. Some of these married guys have made some sound points.
Maybe jinju's gotta point? One reason I dont marry is because I dont want the responsibility. Is that childish? It's definitely not mature. |
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karma police
Joined: 01 Sep 2007
Location: all roads lead to where you are...
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| Posted: Sun Oct 07, 2007 8:21 am Post subject: |
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my baby always surrenders the tv remote control to me and lets me watches anything i want...  |
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seoulshock
Joined: 12 Jul 2005
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| Posted: Sun Oct 07, 2007 5:49 pm Post subject: |
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| jinju wrote: |
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| jinju wrote: |
| mariage is great. It makes a man out of a boy. It gives you responsibilities which mature you. Single men are boys, end of story. Im better off any way you cut it. I have a partner in life who supports me, Im better off financially than I could ever be as a single man. |
As a single man, I'm offended.
...and most marriages might start out great, but most of them also don't last.
After divorce settlements, they turn these "men" into crying little boys... who have responsibilities like paying alimony on top of the settlement... yeah, that matures you.
You don't *have* to be married in order to have a partner who supports you. You just felt you needed some sort of government validation on the love you have with your girlfriend.
And unless you're marrying someone who makes more than you, you're *not* better off financially than you are as a single man.
...hmm, actually I'm starting to think you were being sarcastic. |
another boy...shouldnt this board have a maturity minimum?
as far as finances, in 5 years of marriage I was able to put down 175,000 US, all cash in one go, for an apartment. This is not something Id be able to do as a sex obsessed boy whose biggest priority in life is screwing any tramp in a bar who will have him. |
So anyone who isn't married is a sex obsessed boy? Sorry, I don't go to bars. As a single man I'm able to save more than if I were married.
Maybe it took marriage for *YOU* to stop being a sex obsessed boy, but not everyone needs a love 'contract' to do that. |
jinju has a response to everything except this. |
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Paji eh Wong
Joined: 03 Jun 2003
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| Posted: Sun Oct 07, 2007 6:29 pm Post subject: |
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| write of weigh wrote: |
One reason I dont marry is because I dont want the responsibility. Is that childish? It's definitely not mature. |
If that's you, that's fine. Just don't lump me in the same catagory. |
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canuckistan
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Joined: 17 Jun 2003
Location: Training future GS competitors.....
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| Posted: Sun Oct 07, 2007 6:48 pm Post subject: |
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After reading this entire thread, I have to say I think the question is mis-stated and unrepresentative of the true situation about being married/unmarried.
All the positive things married guys bring up about being married are true. But all the great things unmarried guys bring up about being single are true as well. We arent (necessarily) given an order form to select either, 'married' or 'single' as per our desired preference in life. As young guys, we start out single. If the right things happen and we might the right person and we desire to make the choice to tie the knot, we become married. If we dont meet the right person, we dont tie the knot. Or perhaps we dont look for the right person to begin with, and thats another story....
But tied or untied, we should enjoy the unique circumstances and conditions in our lives as they exist in the moment. If you're single, live up the freedom and fun your liberty affords you! If you're married, enjoy the companionship and caring your partner provides you. |
Well said! |
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twg
Joined: 02 Nov 2006
Location: Getting some fresh air...
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| Posted: Sun Oct 07, 2007 7:44 pm Post subject: |
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| ... that not-so-subtly imply that the married and/or parents have some kind of mental deficiency and/or are just plain mad, display a smug arrogance that I take a certain amount of offense to. |
Don't spin my words, or project upon me. I find it annoying.
| write of weigh wrote: |
| What's with all these single guys claiming expertise about something they know nothing about? |
This attitude is complete bullsh*t
Marriage is some sort of hidden secret society that none of us have ever been privy to? No single person has ever seen the married dynamic? There's a whole other level of awareness that single people can not possibly comprehend?
No, no, and no. That's like saying you can't claim an opinion on a movie unless you've made one yourself. Utter rubbish.
Marriage is a chosen lifestyle. Two people have chosen to depend upon each other. If some married guys don't like my opinions as to why they've taken to viewing their lifestyle choices as superior, as well as not liking my observations on just how dependent they typically become on the missus... well, tough titty for them.
