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[nolegirl]

Well I am 5 years away from 30 but I felt inclined to add to this thread as i usually date 30-39 year olds.

Every single person is envious of you. As I said before in another thread :

Do you want a house in the suburb that looks like every other house within a 5 mile radius in a pale peach color with a white picked fence and 2 bedrooms and 2 1/2 baths driving a f-ing minivan and wearing mom jeans. Working a 9-5 where you come home and you have to cook dinner,feed the kids, and then fall asleep on the coach b/c you had shitty day at work and your to tired from taking care of the kids to even make your way to the bedroom. And forget sex, you don't want another screaming baby running around that is going to milk you for every dime that you have and honestly your just to tired from working a 10 hour day to even think about sex.

That grass is not greener people, the only thing they have up on all of us,
well at least they will with me, is they will own their house, for my friends in 30 years.... 30 years of slavery, suckers!!! Half of them are going to lose it anyway signing these interest only mortgages. Shit load of houses in Florida are under foreclosure, they have bus trips to go around and look at them all.

So here is a question you can ask yourself, which one would you prefer:

1) I just went to Shanghai for a vacation and ate sushi and experenced some really cool shit.

2) Well, I couldn't afford gas to drive the family to the beach so we just went over to Bennigans and got an awesome blossom, and the kids got baloons!!


Thats great if you want kids and want to get married, or if you are, but at least you are doing it on your own terms, not this BS, PTA soccer mom shit. Seriously I would kick my own ass if I ever were to stoop to that level, especially if I was wearing mom jeans.

When I am 30,40,50,60.... I will still act the same way, curse like a sailor, drink like a sailor, and probably be having sex with a sailor

The only things that suck for women is our biological clock is ticking, I would adopt though. But for all you women out there still trucking away at 50 I want to be just like you, of course with some botox maybe and a maybe a breast lift or something but thats neither here nor there, you keep rockin like an all star!!! Because you rule, and guys droole!!! hehe, sorry really immature, but I don't care b/c I am so freakin AWESOME

[mikeyboy122]

I don't brag, I shag. Ya hear?

[mysterious700]

yeah but who wants to work in a sh!%%y low paying job with no future and too much stress. korea's a good ride while it lasts.

[sojourner1]

Who is over 30 and single with no kids wondering the whole wide world?


Uh, Me.


No shame in it either as it's not necessary for me to be stereotypical. (getting married, having kids, living a boring strapped down life, getting in debt to afford house and SUV and a needed extra family car, and then doing it on $30,000 a year while I work OT to achieve that 30,000 a year to just barely make it from paycheck to paycheck.) I like to spend discretionary income as a result of having no kids on international travel to enjoy life a bit. My student loan debt is already more than enough to saddle in this day and age...

This really is not a strange way to live as millions of young to middle age adults around the world are doing just this and it is true there is a negative population growth trend coming about in many countries.

[Stormy]

Bumping this 'cos I keep losing track of it.

[Spliff's Son]

[Stormy]

[blaseblasphemener]

You can bookmark a thread? I didn't know that.

[Spliff's Son]

[Spliff's Son]

[Wisconsinite]

True dat sister! hehe But seriously, I think being able to do what we are doing or have done is important and will makes us better wives and mothers down the road. If you truly want a relationship and family, you will have it. Hey, maybe you will find it in Korea??

[Wisconsinite]

I don't think it is really true that you have to lead an expensive, all consumming life in America and that you don't lead one in Korea. It's not that black and white. I have no friends in America who drive cars that are too expensive for them or live in houses they can't afford. There are still many, many affordable places to buy a house in America. Many of my friends work a normal day, get over 3 weeks a year of vacation, and have wonderful relaxing times with friends on the weekend. I wouldn't characterize any of my friends' lives as a "rat race."

I live in America after 4 years in Korea and I choose to live a simple life. I am not in huge debt, I own a little home that I don't pay too much for, I pay all my bills on time. I go camping on the weekends with my friends and family. I take vacations from time to time. I get over 3 weeks of vacation a year. I work 8 hours a day but who doesn't? It's a great life and while I am thinking of going back to Korea, it is not because of wanting to live a different life, it's because I want to work with teachers.

You choose the kind of life you want to live, no matter where you are living.

[Been There, Taught That]

I'm one of those. Like it or not, I'm carrying the full load. I'm 44 and can't keep still.

I am married and have one 2-year-old. It's not a whole brood, but when you can't find the urge to put down roots, you look at them and wonder why. Why, at 44, you need to be going places, trading in 5--and more--years of accumulated materialism for 7,000-mile hiking boots; why you can never be happy growing old where you grew up; why you can't bear to continue on like all those around you, jobs and bills and fences and bars and same old same old everywhere you look. Everyone who doesn't buy into it has a closet full of objections and belittlements to try to make you like they are, not realizing that you truly are; you simply can't be at the place they are.

Nevertheless, my wife has finally consented to decide, after 5 years of marriage which began shortly after I returned from Korea the first time, that our financial fitness can only be enhanced--I say initiated--by moving back to Korea, away from the family she does have here--I really have never had family to separate from--and living my dream, which I call my career goal. She is trying to be understanding, to imagine, at 27 years old, herself being happy in a place approximately 6700 miles farther from her hometown than she's ever been before. She's filling up on information, which is more than I did the first time. I jumped right in shortly after getting involved with her in 2001, leaving her behind for almost two years. That's the time I realized something she already had known: that ESL wasn't the a resume enhancer I wanted it to be for work here; ESL was a work destination. At least for me.

She waited, though, and we both thought I shed the need like a snake skin. We found out that snakes wear a replacement skin, though. Therefore, almost to the day we got married, a month after I got home,We will be back in October, and I will admit that arranging things with a family takes a lot more down-to-earth planning than being single and hopping on a plane with your eyes closed. So, I'm actually planning to be down-to-earth, just in a different place and culture.

But the spirit is there, and it will be. I'm one of those. I'm hoping my daughter will come to be, and my wife will come to understand. The experience will be the medium, as I've told her time and again. From this side of my experience, it really is no more than life lived in the same way in a different place. People are, for better or worse, people.

[Been There, Taught That]

Just to add: I don't want a house nor real property, and I don't to any extent feel the pull of materialism. I am the anti-pack rat, if you want to say that. Stuff is my stress point. One of my chiefest joys coming back to Korea is that I don't have to drive, buy gas, compare car insurance prices, comb used car lots, etc--although I did read in the K-Herald that bicycle insurance is coming into vogue.

I have a credit card, but it's brand new, just because we're going abroad. I don't ever plan to use it except to keep it valid and in the extremest, direst emergencies--like, school refuses to hand over return airfare and I have to reserve a flight that type of thing. that type of thing That's all I ever needed more than cash for in Korea, anyway.

[slideaway77]

I totally agree with the people on here I'm 31 been here six months. Anyone going back home in the current economic climate to "settle down" must be mad.
I'm from the UK and I don't mess the miserable place one bit. Young people (er.. me) can't afford a deposit for a house-priced out, massive bills, menial boring work, small town mentality, all the women are fat and ugly, serious economic problems...
Its ok settling down, if you are prepared to settle for this..