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[Aelric]

Only three weeks in country I hooked up with what was easily the prettiest girls I ever dated. Being on of the hopeless romantic types, I gave it an honest go and we were together exclusively for two months. She seemed to have some pretty severe issues that didn't anifest themselves until a month into the relationship. Examples include but are not limited to:

When outside, she would walk ahead of me, not make eye contact or talk for fear of being seen with a foreigner

She would berate me for not making money the biggest priority in my life.

She couldn't understand how I can be nearly 30 and not want to get married, but rather just have a committed relationship without children.

Didn't understand why I argued against plastic surgery (she was pretty enough).

and here is the kicker that broke it off: she seemed to think she had...ahem...ball kicking rights as a funny funny joke without warning.

Now, this was all in the last month of our time together. The first month was so good that I suffered though it hoping it was Aunt Flo with a vengeance or something. Now, I haven't hooked up since then (we broke up in December, That was a fun night) and I'm wondering how much of that was Korean women and how much of that was Bloody Mary crazy.

If you have any horror stories due to the cultural differences or otherwise post them here. Did any pull a switcheroo on you a ways into it like my ex did? Where the cultural differences too much of a personality clash? Did it get difficult but then work out wonderfully? I pose this to both male and female waegookin who have dated Korean men or women. [/list]

[Aelric]

P.S. This is not meant for Korean bashing, so try to keep it civil.

Wait, this is a internet forum, that request is a long lost cause.

[Return Jones]

I'm not trying to flame you or be an arrogant poster, but this thread is seriously redundant. You're better off reading the dozens and dozens of Korea relationship threads in the archives.

That being said, you asked if the problems were cultural or individual. I would say a little from column a and a little from column b. Be a man. Carry on and find a new woman and see what happens...

[ppcg4]

I've got the same kind of thing with my current girl, but not like you. She gets upset if I'm not constantly holding her hand in public. Fine by me; I'm happy to be seen with her. One time she even got mad at me for not looking at her on the subway. (I was trying to read a sign since I'm trying to learn Korean)

She does however dig her nails into me often. And I do mean dig. She's given me a few scars. After me asking her nicely not to, I began to get mad, and this caused fights. Finally we came to an agreement that she could do it, as long as it didn't break the friggin skin.

Anyway, I've dated a few girls here, and I say it comes down to a bit of cultural differences, and also personality differences. Each girl is different, but I do notice one thing among the Korean girls I've dated: they are demanding and want constant attention. That fits me pretty well, since I take pleasure in treating a girl like a queen... but sometimes it can be a bit much.

Anyway, that's my 2 cents. I'm sure a few people on this board will remember all the BS that I've had with this girl since we started dating in November. It's now been 6 months. That's how long it took to build understanding. And we still tick each other off once in a while.

I find the key is to find the right one, and stick with her, and do your best no matter what. That's what I've been doing, and we're better than ever. For now.

[jotgarden]

My woman had a dream that she was in a play, and for some reason I was boycotting the play outside with a group of Koreans. She woke up angry and instantly realized it was a dream, and there was no boycott, but she didn't understand where the Koreans came from, so she asked me "Where did you meet all those Koreans?" She's still a little angry at me for the boycott.

[Underwaterbob]

Wow. Kicks to the balls. Digging fingernails into you unto bleeding. This is not acceptable behavior in any relationship regardless of country. (Unless of course you're into that sort of thing.) The crap some guys will put up with for a pretty face.

[Rory_Calhoun27]

[roadwork]

I was wondering about the digging the fingernails into you. Was this during sex? Random? When she was pissed off? That's wierd behavior!

[Xuanzang]

Pain and S&M look like good options for the nail digger.

[jotgarden]

[bobbybigfoot]

In defense of Korean girls...

The girl I have been dating for the better part of a year is sweet as pie. More thoughtful than any other girl I've dated -- she always brings a gift when she comes to my apt (fruit, beer, donuts, kimchi etc..). I didn't have winter gloves and needed to buy some. Boom. Showed up with gloves the next time I saw her. She would never hit me, berate me, walk behind me or in front of me.

She'll go anywhere and do anything I am interested in, and do so happily. When we go out, she is always willing to pay, and never forgets to say thank you when treated. Text messages are always replied promptly.

Her only drawbacks are due to her upbringing: completely sheltered and little to no real life experience. She will also never stand up to her mother. Whatever mom says goes.

There are some wonderful Korean girls out there. Keep looking. That being said, there are some nutjobs out there too. Learn to separate the wheat from the chaff quickly.

[Aelric]

[TheUrbanMyth]

[Xuanzang]

[Darkray16]

I've dated a few koreans before and from my experience they like doing things that they know is painful, uncomfortable, or both just because they enjoy having the power to do so.

I'm not saying all Korean women are like this. I think it's a cultural trend, and so it doesn't apply to all, but I do see it quite often.

They like their control over you and enjoy abusing it occasionally. That being said, my wife bites my lips pretty damn hard but she doesn't do it often so I don't mind.