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tzechuk
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I've done it. Easy.. but I am British and for me it was a matter of getting a new passport and providing evidence of marriage.
Of course, now that I am divorced I am debating what to do with my name.
Changing it back to my maiden name requires me going to TWO other countries and I am not sure I want to be doing it just yet... I'd like to get remarried (if I find a man..lol) and if and when I do, I want to have his name.. so I don't know that I want to keep changing it. It only confuses people. |
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Otherside
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The funny thing is, if you do change your name to match your husband's other Koreans might joke that your relationship is incestuous (though obviously not, since you're foreign). Korean husbands and brides very rarely have the same last name for this reason. |
You've got to be kidding me? I mean Korea's the one place where you have a 1 in 4 shot of marrying a man/woman with the same surname as you. In another country it might make for an interesting story how two people met who happened to have the same surnames (originally) in Korea, if you are Kim, you've got a 1 in 4 shot, Lee, 1 in 6, Park 1 in 8...and another 10 or so names with atleast a 1 in 20 shot. |
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the boy next door
Joined: 08 Jun 2008
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| Posted: Fri Mar 20, 2009 7:40 am Post subject: |
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OP, why?
are there NO more single white males left in your native country?  |
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Underwaterbob
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| Posted: Fri Mar 20, 2009 4:32 pm Post subject: |
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| Otherside wrote: |
| IlIlNine wrote: |
The funny thing is, if you do change your name to match your husband's other Koreans might joke that your relationship is incestuous (though obviously not, since you're foreign). Korean husbands and brides very rarely have the same last name for this reason. |
You've got to be kidding me? I mean Korea's the one place where you have a 1 in 4 shot of marrying a man/woman with the same surname as you. In another country it might make for an interesting story how two people met who happened to have the same surnames (originally) in Korea, if you are Kim, you've got a 1 in 4 shot, Lee, 1 in 6, Park 1 in 8...and another 10 or so names with atleast a 1 in 20 shot. |
Not the only place. It's not a country, but a town called Pubnico in Nova Scotia, Canada. The phone book for the area has 12 pages of d'Entremonts and 5 pages of d'Eons, with a smattering of Boudreaus, Comeaus, LeBlancs and Deveaus. |
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skconqueror
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| Posted: Sat Mar 21, 2009 1:59 am Post subject: |
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| Underwaterbob wrote: |
| Otherside wrote: |
| IlIlNine wrote: |
The funny thing is, if you do change your name to match your husband's other Koreans might joke that your relationship is incestuous (though obviously not, since you're foreign). Korean husbands and brides very rarely have the same last name for this reason. |
You've got to be kidding me? I mean Korea's the one place where you have a 1 in 4 shot of marrying a man/woman with the same surname as you. In another country it might make for an interesting story how two people met who happened to have the same surnames (originally) in Korea, if you are Kim, you've got a 1 in 4 shot, Lee, 1 in 6, Park 1 in 8...and another 10 or so names with atleast a 1 in 20 shot. |
Not the only place. It's not a country, but a town called Pubnico in Nova Scotia, Canada. The phone book for the area has 12 pages of d'Entremonts and 5 pages of d'Eons, with a smattering of Boudreaus, Comeaus, LeBlancs and Deveaus. |
you really arent comparing a "town" of less than 10,000 to a country of 40 million are you? |
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OiGirl
Joined: 23 Jan 2003
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| Posted: Wed Mar 25, 2009 10:57 pm Post subject: |
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You are not a Korean citizen, right? If you have a foreign citizenship and want to change your name, then change it in your own country, following whatever guidelines they have, and get a new passport. With your new passport with your new name, go get a new ARC to reflect your name change.
Korea is not going to change your name for you. Your name is whatever it says on your passport. |
Seriously. I think the OP hasn't really thought this through.
