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Saying NO to teacher parties and after PS volleyball
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nicam



Joined: 14 Jun 2008

PostPosted: Tue Mar 03, 2009 5:50 pm    Post subject: Saying NO to teacher parties and after PS volleyball Reply with quote

While I would love to fork over my 20,000 Won and join today's teacher party, which starts waaaay after my school hours, I live really far from my school and just don't want to a) waste the food I prepared for tonight because I had no prior notice about the party, and b) get home really late because of my commute.

How do I... CAN I say no and not cause any hard feelings?
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afsjesse



Joined: 23 Sep 2007
Location: Kickin' it in 'Kato town.

PostPosted: Tue Mar 03, 2009 5:54 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Tell them you are on a diet and cook your own food. Even if you are thin, they will buy this because Koreans who are ultra thin say they are on a diet. I actually like the parties and pay 20k per month also.

You could also just simply say your busy and come up with an excuse.
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Yu_Bum_suk



Joined: 25 Dec 2004

PostPosted: Tue Mar 03, 2009 5:58 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Just really suck at volleyball - they won't ask you again.
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Perceptioncheck



Joined: 13 Oct 2008

PostPosted: Tue Mar 03, 2009 5:59 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

afsjesse wrote:
Tell them you are on a diet and cook your own food. Even if you are thin, they will buy this because Koreans who are ultra thin say they are on a diet. I actually like the parties and pay 20k per month also.

You could also just simply say your busy and come up with an excuse.


Best advice. I prepare a number of iron-clad excuses at the beginning of the week for when they spring these "parties" on me. This is because I often get interrogated by my co-teach when I say that I have plans. Who? Why? Where? When? (Stuttering, umming and ahhing are apparently not appropriate answers to these questions).

I'd be cautious about telling them you are on a diet. My teachers tend to get offended when I suggest - or even imply - that Korean food is less than 100% healthy.
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sobriquet



Joined: 16 Feb 2007
Location: Nakatomi Plaza

PostPosted: Tue Mar 03, 2009 6:01 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Tell them no.

As for the VB tell them you aren't competitive and don't play team sports.

My school doesn't care, they invite me still to staff events, I either say yes or no.

No mincing about.

They appreciate it.
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egrog1717



Joined: 12 Mar 2008

PostPosted: Tue Mar 03, 2009 6:32 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Smile, nod, and say "Thank you but no thank you" then change the subject... Koreans get off-track pretty easily when they're trying to figure out what you're asking them lol
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RufusW



Joined: 14 Jun 2008
Location: Busan

PostPosted: Tue Mar 03, 2009 7:47 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Ha, I just got invited to teacher's volleyball at 3. If it was after school I'd definitely think of declining the offer. Now all I can think about is trying to resist the urge to get too involved and accidently spiking the ball straight into my principal's face. (and then possibly shouting "BOOM.... how'd you like 'dem apples!!")
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Michelle



Joined: 18 May 2003

PostPosted: Tue Mar 03, 2009 7:51 pm    Post subject: Yeah Reply with quote

Yu_Bum_suk wrote:
Just really suck at volleyball - they won't ask you again.



Been there, done that......didn't even have to try!

Faces at my initial game....

Shocked then Laughing
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nicam



Joined: 14 Jun 2008

PostPosted: Tue Mar 03, 2009 8:03 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Okay, so this is lame, but I told my co-teacher that my cat was sick and I was worried about her so I wanted to get home as early as possible (I know, I know) and she told me to go home after my last class at 2:15.

I kind of felt really bad about that until a minute ago, when a couple of my meaner students told me that I got older over vacation, and that I now look terrible and fat. I told them it's Korea's fault for having such a nasty winter, but I was happy that they actually used the word "terrible" in a sentence, and now I don't feel so bad about going home early.
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Dances With Wolves



Joined: 06 May 2008
Location: A galaxy far, far away!

PostPosted: Tue Mar 03, 2009 8:04 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Suck thru your teeth then say "Very Difficult". Seriously though if you are good in volleyball, this will give you more respect in the school. I play ever Wednesday, but our volleyball games are during school hours, and beats sitting at my desk reading this board. As for dinner invites, I do them when I feel like it. Saying "no" is ok, but I would try to make it when it is convenient.
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ChinaBoy



Joined: 17 Feb 2007

PostPosted: Tue Mar 03, 2009 8:07 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

"My (mom, dad, grandma) is sick and I need to rush home to call him/her."

Works every time, and you look like a good (son, daughter, grandchild).
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nicam



Joined: 14 Jun 2008

PostPosted: Tue Mar 03, 2009 8:08 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Yeah, if volleyball is during school hours that's cool, although any activity that involves solid objects flying at high speeds towards my head is not my thing, but I will take the advice of the posters and just say NO.
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Yu_Bum_suk



Joined: 25 Dec 2004

PostPosted: Tue Mar 03, 2009 8:13 pm    Post subject: Re: Yeah Reply with quote

Michelle wrote:
Yu_Bum_suk wrote:
Just really suck at volleyball - they won't ask you again.



Been there, done that......didn't even have to try!

Faces at my initial game....

Shocked then Laughing


After sports day proved me to be the fastest runner at any distance the teachers all had high hopes that I might be the key to reversing their consistantly abysmal performances on the volleyball court. Were they ever disappointed.
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Horangi Munshin



Joined: 06 Apr 2003
Location: Busan

PostPosted: Tue Mar 03, 2009 8:33 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

I really miss the Wednesday volleyball games with the teachers at school. I started a parents class at volleyball time and volleyball was cancelled.

I don't miss being told foreigners can't play in the inter-school v-ball competition. Needless to say. I didn't and won't attend that particular dinner.
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CA-NA-DA-ABC



Joined: 20 Jun 2006

PostPosted: Tue Mar 03, 2009 9:34 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

ChinaBoy wrote:
"My (mom, dad, grandma) is sick and I need to rush home to call him/her."

Works every time, and you look like a good (son, daughter, grandchild).


one of the best excuses I've heard in a while. Works especially well in Korea. Any excuse having to do with parents flies well among Koreans.
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