But if you look at the typical crap Jinju spews... and have you noticed that the biggest habitual trolls here are all married.... you'll know full well that the "Makes a man out of you" idea is just a load of crap. |
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write of weigh
Joined: 08 Sep 2007
Location: Mars
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| Posted: Sun Oct 07, 2007 9:47 pm Post subject: |
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| twg wrote: |
Marriage is some sort of hidden secret society that none of us have ever been privy to? No single person has ever seen the married dynamic? There's a whole other level of awareness that single people can not possibly comprehend?
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Watching baseball and playing baseball r two different things.
And if u recall the point of the thread was asking married men if they feel they are better off. In light of this, i think im right on target.
If you would like, spread your wisdom twg or learn us with ur experience on being married. |
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indytrucks
Joined: 09 Apr 2003
Location: The Shelf
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| Posted: Sun Oct 07, 2007 10:03 pm Post subject: |
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| Don't spin my words, or project upon me. I find it annoying. |
I didn't think I was spinning your words. That's what I got out of what you originally said. Potato, Potahto, I guess. |
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kermo
Joined: 01 Sep 2004
Location: Eating eggs, with a comb, out of a shoe.
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| Posted: Sun Oct 07, 2007 11:00 pm Post subject: |
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Marriage can be gorgeous, or so I hear. Maybe the people who talk about it aren't married to someone spends lavishly but can't hold down a job, doesn't use the apartment like a dumping ground, knows how to groom themselves and get home on time, doesn't refuse to let you drive the vehicle you pay the bills for, allows you to meet their friends, shows an interest in your hobbies and job, can remember to feed their own pets.
Being married to an irresponsible, self-obsessed person can be an immense drain on your physical, mental and financial health. It can make your future a nightmare. It can make you want to jump in front of a bus every day.
Not all of the aforementioned perks are guaranteed... |
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LateBloomer
Joined: 06 May 2006
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| Posted: Mon Oct 08, 2007 1:28 am Post subject: |
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Unposter:
Maybe it's because I'm "old" as well.... but I thought there were a number of profound statements in your post. |
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pest2
Joined: 01 Jun 2005
Location: Vancouver, Canada
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| Posted: Mon Oct 08, 2007 3:16 am Post subject: |
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| By the way, I'm having my '2nd wedding' ceremony next month. I'd like to invite everyone from Dave's to attend... except, shucks, its going to take place in Australia. Kinda far, eh |
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Cheonmunka
Joined: 04 Jun 2004
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| Posted: Mon Oct 08, 2007 3:49 am Post subject: |
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I find nothing offensive in twg's post. I believe some of the things that people say about married men are quite correct. Not all of the time do men act the certain way but often enough for it to be a little true.
I'm a little stuck to me wife's *beep* (mammories.) But, where would I be if I weren't. You know, I'd be out whoring around, spending my money, tryin' to find love in all the wrong places.
Much rather be a lil' momma's boy with a roof over my head, all the conveniences, and three square meals a day.
I don't think marriage is wrong because of the laws built around it. I kind of feel that having a partner, a life partner if you will is just not the same. I think a man should get married.
Even many gay couples want marriage not just life partners. Marriage must give them something much more than what a partnership would.
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Cheonmunka
Joined: 04 Jun 2004
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| Posted: Mon Oct 08, 2007 3:57 am Post subject: |
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| By the way, I'm having my '2nd wedding' ceremony next month. I'd like to invite everyone from Dave's to attend... except, shucks, its going to take place in Australia. Kinda far, eh |
A nice evening with snags, possum steak and a few tubes of Tooheys sounds a bit of alright. |
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pest2
Joined: 01 Jun 2005
Location: Vancouver, Canada
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| Posted: Mon Oct 08, 2007 7:01 am Post subject: |
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| By the way, I'm having my '2nd wedding' ceremony next month. I'd like to invite everyone from Dave's to attend... except, shucks, its going to take place in Australia. Kinda far, eh |
A nice evening with snags, possum steak and a few tubes of Tooheys sounds a bit of alright. |
Yeah, we've both been studying Korean until just last month... since we are almost outta here and headed to Australia, she's been teaching me Australian.... |
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