The only place you can get your name legally changed is your home country. Go through the process there and then get a new passport and come back to Korea and get a new ARC. It's a bit of a hassle, but then again, so is marriage. |
You don't need to "go home" to complete this process. You can apply for a new passport with your embassy here, then take that to Immigration with your marriage certificate and get a new ARC with your new name. |
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loggerhead007
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| Do yourself a BIG favor and do not marry a K-dude. At least for quite some time. Ask Korean woman their opinion and consider it. I'm not racist, but I know more than one k-gal that has told me they would never marry a k-dude. Good luck |
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livinginkunsan
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| Posted: Thu Mar 26, 2009 9:13 pm Post subject: |
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| Do yourself a BIG favor and do not marry a K-dude. At least for quite some time. Ask Korean woman their opinion and consider it. I'm not racist, but I know more than one k-gal that has told me they would never marry a k-dude. Good luck |
+1 (don't ruin your life) |
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Faunaki
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| Posted: Thu Mar 26, 2009 9:23 pm Post subject: |
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| loggerhead007 wrote: |
| Do yourself a BIG favor and do not marry a K-dude. At least for quite some time. Ask Korean woman their opinion and consider it. I'm not racist, but I know more than one k-gal that has told me they would never marry a k-dude. Good luck |
Sorry gotta disagree there. The old ajosshis were pretty crap but the new batch is better than most of the natives back home. |
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Countrygirl
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| Posted: Fri Mar 27, 2009 12:27 am Post subject: |
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| Faunaki wrote: |
| loggerhead007 wrote: |
| Do yourself a BIG favor and do not marry a K-dude. At least for quite some time. Ask Korean woman their opinion and consider it. I'm not racist, but I know more than one k-gal that has told me they would never marry a k-dude. Good luck |
Sorry gotta disagree there. The old ajosshis were pretty crap but the new batch is better than most of the natives back home. |
There's always someone who comes on these posts to make some generalization about Korean men. They are also the same people who can't stand that Korean people stereotype us.
My husband has his faults but not what is always blasted on this forum. We've made it 11 years. It hasn't always been great but we loved each other and I would never regret marrying him. He's my best friend and I know that he considers me the same. If we parted ways tomorrow I wouldn't regret one day. I learned so much, I've become stronger, and we have two beautiful children who love their father very much.
I changed my name to his because we had kids. If we had planned on kids I never would have done it. If we divorce then I will take back my maiden name and never change it again. The great thing about a Korean guy is that the last name is never an issue. I was married in Korea but changed it in Canada.
ps. If you have a more Asian sounding name like Choi (as opposed to Kim) it's awesome to see people freak out when they meet you because they thought you would be Asian or Gyopo. |
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sineface
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Location: C'est magnifique
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| Posted: Fri Mar 27, 2009 2:06 am Post subject: |
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| Countrygirl wrote: |
| Faunaki wrote: |
| loggerhead007 wrote: |
| Do yourself a BIG favor and do not marry a K-dude. At least for quite some time. Ask Korean woman their opinion and consider it. I'm not racist, but I know more than one k-gal that has told me they would never marry a k-dude. Good luck |
Sorry gotta disagree there. The old ajosshis were pretty crap but the new batch is better than most of the natives back home. |
There's always someone who comes on these posts to make some generalization about Korean men. They are also the same people who can't stand that Korean people stereotype us.
My husband has his faults but not what is always blasted on this forum. We've made it 11 years. It hasn't always been great but we loved each other and I would never regret marrying him. He's my best friend and I know that he considers me the same. If we parted ways tomorrow I wouldn't regret one day. I learned so much, I've become stronger, and we have two beautiful children who love their father very much.
I changed my name to his because we had kids. If we had planned on kids I never would have done it. If we divorce then I will take back my maiden name and never change it again. The great thing about a Korean guy is that the last name is never an issue. I was married in Korea but changed it in Canada.
ps. If you have a more Asian sounding name like Choi (as opposed to Kim) it's awesome to see people freak out when they meet you because they thought you would be Asian or Gyopo. |
You wrote that very nicely. I don't quite understand what this thread has degenerated into, but clearly a happy marriage lies in not marrying singularly according to nationality or race. |
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Countrygirl
Joined: 19 Nov 2007
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| Posted: Fri Mar 27, 2009 5:29 am Post subject: |
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| sineface wrote: |
| Countrygirl wrote: |
| Faunaki wrote: |
| loggerhead007 wrote: |
| Do yourself a BIG favor and do not marry a K-dude. At least for quite some time. Ask Korean woman their opinion and consider it. I'm not racist, but I know more than one k-gal that has told me they would never marry a k-dude. Good luck |
Sorry gotta disagree there. The old ajosshis were pretty crap but the new batch is better than most of the natives back home. |
There's always someone who comes on these posts to make some generalization about Korean men. They are also the same people who can't stand that Korean people stereotype us.
