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[some waygug-in]

I see nothing wrong with making friendships with students and going to dinner or a movie once in a while, but keep the romance out of it. You are only asking for trouble. There were 2 students in particular that I used to go out with once in a while, it was never more than dinner and a movie with some polite practicing of English involved. Eventhough I really wanted to "date" some of my students, I knew that it would only lead to trouble.
I made the mistake of dating another teacher at my school, and for the rest of that year my life was very difficult. Even though we are still dating, I would never ever do it again. Every time we had an arguement or something, she would invade my classes and embarras the hell out of me. Not great PR for the school.

She also would become very jealous when a student started to get flirty with me. Not that I ever did anything, but it really made the work atmosphere stressful.

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Some waygug-in

[Bruce Willis]

Sparkx -------

High Class Lady: I don't appreciate the innuendo.

Groucho Marx: Well, you know what they say: "When money
comes innuendo, love goes right out the door!"

[peter07]

This topic has been beaten to death, but it seems some want to hear an opinion that they prefer, as opposed to a straight opinion.

Not that foreigners are the only ones to sleep with students (Korean professors are known to do so, too), but doing so and thus further boosting the image of the loser foreigner is not cricket. If you're so attractive to your students, I'm sure you can get a date OUTSIDE of your school, right?

[kumuka]

Actually, its the best way to meet Korean Woman. They want to meet foreigners and speak English. I have dated several and 75% of them I took to bed several times. Also, pillow talk is agreat way to improve their English!! Go for it!!

[Homer]

Is it just me or does the opening question of this thread anwser itself?
Let's see:

on one side the concept of Dating.
on the other the concept of Teacher-student relationship.

This should be obvious to any reasonably smart person: there would be a conflict or potential conflict of interest involved.

[supernick]

I find it hard to put ethical or unethical in the same sentence regarding anything about Korea. Date your students, your co=workers and your boss. I have done it and I'm still here. If it wasn't for the fringe benifits, I would've been gone long ago.

I know of one guy who was fooling around on his girlfriend with some of his students, and she reported him to immigration and was soon deported because of his unethical character.

[Rand Al Thor]

[Boogie]

This response has nothing to do with morals- just advice from someone who's done it... don't.

[slothrop]

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[weatherman]

I know one guy to did, but he ended up marrying her, so I guess worked you in the end. This same guy had an alter ego before he got married, who hit on every student imaginable, but the administration just couldn't believe it and defended him, by saying that he was just really friendly. Another administer at my school called it his adaptation strategy to Korea, and that my adaptation strategy needed tinkering. Koreans gossip way too much, so it is a very questionable practice.

[kiwiboy_nz_99]

If it's at a uni, absolutely no way in hell with either students or co-workers. At an English Hagwon for adults, not your own current students. Students of other teachers, or former students are ok. I don't say this from a moral perspective, but from the perspective of professionalism. Take the school, your profession, the students, the money they pay to learn, and the effort they put into study seriously. Like someones else said, it's tempting, but put the effort in and you can meet plenty of nice Korean women outside of work. It's cleaner and simpler, and more professional.

[Joo Rip Gwa Rhhee]

If you work for YBM with their low salary - you might as well take some "extra compensation" if you can.

[rapier]

I've only ever briefly taught adults, for a couple of weeks. In that class i had an admirer... the hagwon boss and other students didn't seem to mind, in fact almost recomended, that i dated her.
it was kinda fun to have her flirt with me during the lesson..
however ultimately, she wasn't exactly my type, and anyhow I think dating your students is totally unprofessional, and potentially a nightmare for you... steer clear, there's plenty other ways for you to meet women.

[SuperHero]

It's 100% wrong no matter where you work.

[riverboy]

Taking advantage of a student is wrong. On the other hand, if you are discreet and take your time and are not in abusing your power or influence by trying to bed every available student, then by all means go for it. If you and the subject in question really have something worth pursuing then a little patience and common sense between the two of you could turn out to be a good thing.