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aboxofchocolates · Joined: 21 Mar 2008 Location: on your mind

I'm having trouble developing goals, let alone achieving them. But I have met a few goal oriented people before, and it seems to go like this:
Define specifically what you want.
Find out exactly what it is you need to get it.
Drudge through those two above before you even start thinking about trying anything.
Do the stuff you have to.
Set more goals.
Sort of like losing weight. Everyone knows you need to eat less crud and exercise more. The trick is doing it.
Good luck!

Draz · Joined: 27 Jun 2007 Location: Land of Morning Clam

Goku · Joined: 10 Dec 2008

There's nothing wrong with it. Most of us don't have motivating desires. We live pretty content lives and are okay with the status quo.

We can eat, have a home, and pretty much all our survival needs are met. We don't have a true motivation to do things that "would be nice".

Similarly Molly, I've always wanted to open my own cafe or restaurant. I've always some innovative and great ways to attract customers and have original foods and create wonderful environments.

But disrupting my current lifestyle for a chance to do this wouldn't be worth the pros over the cons.

now, let's say I'm starving have no job, and the only way I see to survive is making my restaurant, then you would see making huge decisions and big life changes.

If you want it bad enough, you can alter your own perceptions and say to yourself... this is my only choice, this is the only way for me to survive. Just takes a little reworking of your own perceptions and yielding your natural instincts of survival to work to motivate you.

MollyBloom · Joined: 21 Jul 2006 Location: James Joyce's pants

AmericanExile · Joined: 04 May 2009

I did have a college prof who also ran an antique shop that was only open a a couple days a week.

As far as motivation, become a list person. Crossing things off a list is really satisfying. Part of the trick is to make things on the list small. Don't write - organize the house. Write - organize bedroom closet -organize kitchen cabinets and etc. Nothing so big it overwhelms your brain, and more things to cross out means more ego satisfaction.