My husband has his faults but not what is always blasted on this forum. We've made it 11 years. It hasn't always been great but we loved each other and I would never regret marrying him. He's my best friend and I know that he considers me the same. If we parted ways tomorrow I wouldn't regret one day. I learned so much, I've become stronger, and we have two beautiful children who love their father very much.
I changed my name to his because we had kids. If we had planned on kids I never would have done it. If we divorce then I will take back my maiden name and never change it again. The great thing about a Korean guy is that the last name is never an issue. I was married in Korea but changed it in Canada.
ps. If you have a more Asian sounding name like Choi (as opposed to Kim) it's awesome to see people freak out when they meet you because they thought you would be Asian or Gyopo. |
You wrote that very nicely. I don't quite understand what this thread has degenerated into, but clearly a happy marriage lies in not marrying singularly according to nationality or race. |
Thanks. I always thought that if I screwed up marrying a Korean I probably would have screwed up marrying a Canadian. Can't escape yourself too much no matter how far you travel.
By the way, I meant to say that if we hadn't planned on having kids I wouldn't have changed my name....the English teacher in me never takes a break
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loggerhead007
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| Posted: Fri Mar 27, 2009 5:33 am Post subject: |
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Guys, guys, guys. I didn't mean to generalize. I'm sorry if you're offended. But please ask an older (45+) Korean woman how SOME of them were treated just one generation ago. Seeing a lady smacked all around the street was not uncommon. And then ask them how they fare in a divorce. Much like a guy in the U.S. All you get is out. However, my k-gal has been seperated from her abusive, cheating, raping, strangling husband for 16 years and she said woman can now get up to 30% of their joint holdings upon divorce. K-men have a sense of entilement that goes back thousands of years to when kings had hundreds of wives all around their palace and "chose" who they "loved" on any particular evening. Check your history. Speak to an elder. They don't bite. Well not all of them. And, contrary to popular belief, life does not end at 40. In fact, that's when ladies become woman. Live awhile, and remember........
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blackjack
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| Posted: Fri Mar 27, 2009 5:40 am Post subject: |
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| op pm tzechuk get some decent advice, don't listen to the racist sh** on this board. If you want to change your last name do it. Contact your embassy/home government. should be no more problem than changing it back home. you will need a new passport etc |
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Countrygirl
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| Posted: Fri Mar 27, 2009 2:28 pm Post subject: |
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| loggerhead007 wrote: |
Guys, guys, guys. I didn't mean to generalize. I'm sorry if you're offended. But please ask an older (45+) Korean woman how SOME of them were treated just one generation ago. Seeing a lady smacked all around the street was not uncommon. And then ask them how they fare in a divorce. Much like a guy in the U.S. All you get is out. However, my k-gal has been seperated from her abusive, cheating, raping, strangling husband for 16 years and she said woman can now get up to 30% of their joint holdings upon divorce. K-men have a sense of entilement that goes back thousands of years to when kings had hundreds of wives all around their palace and "chose" who they "loved" on any particular evening. Check your history. Speak to an elder. They don't bite. Well not all of them. And, contrary to popular belief, life does not end at 40. In fact, that's when ladies become woman. Live awhile, and remember........
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Sounds like one of those poorly made after-school specials or an episode of 'Cops'.
More than likely your K-gal knew her husband 3 months before she married him or it was an arranged marriage.
The Korean guys that you describe would not go out of their way to court an English speaking foreigner who will likely not put up with that type of crap and have the resources to fight back and leave.
The women that you want to warn are the Vietnamese and other foreigners from poor countries who come here and marry the uneducated farmer who still thinks like that. Actually that reminds me of a special on Alaskan men who had mail-order brides from the Philippines.
But you're right, the fact that Korean kings could have their pick of women 100 years ago is a good reason for all Korean/foreigner women to avoid the Korean male. Just like it would be appropriate for your K-gal's friends to warn her about the dangers of marrying an American male based on media and movies. |
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